It could have been different if only he'd lent me some his hole puncher.?

Question

How much do you think i should put into the collection box for someone @ work who's died when i never liked them anyway.

Answer 1

$5

Answer 2

In a situation like this, I've avoided the collector(s). I worked in a place where a lot of gang members were related and were being gunned down and I didn't know many of them who were killed but there were collections for the parent who was my co-worker. It was odd to me to have a collection done like this. I have given money in a card to people holding funerals, but to collect at work where it wasn't anonymous and were I was being coerced was out of line in my book.

So, when I said I couldn't afford to help (which really was true, I had bought wrapping paper and magazines and Girl Scout cookies from these people's kids already). I was told that no one would help me when I was in the same boat. Which made me wonder if my family (in another state) would even know anyone from where I worked. I couldn't imagine my family depending on a collection from work to help pay for my cremation.

I felt that the coercion was the most out of line thing I had ever experienced in my life!

So if you're feeling coerced, you might do what I did while in New York city. I would put my change in my back pocket and when I was asked to help a person I'd reach in my back pocket and whatever came out was what they got. Instead of being cursed and cussed at I was given blessings and thanked, even if it was only six cents! So I say if the repercussions are worse than giving a little, give as little as you can.

BUT, I would try to find it in my heart to find some redeeming quality of the recently departed, if only to make you ready for any discussion about his "untimely death."

Peace.

Answer 3

nothing, but DON'T LET ANYONE KNOW! if necessary, flash a hundred, on the outside of a single (hm... maybe a twenty, or even a five - if the hundred doesn't show up, when the box is opened, people will become suspicious... of course you could always blame someone everyone dislikes for stealing it... "i wondered what bob was doing with a screwdriver and the collection box, but in my christian charity, i assumed he was just making change, or, perhaps, widening the opening, that he might put his whole wad in! the cad!"), drop the single in, with some noise, and palm the other bill.

Answer 4

I'm actually in a similar situation. Someone at my school died recently. He was a wannabe gangster and he wore the grills in his teeth and the big over sized t-shirt... the whole thing turned me off. I was in class with him (he's a year older than me and fell to a lower Spanish class) and he came off as an idiot.

He got gunned down three days ago. I don't know what to think. I decided not to be rude to the people who choose to mourn him.

How much to put in? At least something.

Answer 5

You should give something ($5-10 depending one what everyone else is doing) or honestly do something on your own. You may not have gotten along but would you wish them dead?

Maybe make a $20-50 donation to a charity on their behalf. Or what ever amount you are comfortable with.

Answer 6

Put something. Whatever you put helps. Lets say that it was you who died, I'm pretty sure someone doesn't like you either but will put money in the collection box anyway. You need to learn how to empathize.

Answer 7

Doesn't matter if you liked them or not - the living might be watching ;-) Try to match whatever everyone else is donating.

Answer 8

omg your Q is funny.

Give them what their hole puncher is worth. ?? I don't know. Will anyone even know if you don't contribute?

Answer 9

only give because you want to and not out of guilt.. he is gone anyway......his wife is only going to buy booze with it anyway

Answer 10

I thinkk about the same as everyone else