Tonight we hung out at my friend's house, and of course, her slutty younger sister is there. He spent a lot of the night talking to her, and even sat next to her on the couch while I was in the chair talking to my friend (female friend, by the way), even though there wasn't much room for him, so he went out of his way. I think they had more one-on-one talk time together then I had with him that night.
So then when we all went to a late-night diner, we were carpooling and I realized I only had room for three people in my car because I had so much stuff in it. And of course, my friend's sister is coming along too. I'm telling another friend that he can't ride with me, because I don't have room for four. So the guy I'm seeing yells, "YEAH YA DO!" and starts pushing all of my stuff onto the floor of my car, and calls her over. Then my other friend calls shotgun, so he sits back there with her. They were talking 1-on-1 on a lot away from everyone else. What should I do?
2006-08-19 20:48:26 · 13 answers · asked by Eri 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I should mention the fact that I do have a bit of a commitment phobia. This may be me just looking for a way to get out of a relationship. But then again, maybe this is a warning sign to get out before it's too late? I don't know!
2006-08-19 20:49:41 · update #1
I'd ditch him. He's paying the slutty younger sister more attention than he is you, he trashed your stuff to make room for her, and he sat next to her in the car...I'd be hearing warning bells.
2006-08-19 20:53:10 · answer #1 · answered by mytreacheryiseternal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how far along your relationship with this guy is should determine your next step. If it is just starting out... oh boy is this a bad start. But if you have been dating for a while, it may be that he was just chatting with someone her percieved as friendly. (you know your friends sister is slutty... but does he?)
So, if you have been dating for a while, chat with him about how it all made you feel. Be sure to do it without getting super emotional to where he would think he'd be better off without a pyscho chick threatoning to casterate him and all... give him the benefit of the doubt.
Of course, there also must be something in him that makes you believe he "would" cheat on you... so perhaps this relationship isn't standing on solid ground. The next play is yours... and it is difficult for me to say dump him when I am not really knowledgable about the events.
Talk to him... feel him out... and also drop a hint to your friends sister that he is dating you and you want it to be serious so she should keep her mits to other guys...
2006-08-19 20:58:09 · answer #2 · answered by Whatev' Yo' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 11:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends...were they flirting or just talking? see (no offense guys) guys can be pretty dumb sometimes and not realize when a girl is coming on to him. he really could have had a conversation with this girl and made a new friend. if he really likes u and this dating thing between you two is serious or getting there then chances are he still wants only you. i think you should ask him, not in a jealous rage or anything like that just casually bring up tonight's events and see what his reaction is, if you want u can mention that u "missed him" cause u hardly got to talk to him...give it a try...hope things work out for you.
2006-08-19 20:57:39 · answer #4 · answered by svu_telly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move on. Sounds like he is. If you have a commitment phobia then it is time for you to work on yourself alone for awhile. Until you figure out why you have these phobia. Being alone and figuring out who you are is a good thing. Once you figure that out then maybe you can find someone who fits the type of person you want to be with.
2006-08-19 20:59:31 · answer #5 · answered by Sammy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
commitment phobia or not it sounds like he's more interested in the younger sister then you, I'd dump him too. Or atleast talk to him about it first and go from there.
2006-08-19 20:55:06 · answer #6 · answered by Abtsolutely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your friend did call shotgun, where was he supposed to sit? your friend should of sat in the back, now i wouldnt dump him on those grounds, but if he was getting "chummy" like extremely close to her, giggling, flirting, long periods of eye contact, showing more interest in her than in you, i would ask him whats up and call it quits if it happened again, next time just allow yourself to sit on the couch with him, dont let your friends ride up front, hes your man.
but on those grounds, i wouldnt dump him, i mean you were in a chair, he had to sit on the couch, your friend called shot gun, he had to sit in the back, i mean?
2006-08-19 20:55:30 · answer #7 · answered by Xavier's Mommy ツ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
END IT NOW! It sounds like he's into the slutty younger sister, or at least he wants to hook up with her, and in that case he's definitely not good enough for you.
2006-08-19 20:53:04 · answer #8 · answered by Vixen Kitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself some more time to consider that. Probably a time frame of 1 to 2 weeks. Meanwhile, observe more carefully your own feelings towards him rather than his behaviour towards others.... do you really love him?
2006-08-19 20:55:00 · answer #9 · answered by Ah Huay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a tough one... well you should definetly talk to him about that night. check for signals that he is either not interested or cheating. if all of those thing go the wrong way then definetly end it
2006-08-19 20:57:50 · answer #10 · answered by Nika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋