my best friend's fiance told me that a men never feel love ... they just stick to women who are comforting and easy to manage.
they get married only when they feel lonely.
he told me that men who used to talk about love are stupid jerks or maybe they just misunderstand their feelings
my boyfriend says he loves me do you think he is a liar?
2006-08-19 20:30:27 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
misconception.
misinterpretation.
BIG mistake.
No offense meant but in fairness to the male world, I totally disagree with all those negativities.
I am a woman and I know a man can love a woman more than she'll ever know.
I know since I've seen men struggled, fought just to win the heart of his queen, brokenhearted and stood up again in the name of love.
my boyfriend says he loves me do you think he is a liar?
No,not at all.Being honest about his feelings towards you doesn't make him less of a man least,a liar..that's just not fair.
Feel him for who he is when with you and not see him with what others has to say...you are his gf in as much as he is your bf,not theirs :)
2006-08-19 21:02:24 · answer #1 · answered by cascadingrainbows 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I happen to be a man, so let me give you some feedback. In the past, there have been women who I thought I was in love with, but it was something shallow (infatuation perhaps?). Having said that, I've never been with a woman long enough to know what love is like. There are lots of men who like to "play the field", who don't care about love and who feel they don't need it. There are also men like myself (however many there are is anyone's guess) that want nothing more than to be loved by a woman, and to love them in return. And, yes, part of love is sex. The moral of the story is that all men aren't animals (just as all women aren't gold diggers). As for your boyfriend, I'd have no idea as to whether he is or isn't lying. I don't know him, nor do I know the situation between you and him. Is there a reason he would lie to you about loving you? Has he ever done anything that would cause you to mistrust him? If he has, then there's reason to doubt him. Otherwise, there isn't.
2006-08-20 03:50:57 · answer #2 · answered by Brian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know what,maybe your best friend's fiance had an experience with a "fake" nice guy. The ones who pretend to be nice but later on,they're just jerks.
and with my own experience,i believe men have more feelings than women. I remember when i got my heart shoved back to my face, I wanted to jump off the building. That's what people do. They leap, and hope to God they can fly, because otherwise you just drop like a rock, wondering the whole way down, why in the *hell* did I jump? And the only person that could make me fly was the girl I really adore.
so yes,a man can love
2006-08-20 03:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes a man can love! The person that said that is someone that is too uncomfortable releasing control of their emotions. They dont want others to know that they can be hurt by others. I've known guys that have said similar things, and my oh my did they change when they found someone that understood them, and wanted the same things out of life.
This guy is just bitter because women dont like him. He seeks their company to fullfill his need for physical intimacy and thats all it is to him. When he finally finds a woman (if he ever does) that has similar interests... and he stops being so immature... he might fall in love
I have to say... I can't pretend to know whether or not your boyfriend loves you. All I can do is be optimistic and hope that he does. I personally... am a guy..and I have loved several women. I wouldn't marry any of them, but I know I loved them because, even to today... they have a spot in my heart.
Let me define what I think "love" is.
Loving someone else means that you care about them nearly as much as you care about yourself, maybe even more. I personally believe that if you love another person, you care more about their well being than your own. Thats the simplified version. If you think this applies to your boyfriend... then I think he loves you. If this doesn't apply to you... then .... you can blame my messed up version of what love is.... and then you can go on your merry little way believing he loves you.
Id like to believe he does love you.
2006-08-20 03:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by the_thoughtless_ponderer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your best friend's finance is an ***. He evidently thinks with the wrong head. Love is an emotion and men have emotions the same as women. That would be like me asking if a woman can hate. The only one that knows if your boyfriend loves you is your boyfriend.
2006-08-20 03:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by Mav 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
men can love, they usually realize it when they go crazy after seperation or break up, i know i went through it, i use to think i didn't love and that it was just a comfort thing, but yes men can love. Also learned that honesty and trust is the most important thing in a relationship. love is real and yes men can love. he probably just says that cause he is in love, but trying to keep his manly cold hearted pride.
2006-08-20 03:37:01 · answer #6 · answered by valentin32 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a man can love my dear. your friends fiance is in for a lonely long life if that is the way he thinks. Your boyfriend loves you so you should not worry.
2006-08-20 03:35:32 · answer #7 · answered by say_what!!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got to have *trust* in a loving relationship. There are individual differences among guys, as much as gals.
If your boyfriend says he loves you, so he does!
2006-08-20 03:36:32 · answer #8 · answered by Timeless - watcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that was true, that would be great! But, here in the real world... Men do fall in love!
2006-08-20 03:35:57 · answer #9 · answered by wittster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah in a way she is right but not totally. They have a different way to express love but they are not sensless human beings after all. I wouldn't stand a too loving guy anyway he would suffocate me...
2006-08-20 03:35:13 · answer #10 · answered by Pearl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋