i am gay and 13 years old.?

Question

I WANT TO HAVE A SNOG FROM ATLEAST A MAN OR A SEXY BOY! I NEVER HAD THAT! I AM TOO YOUNG FOR A GAY BAR! CAN I HAVE SOME HELP ON WHERE TO FIND GAY MEN/BOYS?

Answer 1

your only 13 how do you know you are gay ? most people go through stages in there life where they fall for someone there own sex .... give it time before you label yourself gay you may not be but if you are i hope you do find some caring person and not get used please be very careful who you do talk to on the net about it as they may not be who they say they are and good luck

Answer 2

It's hard, I would imagine, to be gay and a teen. Until you can go to the gay bar (which aren't always that great, sometimes the men there can be really nasty, according to my friends. A lot of them are Bears, if you know what that means.) you'll just have to meet boys, and try to get a feel for their sexuality. You'll need to meet guys through friends and such. Once you have a few gay friends from your school, hopefully they'll know some gay guys at other schools...and you'll be able to broaden your circle.

However, I'd wait until you're in high school before dating. It's not REAL dating until then, anyway. Middle school will be hell if you come out to everyone then, so wait until High School, where it will only be hell some of the time. It will also give you time to think about all of this. I've had a few friends who thought they were gay, only to realize...not so much.

Oh, and turn off the caps. ^_^

Best of luck!

Answer 3

I am 49 years old and I am not gay and I have little experience of the gay scene although I do have some gay friends (all male). I don't think that I am in touch with any lesbians these days.

My standard advice to everyone is, "Through experimentation, find ways of being yourself without causing problems for other people wherever this is possible, but try not to bite off more than you can chew".

I think that you need the guidance and advice of older and wiser gay men, but please don't allow yourself to be manipulated into being a sex toy by sensation hungry gay men who care about little other than immediate gratification and where their next sex fix is comming from. These men may appear to love you but what they realy love is your naivety and your compliance. And you may need love so much that you settle for this poor substitute. Don't settle for anything less than the kind of love that puts other people first. Otherwise one day you too will become a sex junky. At the moment you are a love adict but unfortunately you are adicted to the wrong kind of love. Please search for real love of the kind that values you and your personality and not the kind of love that likes what you can do for the "lover". Please don't become a sex addict and please don't hand psychological damage to the next generation of young gay men.

Or is the life of a gay sex addict really so good that you have no interest in exploring life looking for better ways of living? I personally have no ideas how fantastic sex can be between two completely uninhibited sex hungry and sensation hungry gay men. And I probably will never know. But if when you try it that it is so f_cking mind blowing that everything else ceases to matter and if you want to repeat this ind of experience over and over for the rest of your life. Then go for it with my blessing. But perhaps there is more to life. Filling your life with orgasms may keep the pain away but I personally think that pain should be faced and dealt with.

Is it possible that a gay orientation actually arises from certain kinds of emotional pain and distress? If that pain and distress are faced and dealt with will the gayness fade away. I am not saying that homosexuality causes any obvious problems but I am saying that I personally would like homosexuality to be a choice and not a compulsion.

And don't forget to try out some gay advice lines!

Martin Camden.

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Answer 4

I would say this in a heat beat to straight 13 who wanted to jump into pants of everything that moved, if you don't put some caution into your life , than it well become most unpleasant.
There are many screwed up people looking for 13 year old who thinks they know it all and acts the way your acting right now. They want to use you abuse you and many will kill you. Slow down your moving too fast.
What feelings you have in your personal life is your business. When you start broadcasting to the world you're opening yourself to much grief, and this person is sick of seeing on new or in papers what can happen.

Answer 5

Judging from the title, you seem to be unsure if you're gay (and, for that matter, if you're 13). You can find out your age by checking your birth records. About your confusion regarding whether you're gay, I can't help you with that (sorry). By the way, what's a snog?

Answer 6

I wouldn't label yourself gay just yet you are just 13!
Why R U even thinking about this kind of stuff at this age?
I would put all of the gay or not and sex stuff out of your head and just be a kid, school is starting join some club or after school sports. Good Luck

Answer 7

r u sure u r, I'm not disputing what u say but at age 13 every1 has lots of different thought and emotions going thro them, my advise is to just wait till ur a lil bit older and until u have lived ur live a bit more before worrying about kissing people and all the stuff that goes with it
but i wish u well whatever

Answer 8

at 13 you should only be looking for gay boys not men

Answer 9

too young to know if u r a gay or not... in your age, we see many things in a wrong way..

Answer 10

Prison when the FBI tracks you down trying to lure kids.