My ex and I broke up when I left for college because the long-distance was too hard for him to handle. We remained very close friends and I still am madly in love with him. I recently found out he had a new girlfriend and it broke my heart. I told him I can't talk to him anymore and he broke down saying that he loves me and wants to be with me...its just so hard because I am so far away. He confessed his passion and love for me...saying that he wants to be with me but we are just both living separate lives right now. I don't know what to do because I still love him so much and strongly feel like we will get back together someday. Does he realy still love me and is using this new girl for sex? He calls me all the time to check in and see how I am..tells me he misses me ad everything. I am so confused and emotionally torn! Any advice?
2006-08-19 20:03:30 · 11 answers · asked by Janie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like he still loves you, but not enough to respect you. True love has respect as well. If he really loves you, he will remain attached to you and only you.
That old saying you can't have your cake and eat it too is very apt for this situation as it is exactly what he is trying to do.
You need to move on. It's harsh and it's horrible but it's life. Many of us have been done there and done that, so sad to say, you are in good company.
2006-08-19 20:10:41 · answer #1 · answered by suzanne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer...you just answered it yourself. He probably does love you and would rather be with you, but some guys can handle long distance and the committment w/out having the girl around much. I dunno what to say really. If I were in your shoes, I'd move on as best as I could. and if you guys get back togehter someday, then great. But you are living separate lives...try and make the most of it.
2006-08-19 20:09:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but this guy sounds like a wimp...I know you love him and everything but I think you should move on. If you were important enough to him in his life, he would find a way to be with you, end of story. As for the new girl, if he is really using her, which it sounds like he is, he's a tool. Do you really want to be with somebody who has no problem using somebody else in that way? Do you think that he would not use you too? He can't have things both ways.
2006-08-22 20:22:27 · answer #3 · answered by jellybean24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he's lying... it sounds like he didnt even try to make your relationship work, although he does sound like he still cares for you enough to call you so much. i still think that if he cared for you that much though, he should have at least tried to make the relationship work. and the fact that he hs another girlfriend doesnt make his side look any better. my friends also tried a long distance relationship but that didnt work during the school year when she was away and so they just took a break for that time and just got back together for the summer when they saw each other.
i think your ex cares, but not enough. i think you should move on and find someone else at your college that's better for you
2006-08-19 20:16:05 · answer #4 · answered by baby bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me nd my ex are in the same cituation. However, we decided to be long distance friends until we graduate from college. If the romantic feelings are still ther then we will see what happens. You shouldn't put yourself through too much stress over this. If you two are meant to be , then in the end you will be.
2006-08-19 20:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by CHAD K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he can always love u deep down but needed to find someone eles because it was a distant relationship and he couldn't do it or he is a tipical male and is trying to play u and the other chick thinks he's just w/her.
2006-08-19 20:15:54 · answer #6 · answered by the babys moma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Handling a long-distance relationship isn't like handling 14 bags of groceries in one trip. If he loves you, it's no problem. Do I need to finish my stupid analogy?
2006-08-19 20:08:42 · answer #7 · answered by dfhggd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a pity if he is in fact in love with you and using this other girl. She will be deeply hurt. He is a heel.
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2006-08-19 20:09:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone new. he doesn't love you if he is active with other girls...
you know, he could just jerk off and not f*ck other girls...
get over him and tell him to go to h*ll for what he did!
you deserve better!!!!
2006-08-19 20:11:31 · answer #9 · answered by olga z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF THIS IS GOING ON THEN HE ISN'T WORTH HAVING, OUST HIM GET RID OF HIM. GOOD LUCK
2006-08-19 20:46:32 · answer #10 · answered by bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋