Is he losing interest?

Question

We're in a long-distance, serious relationship, and live about 4 hours away from each other. We've been together for almost a year.

Lately I think he's been stressed out from working mad overtime at his job, and transferring to another college. We talk every day via IM, but he's gradually been less talkative over the past month or so. Most of the conversation is emoting affectionate gestures to each other. Granted, this is nice, but I prefer more conversation. He apologizes for being "boring" and worn out, and one of our mutual IM buddies agrees that he seems out of it. Still, I've been giving him a lot of space because it seems like he needs it.

He tells me he loves me every day. But I'm worrying myself sick wondering why he isn't talking much. I feel like he might not enjoy me as much as he used to. I'm afraid to ask about it because I don't want to sound needy or clingy. I really want to trust that he's just tired, but it's very difficult and it's really been stressing me out.

I truly appreciate everyone's input!

Answer 1

HE wont lose intrest if you take little more effort.

Long distance relationship always takes a big toll in the couple. It is natural. The only way you can preserve aura of love is by talking to him.

He expects you to be there when he really needs you and viceversa right ? so spend max time with him - i mean spend weekends together, and make it a custom to call him often.

if he is stressed out he wont be having the mindset to call you up.

He loves you, but the intensity may have reduced coz you are away. It might have been hard for him to be away. May be he took a decission to lower the energy levels.

Dont demand anything to him now, u gave him space, now pls give him confort and attention.

Your attention will bring back the sparks in his eyes.

Answer 2

Long distance relationships can be very challenging. Too many things can go through the mind that are just plain not happening.

That said, one way to gauge the temperature is for y'all to get together every so often to actually speak and see each other face to face.

Another thing that could be going on, especially with all that is going on, is that he might be feeling a little crowded at the moment. Again, you'll get a better sense of this by getting together.

For now, you might try easing off a little and see if he keeps up communicating with you or if you're having to track him down more.

I know when things get intense for me, sometimes, I just need some time to think and sort things out.

Best of luck that it all works out!

Answer 3

look !

there's a say in my country witch i believe ( the one who is far from the eyes is also far from the heart )

so that logique cause u r so far no matter that it's only 4 hours but the result that u can not see him whenever u want !

so u have to put the oppotunity that he may play a little, and he's bd treatment mean that he feel gulty !
that could be and when he tell u that he loves u all day this prove what i'm telling !

my advice to u that u have to do something to get back ur man again ( i mean something crazy or unusuall )
have u tried to go to him as a surprise ?

think then act !!

wish to ur brain to relax!
and always at ur servise!

Answer 4

Speaking as someone who is in a long distance relationship himself I dont think it would be a bad idea for you two to get some together time. It would be in the best interest to have a day together just you and him. when you are with him dont expect to do all those romantic things be happy with just laying on the couch or something. Just be happy you are there in his arms he will be happy you are there.

Answer 5

Get on with the idea that you two dont have much time left as a couple. You are just protecting yourself here..long distance-->stress-->a year-->THAT"S NOT THAT SERIOUS.

Answer 6

Suprise and see him one day soon.

That should "refresh" ur relationship.