I love this guy... he's 18 though almost 19... I'm younger... I know it's illegal, but I've never felt this good before, and he understands that I don't want to have sex until mariage and everything like that... He's moving here next year to be with me, so I need to know fast... Please don't answer if all your going to say is something along the lines of "That's illegal, or stupid" or anything like that... I'm looking for answers from personal experiences or people who have something decent to say
2006-08-19 19:28:18 · 12 answers · asked by iluvchester92391 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, more details for you all... I'm going to be 15 in September.... He makes me so happy... he's why I wake up in the morning... I want nothing more than to be with him
2006-08-19 19:37:35 · update #1
It's good to have supportive people in your life, but be careful. Make sure you don't center your life around him and miss out on other things life has to offer. Go out with friends, go to college, travel... I'm a little wary he's so willing to move to be near you with you being so young. Make sure he's moving forward in his life too. Make sure your parents know about him. Secret boys always mean trouble. It's good you want to wait for sex until marriage, but know that if you do anything at all sexual before you're 18, even making out and touching, that's still illegal. Be happy, but also be balanced.
2006-08-19 19:32:47 · answer #1 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was a freshman in highschool, I met a senior from another school and we hit it off really well and started dating. There was no sex involved, I didn't have the sex until marriage rule but rather the "I will not have sex until I am 18 and legally an adult regardless of the age of the other person." It didn't last that long because I never really fell in love with him and I don't think he fell in love with me. We just both really liked eachother and I think that I also thought it was exciting to date someone older. (Which is something that you should think about.) But if you love him, it's a whole other ball game.
You should be a little hesitant about your relationship if you are even having doubts in the first place. However, I know you are probably just worried because moving out to be with you is a big step and you want to make sure you are ready. The fact that you don't want to have sex until marriage and he is supportive of that is awesome because if he isn't in it for the sex (which a lot of guys are) then the two of you have a deeper connection than just physical. Also, even though technically it might be illegal, I don't know how illegal it is if there is not sex involved. There are debates concerning whether oral sex is considered sex but don't think that would ever hold up in court, expecially if it is consenting action on both parties. The only time that statitory rape (that is what they call sex with a minor when their isn't actually rape involved) is when the parents find out and try to press charges. If your parents are cool with the relationship and you stand by your no sex unitl marriage than you really have nothing to worry about. However, this also depends on how young you are, if you are younger than in high school than some might say that you don't know what you are doing and he is taking advantage of you, however, I don't think that is the case at all. If he was concerned about sex he would have tried to talk you into it by now and if he only wanted that then he wouldn't make the effort to change his life to be with you. I guess you just have to ask yourself how you truly feel about him. People always say you get wiser with age and that younger people don't ever know what love is but I think age is relative is almost all cases. (Do you remember Romeo and Juliette? It's been said by scholars that Juliette was only 13 or 14 when the story is said to have taken place.) If you are happy than go for it. Make sure that the two of you are both open and honest about all of your feelings. Since he is the one moving you want to make sure that you will not leave him in the dust the second he gets out there. Honestly though, it sounds like the boy is in love with you and if you are in love with him than just enjoy it and worry about any problems that might come up when they actually do come up. I know I am a bit of a rambler and I have no idea if it all makes sense but I have love and lost and I think I have learned a thing or two along the way.
2006-08-20 02:45:26 · answer #2 · answered by caroline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly how old are you? I don't think that you really need advice to keep going on this. Sounds like this man is making you very happy. And the fact that he respects your wishes to hold out until marriage says a lot about him as well. I would say if you are at least 16 and you guys aren't having sex (still illegal) then there shouldn't be a problem at all. Good luck. I hope he is the right guy for you. Be sure to pray about it!
2006-08-20 02:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its true love, then that is what it is. It can't be illegal because you are not having sex.
I'd say keep him. Based on your description of the situation, you seem like a level headed and educated person. Go with your gut.
Love knows no race, age, or economic status. If he respects you and is willing to wait untill you are of age and you all are married to take the relationship to the sexual level then I would think he is a keeper.
When I was 13, 14 or so, I was dating someone who was 19. My mother approved because she knew I was very smart for my age and would not be taken advantage of. It was a great relationship and he respected my space and we never had intercourse. We of course didn't get married, but I have absolutley no regrets
You only live once, GO FOR THE GOLD!
2006-08-20 02:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by CHLOE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look i see that you are in love and stuff and he understands that you dont want to have sex till marrige but he says that when you are far away but once u are close enough to be together all the time you dont know how he might "flare" up. he's 18 i know that me and my girlfriend do all sort of crazy things when we get flared up. depending on ur ago i would think before you do anything and i mean anything if its like 2 years then it will be ok but if u are any younger then 16 i would reconsider about what you do with this guy, i am deeply in love with my Girlfriend and every time we meet we do end up having sex trust me. i fur under 16 i would just tell him that we can''t be together right now and tell him to wait if he really loves you he will!!
2006-08-20 02:41:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL AGE AINT NOTHING BUT A #
i feel that age thing because i'm 17 and my boyfriend is 19 but we love each other and our families dont have a proble with that. yes i have dated lots of guys be he's the only one that makes me feel realand loved in a BEAUTIFUL way
take it from me no matter what people will say what they wanna say but ummm u gotta do you
spend time with ua man while u can cuz ua never know when things r going to fall apart
because that's one thing i wish me and my boyfriend would have done spent more time together because now we're having a long distance relation and that isn't easy to do at all but i know things will work out for that best
2006-08-20 02:43:33 · answer #6 · answered by ~Tranell~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your going to have sex sweety just make sure he wears a condom no matter what! ok,, and dont give into oral because your anal is too young and youll just tear allot of blood vessels and youll start bleeding from two places.
2006-08-20 02:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have your whole life ahead of you........Take it slow. You (and he) will change a lot in the next few years, and I can tell you from experience that it is not good to get locked into a dead end relationship. Be kind to yourself and be sure first, and you will be very glad you did...
2006-08-20 02:36:53 · answer #8 · answered by Hillbilly Ma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love this guy and you are truly happy than go for it. Only you can determine your happiness, no one else can. As long as you he is serious about waiting till marriage than there shouldn't be a problem.
2006-08-20 02:34:12 · answer #9 · answered by Tee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be careful....Older guys tend to break your heart.....Don't let him pressure you into havin sex either....Remember you are still young and there are plenty of guys out there not just him.... Good Luck and always follow your heart....
2006-08-20 02:34:54 · answer #10 · answered by is it real 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋