my little girl is shy, she starts pre school soon, will she be able to stay there with out mommy or daddy?

Question

anybody been though this with there child

she is four years old

Answer 1

My child is also very shy. She is now in pre school and has opened up there with her new friends and teachers. It took about two weeks of her looking around and staying in the back ground . We slowly started to get notes that she was talking more. Now she goes and I can hear her chattering with all the other kids before I get to the room to pick her up. *smile* She is still shy when she meets someone new. But I think with school she now warms up to new ppl faster. Your little one will be fine, try not to push her to talk . Let her find her confert level and she will open up. School becomes like home, the same faces every day. She will love it . Good luck

Answer 2

The question is,,,,will mommy and daddy be ok when she goes to pre school? Sure, she will do fine, this is part of the socialization kids must learn before they start kindergarten. My 2 kids went to pre school and were expected to have a back pack and get on a bus without mommy and daddy tagging along. No parents allowed. She has to learn to be a social being. She will do great.

Answer 3

On the first day she may be a little hesitant towards going to school... does she know anyone in her grade she is going into? Or do you know any parents with children and your kids are going into the same class? Because you could set up a play date if so. So then your child would be more comfortable knowing someone in the class... I'm sure she will be fine though... she will get use to the idea.

Answer 4

My son was extremely shy, he would curl up like a potato bug anytime anyone he didn't know spoke to him or even looked at him. He did great in daycare, he loved being with other kids and never cried once. It helped open him up a little. He is now 6 and going into first grade this year. If she does cry, the best thing to do is to not linger, often kids will stop crying right after the parent leaves and join in the playing. The daycare workers know how to deal with it and do quite often.

Answer 5

Letting her stay, not coming and "rescuing" her is probably the best thing you can do for her. She needs to learn tools to cope with her shyness and this is a good age to begin to learn those.

Follow the teacher's lead. Maybe even talk to the teacher beforehand and tell her your concerns. That way, she'll be more likely to call you if she thinks your daughter is not handling the situation well. But, unless you have a strong sense otherwise, you need to trust that the teacher's experience with preschoolers will help your daughter find her place in the world.

Also, try not to communicate to your daughter, either with words or actions, that you expect her to "fail" because of her shyness. Help her to know that it's okay to be shy but that she needs to learn how to make friends and play with other kids.

Good luck!

Answer 6

I have seen a lot of my cousins go through this. At first the child cries and is scared because it is a new thing to them, but after awhile they start playing with others, they have new things to do, they get a nap time, a snack, and then they like it can cant wait to go back the next day. It not really if the child can handle it its if u can let go.

Answer 7

maybe the first day or so you can join the class and if you spend more than 1 day there then start cutting the time down so you spend less and less time in the class. she will get use to the idea it's a safe place to be and make lots of friends. show her it's not a scary place to hang out with other kids her own age. while there encourage her to interact with other kids and less on you.

Answer 8

I would suggest speaking with your daughter's teacher before class starts and explaining your daughter's shyness to her. Most young children will experience 'separation anxiety' when starting school - I know I did. But because my teacher, Mrs. Sleeper, was made aware of this, she gave me special attention to ensure I felt comfortable. Also, giving your child your cell phone or office number, and assuring her she can call anytime will also help. The first day will be the hardest for all of you, but after that, your daughter will makes friends and you will be relieved of your guilt trip. Best of luck to you all!

Answer 9

Me and my soon to be hubby has been going threw this with his two little girls. We have found out if we just leave them at school and walk away. She will be fine. She will cry and cry for a while but soon will change and be the happy little girl you raised. Once she crys don't go back and get her. She will see you will come and cry more. If she get out of hand they will call your to pick her up. But keep trying.

Answer 10

Your little one might have a hard time to start but given time she will be ok. I wouldnt suggest staying with her because she will have to get out of her shell a bit and start having fun. School might be what she needs to get over her shyness a little bit.