If there was a chance that my "casual lover boyfriend" asked me to move with him, do you think he'd respect the fact that I have some debt to pay off, and be willing to wait for me? Wouldn't he respect the fact that I'd be looking out for a successful financial relationship with him? Would it turn him off that I still have debt to pay off? It's not that much, but I want to get myself stable before any commitment like that. Any suggestions if he brings it up, how to telll him without scaring him off?
2006-08-19 18:48:32 · 8 answers · asked by feisty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you explain that you want to pay it off it would make you appear mature and responsible. Everyone makes mistakes and since you are trying to repair yours it will be a positive look for you.
2006-08-19 18:52:12 · answer #1 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why move in with a casual lover boyfriend? Why, why? You don't mention love.Sounds like you don;t know him well enough, you have so many "respect" questions about him. Get to know him better before setting up house. How long have you known him? Do either of you date anyone else?
2006-08-20 01:56:48 · answer #2 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has any respect for you he should understand completely. He may be dissapointded but that is natural talk to him about it and give him time to think after you have explained it thouroughly. If he doesn't understand then find some one else who will respect you
2006-08-20 01:56:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a good idea of what you want to do. Don't compromise your plans. You always have to think about your future.
2006-08-20 01:55:19 · answer #4 · answered by Strike2? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to move in with him no matter your debt.
2006-08-20 01:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by Art The Wise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we ALL have debt... and you will only have more once you are together... just tell him. he will understand and if he really loves you, he will be there with you to help you tackle it.
2006-08-20 01:51:50 · answer #6 · answered by lili 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him his opinion instead of being so resolute. Couples should talk about stuff like this
2006-08-20 01:52:08 · answer #7 · answered by dt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure
2006-08-20 01:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋