2006-08-19 18:45:41 · 20 answers · asked by curtislocation 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Tell your mom it's upsetting you.
Is there anyone at school, like a counselor or a trusted adult you can talk to?
There is no reason for all that abuse/drama in your home. It's not a good way to live. Please tell a trusted adult if your mom won't listen to you.
2006-08-19 18:49:30 · answer #1 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi.
Sounds like a potentially volatile situation. And it's complex depending on whether you live in the household and etc. You want to avoid a situation where this person could attack you or your family. If you are a minor, your mother has no right ti subject you to such an environment. However, it might be difficult to confront your mother since she might take his side and/or kick you out of the house. And again, someone might try to attach you. If you are a minor, the state might try to remove you from the home. You don't want that because the state's facilities could be worse. Get your H.S. diploma and get your butt into college. Much better things await you outside of that hell. Focus on your education.
You need to talk with someone beyond what this board can offer. I recommend a relative first. This is such a delicate situation.
If you are not a minor, it's a little bit easier but no less painful. You'll have to advise your mom of what is best for her. But ultimately, it's your mom's personal life. She can crash & burn but she has no right to take you with her. You can be there for her in limited fashion but avoid visting any place (e.g. her home) that her boyfriend is likely to visit. And restrict her form bringing her boyfriend around you & family, calling, and etc.
Best wishes!
-Leon S
2006-08-20 02:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by Leon Spencer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to fight him. You might have a "heart to heart" talk with your mom, and let her know that you are concerned about the way she is being treated, and also let her know how it is affecting you. It will be up to her to stand up to him, or to end the abusive relationship. Mention to her that there are many women's shelters that can offer support, or even a place to stay if she needs to escape from the abuse.
2006-08-20 02:00:57 · answer #3 · answered by brendalyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first fight not a solution,not even an option to consider..
talk openly with the persons involved,about your feelings about..
i am sure your mom will understand that..,if the boyfriend not understand it,or doesnt want to,then it is him that has the problem.
then either he deals with it,or it will not be solved,and then your are both better off without him.
if you are kind off scared to talk openly,or are afraid of the boyfriend that things might go wrong as you speak about it,get another one involved that you know and trust,(prefer an adult) and mayby knows of the problem too.take that person with you,when you speak about it..
2006-08-20 01:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by byciclerabbit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, talk to your mom about it and tell her that those things are pissing you off. If your mom understands you, she won't let the guy treat her like that. And encourage her that she shouldn't let the guy talk to her abusive. If she says: "Don't worry or Everything's Okay", then you know she's afraid to say something to him. That's when you you make your decision. Though, I would say to report it to play it on the safe side.
Good Luck
2006-08-20 01:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by artmastercf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mom's boyfriend is verbally abusing her then SHE needs to get rid of him.
2006-08-20 01:50:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
write him a letter be open about your feelings and how it upsets you, - no threats make it read and sound as a family matter that includes him. - as may and as weired this might sound he probably doesn't even know that he is doing it, - make sure that you give him the letter in a way that let's him know that it is very private and very personal and it is just between you and him, - Do not say anything not before and not after. let him wonder.
2006-08-20 02:25:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should never get in the middle of 2 adults fussing ,if you think your mom is in danger keep quiet and call 911 for help .,also you should discuss this with another family memeber .Hon dont ever get in the middle and try to fight for your mom call for help if it would come to this .You can talk to your mom in private about this matter and let her know how it makes you feel .and be honest with her , Please be careful ok and talk to another family memeber about this .I will pray for you and your mom .
2006-08-20 01:52:56 · answer #8 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of lunacy is this??? First, yout mom has a boyfriend.
Second, he is abusing her constantly. and Third, you and your mom have been tolerating that non-sence of a guy for a long time????
Call 911 and get rid of that devil and live happily ever after.
2006-08-20 01:52:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not fight him. If you are still in school report it to your high school counselor. They shoudl file the approparaite paperwork to have it looked into!
2006-08-20 01:49:36 · answer #10 · answered by ferretcoach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋