i know iam sounding old,but i was wondering why dont families get along like they use to.i know families use to visit one and another,but now it seems like the only way they get to see them is (please excuse me)when someone dies.whats your prospect on this?thank you all.
2006-08-19 18:41:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That has nothing to do with getting old. Family is all about love and bonding. Just that it sad that we are all so busy with the things of the world that we take family bonding for granted. For those working, we forever busy with our work, those with kids, their weekends are burnt with the extra curriculum. IF ONLY, we could pause for a minute and think of our family.
My family is one of the culprits. Only when my dad was diagnosed of cancer - STAGE 4 cancer, We suddenly slow down everything. My brothers and I begin to talk to each other more, talk to my mom and dad more, and we make time to be home for dinner together. My dad passed away after one month of this diagnosis. For the one month, my family was so closely knitted. The only comforting memory that left for me is, at least at my dad's las moments, we were able to make some lost time together. Minutes before he passing, he was still briefing very hard to stay alive for us (his blood pressure was so low, <30).
I stroked his face and whispered assurance in his ear :
"Pa, we love you and you are our hero. Don't worry about mom and all of us, we will take turns to bring her to everywhere she wants to go just like you always. I'm the eldest in the family and I will take the responsibility ... and I will learn to be like you..."
As I spoke, his breathing gets slower ...softer... and he was gone.
Pay attention to your family members., respect and understand each other before they are gone.
2006-08-19 18:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by Dani 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We as a society are so caught up in better education, better jobs, more money, bigger houses and nicer cars. Is it any wonder that parents are choosing to have nannys and daycares raise their children. Children of today aren't getting the time with their family that they used to. For instance, all the commercials lately about the family table, eating together and sharing info. about your day with the family. They never needed commercials like that years ago, the mother cooked dinner for her family every night, it was a given that the family would have time together every night. Times have changed, but one thing hasn't parents still love their children even if they are not all making the best choices for the longevity of their family ties.Your question of how we should keep family members closer, is a simple one...start by changing one family at a time, now let's go call our family members that we haven't seen in a while!
2006-08-20 02:08:46 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the big reasons for families not seeing each other as often can be attributed to technology. Cars, trains, planes, et. al. have made it easy for folks to move further and further away from home. So proximity is an issue. Also, with cell phones, istant messages, emails and the like replacing visits and handwritten letters, it's become easy to keep in touch on a daily basis, but not in person.
2006-08-20 01:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by straight_shooter526 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real sad my family is worse nobody loves me and i have to do my own stuff and am only 16 can you belive that some families always make excuese you know what i mean? is like some family has problem of there own 3 years ago my whole entire family almost lost them all becuase of the he say she say crap some family makes excuses to just ingore or dont want to comunicate with them what i say is F-them forget them i sometimes treat my family like they dont exists but anyways my point is that some family has disaggrements but sometimes its worse the argument gets louder and more offensive but the hell wit them thats what i try to do
2006-08-20 01:54:32 · answer #4 · answered by LUIS ROSA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is because the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world, really. Most Moms are no longer at home raising the children like they did years ago. Many parents have chosen to let day care and schools raise their children because they covet a nice house, car, etc, when a simple house, a safe cheaper car would do. It boils down to money and greed. Work-money work-money. No time for family.
2006-08-20 01:51:26 · answer #5 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The nucleus has fallen apart. What once was a beautiful bond between family members has been shattered!
Those of us who still desire to be close other than during the holidays and,well you know, get criticized and made to feel like we are selfish for wanting to be a part of our family members lives.
Those were the GOOD OLE DAYS!
2006-08-20 01:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by lill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the dawn of the information age.. we are all becoming both overloaded w/all the info, and able to pursue our own interests. I think both things distract us from family bonds...
Of course, I think it's an overall shift in our culture too... The pace of life increases, and the time one chooses to spend on things such as visiting family get prioritized under other things...
[Like sitting on Yahoo Answers vs. interacting w/family.]
2006-08-20 01:49:56 · answer #7 · answered by Kimberley Mc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I feel that way I would start doing something about it. Like visiting families or what ever! If I wait for thing to happen, whats the point grumbling about it?
2006-08-20 03:10:22 · answer #8 · answered by ~Raju~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some families are close, some aren't. That's just kind of the way it goes, many families are too involved in their own lives to worry about relatives, especially if there is long distance between them.
2006-08-20 01:47:44 · answer #9 · answered by Josh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a sad truth of today's life. I guess people are so busy with themselves that they forget or choose to forget about family.
2006-08-20 01:45:34 · answer #10 · answered by Art The Wise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋