My husband and I are thinking of moving to another state... He has moved lots, I have not. Opinions?

Question

We are thinking of moving about 1000 miles from where we currently live. I have been living in the same town that I grew up in for 30 years, and have never been anywhere outside my state. My brother's family, my parents, and my husbands parents all live where we do. My husband has done a lot of traveling, and is used to moving. We have two young children (7 and 2). I am wondering if other moms have had this scenario and what they ultimately decided. What were the benefits of moving? What would you have changed about moving? What were the hardships you faced? Was it hard moving to somewhere you didn't know, with no family close by? What did you do when you wanted to go out with just your husband and had to leave the kids with someone you weren't related to? How did you adapt to a new environment and all the changes (job, home, etc.)? How did your children adapt? Thank you to the helpful answerers!

We are thinking of moving because of housing costs where we currently live. We would like to be able to purchase our own home, and the price of houses is just way out of our league here ( Southern CA). Even with both of us working good paying jobs, we can barely afford to qualify for a two-bedroom around here. If we move, we not only keep the same income levels (we've already looked into job availability) but we can afford a much bigger home, and we can move out of my mother's house (who we have been living with to save money to purchase a home).

Answer 1

I know how you feel. I've moved around quite a bit in my life, and my husband has lived in the same place his whole life. Both of you need to sit down and weigh the pros and cons of moving so far away.

Make sure you do your research on where you want to move to. How are the neighborhoods? What is the cost of living like? Is childcare easily accessible? What are the job/housing markets like? How are the schools? How much will moving costs be?

As for myself, every time I moved (mostly as a child), I adapted quite easily. I always thought it was cool to meet new people, and my academics didn't suffer. Your children may be different, especially if they are shy. But since they are so young, the transfer might go easier than what you expect.

If you do move, take the first weekend you're there to take a car trip around the town to see where things are (grocery stores, schools, parks, malls) so you're not so lost when you need something in a hurry. Make sure to navigate not just the main roads, but smaller ones as well. That is what my family always did, and it saved a lot of headaches in the long run.

After you give it some thought, you just have to decide what would make you happiest, whether that means moving or staying put.

Answer 2

I am not a mother or a father but have been all over the U.S. ( if thats where u r) ...and your question lacks the main ingrediant of any good queary in life and that is ...WHY....WHY R U MOVING/ what is the motivation 4 u & ur family too move???? If the reason has been resolved than your best bet is to move to Boise, ID...low low crime rate, great schools...childcare...people...atmosphere!!! Good tech jobs, labor/trade jobs, small buisiness op's...we're growing rapidly...but responsibly( no i amnot a politician!!!) Anyway if u want a good place to raise the young ones move to IDAHO ...LAST SAFE PLACE ON THE PLANET( JUST DON'T SPREAD IT AROUND! :) )

Answer 3

hum....i had the same problem. well i told my boyfriend how i felt and we had a argument but he said my feelings are as important as his but instead of moving to another sate we looked for another house near the area we lived in. we found a great home and we lived her ever sience. but u have kids so for u i would ask your 7 yr old how she feels about it and think of positives not negitives

Answer 4

Southern California!
It's great here!