no card on my bday nothign he says he is not good at romance. and that he doesn't believe in cards. Telling me he loves me is good. acording to him.. we were together for 3 years b4.. MESSED UP RELATIONSHIP. Now we have been going STRONG for 6 mths. And nothing for my bd....well my bd is on the 20th...Technacly its my bd it's 1:30 am.. Should I hold anything againts him...Or just know it's all about SEX
2006-08-19 18:33:14 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let go of this seriously. Your b-day isn't even here yet, and your already complaining. Guy's are bad with b-day's it doesn't mean anything.
2006-08-19 18:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by acidicblackrose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sooooo....what is that you want? Do you just want a present? Or is it that you want him to show you that you are a meaningful part of his life?
Perhaps you could start by looking at the way he DOES express his feelings for you. I understand your boyfriend's aversion to greeting cards; they seem so...I dunno..."off-the-rack" shallow. You just grab one - any one will do! - and they're all conveniently categorized for you. So you go to the Romantic Birthday section, and voila! your girlfriend will be convinced that you love her...because it says so in the card. I don't know, it just seems too contrived.
So maybe he just sees cards as ingenuine. A man for whom actions, no doubt, speak louder than words. Everyone's got a soul, and everyone wants to be loved. And we are all capable of loving. The way he might choose to express that love might not be what you were expecting...so look for his love in unexpected places. For men, it often shows up in the little things, like making two cups of coffee instead of just one. Watching a "non-man" TV show instead of insisting on WWE wrestling. Etcetera.
If you're still not getting a clear message that you mean something to him after meeting him half-way like this, you need to let the man know that you have doubts about whether or not he wants you in his life for anything more than a convenient booty call. And you want to be more than that. Can he handle a relationship like that? Let him know that sometimes you need to be given a clear indication of where you stand with him. You don't need constant reassurance (do you?), but you do need to be reminded every now and then...just exactly why is that you're with him??
Aim for clear, effective communication. Cut through the BS and say the things that are difficult to say. It's sometimes scary, but the pay-out is huge. Good luck!
2006-08-23 09:33:12 · answer #2 · answered by intuition897 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same with me I have been dating this guy for four years now and we are sexually active always have been, however on my birthday he not only didn't send me a card, but he didn't call either. Now that put the icing on the damn cake. Hes a busy guy and has a lot going on yes you should say something who the hell is he to lie in between your legs and get the pleasure of an orgasm and cant afford a measly card that at the cheapest with tax only cost about 0.84
2006-08-19 18:43:57 · answer #3 · answered by black 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex someting is a wonderful memory
2006-08-19 18:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes nothin' can be a real cool hand.
2006-08-19 18:37:12 · answer #5 · answered by Ari A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry honey it is all about the sex he has been having with me
HAPPY BIRTHDAY
2006-08-19 18:38:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋