if god is real then how come he has never helped me?

Question

when i was younger i had a stong faith in god but since child hood my life has been one tragedy after another. i dont know how many times i have cried my self to sleep begging god to come into my life and show me the way but nothing has ever happened. my life still sucks i have tried going to church and i actually feel kind of stupid that i put so much faith in something for so long when all i ever got was let down after let down. i lost all faith and finally gave up about a month ago and things were actually starting to get better but were still too much for me so last night i tried reaching out to him again only to wake up this morning to find out that my abusive ex boyfriend is trying to find me after four years of being free of him. so christians how do you explain this?

Answer 1

God is going to allow trials to come your way. I have had my share of struggles, mainly within my family life, and I know that God has been with me every step of the way. If you have accepted Jesus as your personal savior, then he will not let you go. You will not always "feel" like he is with you, but that is why it is faith. Faith is not just a feeling. I know that I lived through some terrible things in my childhood, but they are what have shaped my life and if I had the chance to change what happened to me, I wouldn't change a thing. I see how God has used what seemed so terrible at the time to shape who I am today. This may be the last thing you want to hear right now, but know that I will be praying for you, and prayer does make a difference! It may be hard to imagine now, but God may be allowing Satan to test in this way so that in the future you can help young women who are going through the same thing you went through. Remember, God is in control and he loves you. Get into His Word and, in His time, your eyes will be opened.

Answer 2

Sometimes, it seems as if God has abandoned us. But that's simply not true. Like right now, I feel scared because I am typing so late at night. It's weird, because my physical self is saying that I'm fine, that there's nothing to be worried about. But I think the fact that I am scared is a subconscious way my mind is telling me that I worry too much.

I know everything is going to be okay. I don't have to worry about tomorrow because I know that I can do something to make it great. If your life feels really bad right now, I know how that feels. It must be really scary that now somebody who doesn't care about you is trying to come back into your life.

Just remember, there's nothing you can to make God love you less, and he loves you with all his heart. This might sound weird, but maybe these chills I'm getting sitting by myself typing this message to you is Satan trying to get to me. You have to show willpower. Satan is the exact opposite of God, meaning he'll try things to bring you down. I can't stress enough how bad it sounds for someone like that trying to come back to you.

What you can remember is that thing might get better if they can't get any worse. I've been through months of thinking things couldn't get any worse. One day I decided to pray to God, with all my heart, asking for a way out. I was crying, and must have been praying for an hour. But the impossible happened. I wish I could tell you, but it's sort of a secret. But what happened that day has literally changed my life.

I think there's power in prayer. And I have always been taught that no matter what you pray for, God will answer it. I mean anything. Think of something so big, that it seems that nobody can fulfill it. Then pray to God, and wait. Here are the two rules about praying.

1. Be patient.
2. Keep in open mind.

The second one is the catch. God may not answer the prayer exactly the way you want, but I have been taught he will answer it in some way or form. You may even die without directly knowing some of the prayers God has answered. But the fact is that he answers them all. How do I know those two things work, and that prayer works?

I prayed for something so big that it took eight months, and a flexible answer on my part. Those eight months were very bad for me, and that one day I mentioned I prayed for a long time was the day it ended up being fulfilled. I was shocked and so relieved. He answered my prayer, but not the way I wanted. But you know what, if he didn't answer my prayer at all, I would be in very bad shape today.

I hope you have found some words of encouragement. I strongly encourage you to pray for your ex-boyfriend, and pray for your situation. One minute of your time to God could mean a lifetime of change. Believe me, prayer works. And guess what? At the end of this, I don't feel so scared anymore. I think I have conquered Satan trying to bring me down and not type this message to you. You can too.

Answer 3

Well i'm real and so is most of the rest of the world and we've never done anything for you either. So are you going to discount us as well. Following God does not mean your life is going to be perfect, and attending church does not mean you have saving faith in the Lord. I'm sorry your life is not going well, but what that has to do with the exsistance of God makes no sense.

Answer 4

you think that you can serve God only when you need him to do something,and you want results like you were pulling up at a drive though window,honey that's not how it works,the devil is using you and you just sit there and let him and he's laughing in your face,he's having so much fun making your life miserable,stop with the pity party and if you are saved ,redeciate your life,and if you are not ,he's not going to here your prayer for help except for the one were you ask to be saved,i think you need to read and learn about God,and fight the devil don't let him over rule your life you if you are a christian have the power of God almighty behind you use it .

Answer 5

Search your own life, did you give up everything for God? Did you renounce all matter of sin? Do you read the Bible daily and really crave a relationship... I don't know, we can't judge your situation. But there are people suffering all kinds of things and are Christian, some even starve.

Oh how desperately I would live your life then my own ! I have sin in my life which is so desperately hard to give up. If i was free from sin, I would suffer anything from God.

But hey I'm just sayin that, I dunno what its really like.

Answer 6

I feel for you. I have done similiar. Lived Similiar.
I hope you do well. seek reason. forget God.
If anything think of this. jesus says 'the kingdom of god is WITHIN you" .. Now I am an atheist, but if you still lean towards a belief in Jesus, listen to those words.
'God' is NOT real. There maybe a something or other within us all. But its not 'God'. I f anything 'Satan' is this God
Anyway, move away. Stay clear of the ex boyfriend. Stay away from christianity ,they can be just as bad!

Answer 7

You know God answers in his own time. We do not decide, demand him to help. We pray each day faithfully, attend church, always putting him first. You can't have prayers answered if you doubt and don't believe fully. God says we must be patient. Problems with abusive boyfriends must be directed to the police immediately. To your pastor etc. It is not God's fault about the boyfriend. We all make mistakes and your judgement in boyfriends was not the correct one. You did this not God. So don't blame him for your mistake. It's wrong to.
God loves all his children, all he asks in return that you love him and follow him in faith. Without faith in him you have nothing.

Answer 8

You can ask, so you have a voice. God has given you all you need to overcome your tragedies. It isn't enough simply to have faith in God. You need to have faith in yourself. If your ex-boyfriend is abusive, and stalking you, get a restraining order. As soon as he violates it, call the cops on him. God has granted you a voice, and a will of your own. Use them. And God will help you then.

Answer 9

You are alive aren't you!? Keep praying never give up faith, how do you think you have come through those tragedies? We always go through trials and tribulations but thats part of life.

Answer 10

Please be strong Dear. Do not lwet Satan continue to mess things up for you ! You sound so sincere and have love for God. Let Satan know this loud and clear ! Rebuke him and open your Bible dear and pray for knowledge to help you to understand. God will give this to you ! Do not give up. Stay away from your ex boyfriend and if he comes to hurt you call 911... God Bless,
If you ever want to chat I am a gramma here that wound love to help you ....