can guys answer this please? i need a guys thoughts?

Question

how can i get a guy to like me? like what really turns on a guy?

Answer 1

This is a tough question, Girl.

Really, I'd need to see you and see who you are to be able to answer this one.

This sort of question is worth a book!...
And the guy who could adequately write one would make a mint!

Both girls and guys are constantly asking this question.

Most people seem to answer:
"simply be Yourself".

So, that would be the end of the book!! ... and your Mint!

But the reality is that it depends on who YOU are.

You could certainly "get a guy to like you", without too much trouble, but if you are not 'being yourself' in doing that, you can be sure the whole 'romance' would be short-lived, for, by acting as someone else than yourself, you have, in effect, lied to him.
And that never really wins the day.

Personally, though, if you want to improve yourself to get the 'best guy' [or the best guy for you], you need to pay a balance of attention to your own personal strengths and faults, and get to know yourself and what those strengths, etc are.
It takes time. There are no magical spells to change you or that help you know yourself better.

Your personal strengths are what will win him for you in the first place, but overcoming your weak areas will also help keep you together.
When love builds, so does your desire to overcome these weaknesses, because you want do your best for him, and increase your desire to please him and be a better person.

But by the same token, doing that is not always quite as easy or straight-forward as it may seem...
FOR it is also said that you should use your strengths to overcome your weaknesses!!
Thus, you need to do some personal hard thinking about self, quite often.

NO!
Not in negative sense...
I didn't mean to be hard on yourself in your thinking, nor to be unrealiztic re yourself.
In fact, it is better to see the great potential you really have as a child of God. {If a child, then more likely to become more like your Father ... Right?? If you try to improve, that is.}

Many others say you should simply act confident, or BE confident!
There is nothing that comes across as more sexy than a confident person.

And this is probably true.
But if we are not one to improve ourselves, we will have no Substance to that [apparent] "confidence", and it will soon fade in the tight spots in life.
So, again, acting confident could fool for awhile, but only reality actually wins the day in the end.


To get a guy to like you? ... you ask

DRESS AND APPEARANCE:
Pay attention to appearance above "comfort" [No ... it don't mean you wear your best overcoat on a 90 degree day because it is better looking than any other clothing you have!]

BUT, it does mean that for most girls, you will look much better in a skirt [tight at the waist] than sloppy trackpants or jeans.
A blouse will look nicer and dressier than a tee-shirt.
And very few guys prefer short, 'butch' hair over nice, long, freely flowing hair.
Despite what is promoted today, girls need to look different from guys, if they expect to get their attention

Language:
Keep it clean ...
Also, better to use nice words and positive language than such phrases as, "I hate that type of thing..."
Avoid negativity.

Thinking:
Try to drive judgmental, critical, or negative thinking from your mind.

Entertainment:
Pick better non-X and non-R rated movies...
Good non-swearing music, etc.

BODY:
Keep it clean and healthy and modestly dressed.
Exercise regularly - preferably daily.
Exercise not only keeps you in shape better [Remember: us Guys are very visual in our appreciation in life - especially, of our women], but helps greatly to flush out the toxins and built up wastes within your internal body system; the blood and everything really gets flowing and flushing out, plus it more efficiently transports nutrients around your body for your body's use.
Eliminate alcohol use, smoking and drugs in your life.
Others will respect you more, and you will as well.

Keep a clean image and you will win respect:
And you will have more respect for yourself!


As you achieve these things in your own personal life, you will have more natural Self-Confidence...
and many guys, especially those looking for good taste and quality, will be looking in your direction much more often ... and in the end, you are likely to finish up with a much better guy!

And, surely, That is the BOTTOM LINE!


Good Luck and God Bless...

Answer 2

The first step to persuade a man to fall for you is to catch his eye by looking great. Men like attractive females that are confident. Do not be a big complainer or a whiner, and instead give off a laid back vibe. Learn what his passions are and become interested in them. Be sure to smile and laugh a ton with him, and also flirt.

Answer 3

Madsta, you've asked the question that's right up there with: "Who killed the Kennedy's" and "Who built the Sphinx?" The answer is: there really is no 'sure fire' way to get a guy to like you because hard as we may try, people are going to either like or dislike us, depending upon the circumstances. But you can make it known to a guy that you like him and that in turn will make him want to know more about you.
If you see a guy you like, put yourself in a position to always be where he is or close by him at the moment. If it's at school, make sure you are within 'eye catching' distance during breaks, lunch or study period. When you catch him looking at you, give him a slight look and a smile, then turn away. Us guys love mystery and you'll drive him nuts because he will wonder if you like him or not.
Next, do your homework...find out what he likes (sports, cars, movies, etc). You can do this by enlisting the help of his buddies. And depending upon how you approach them, you don't even have to give it away that you like a certain guy.
Now, to your next question: "What really turns a guy on?" Well if you're talking about the 'shallow, self-centered, jerks' that some of us seem to be, that answer's easy: Breasts, Booty and the prospect of easy sex. But if you're talking about a 'quality guy', then: the respect you have for yourself, the way you carry yourself (your walk, etc). See guys are easy to figure out. We don't want a woman that's doing the same thing we like to do (drink to excess, cuss, party like there's not tomorrow). Those types of women are great for some guys to hang around with but when you are talking about something more serious, then a guy wants a young woman who respects herself and carries herself like...well...like a lady. It's funny, 'we teach people how to treat us.' If a woman dresses like a slut, uses foul language, has a reputation for sleeping around, etc., is it any wonder why guys treat her as such? But on the other hand, if you carry yourself with dignity, respect yourself first, which makes it easier to respect others, then that's the kind of woman that's attractive to a guy of quality.

Answer 4

Im sorry, I have protests against that question. If you want advice, Ill tell you to just be yourself, let the magic work on its own. Don't try to take someone elses advice to get someone when in the end your only going to be yourself anyway. Thats finding love under false pretenses, and the magic that was created will slowly die.

Answer 5

Well, a lot of guys are self concious, sometimes knowing you like them is enough for them to say they like you.
I like a nice smile, and eyes.

Have a guy friend ask him, casualy, like:
"Hey man, I really like this girl, she looks like.. blah blah blah"
"Dont you think thats cool? well what kinda girl do you like?"
"ohh really? yeah I like that too"
"yeah her hair, wow those pants..."etc

Mine all the information you can.
Its ok to change your clothes or hair, but dont change your attitude.
Dont be a puppet and become "the perfect girl."
It wont ever make you happy to be something you are not.
How you look isnt important, so its not a big deal to change.
but once you HAVE his attention, and his eyes are on you,
just be yourself, guys like someone who is sure of themselves,
WHETHER THEY ADMIT IT OR NOT.
When their friends arnt looking at you, they see the real you.
If they never look any deeper themselves,
Then you dont want him anyway

Answer 6

There is no magic bullet. If you're thinking of a particular guy you try talking to him more often.

Answer 7

give a good ********, if you're over 18 of course, and don't talk too much