so today when i got home to get ready for work he just up and left didn't say good bye nothin, it really pis sed me off I understand his line of work an all but he can't stop and say "babe I'll be right back" ?? and me and him don't get to spend anytime alone together...ever....it seems. I feel like our sex life is scheduled it's like we only have sex on my days off which i understand to an extent because I work 3rd but still it's like we will go out hang out go home have sex go to bed, it's never spontaneous, ya know? We are always with people never alone and we can never relax...ever. It's always wake up eat go out an hustle I go to work he goes to bed. It's pis sing me off Ive tried talkin to him and he says ok we can chill tomorrow at home and just chill you and me, and then what happens we end up at his guys house, and I could stay home and let him go out but I wanna spend time with him, im just sick of doing it with other people all the time, am I wrong, no sarcastic answers
2006-08-19 17:58:33 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im completely in love with him, but I want to be able to spend time alone and it never happens. I don't mind what he does it doesn't bother me and I understand he had to leave but, why couldn't he say good bye!??? And then today when we were at his guys house chillin he played video games the entire time I don't mind video games but dam can you pay a little attention to me? Am I being needy?? I don't know what to do..Am I wrong?
2006-08-19 18:00:59 · update #1
FYI, We do have our priorities straight he's putting himself though college, he's has a 3.5 GPA, and I start school this aug, so seriously eff off, if your gonna be sarcastic!!!
2006-08-19 18:14:40 · update #2
To be honest with you I know the feeling just be glad you are not madly in love with him. My boyfriend just told me after weeks of this came kind of behavior that he didn't want to be in a relationship anymore after 3 years. I still love him i call to check on him and he calls me occasionally to see if i am alright and insist that he wants to be friends. More than likely you have done nothing wrong he just doesn't have "time". If you really care about him just be patient and try taking if that doesn't work give him a taste of his own medicine, like when he wants sex. I wish you the best of luck. If things are not going to work out don't waste your time.
2006-08-19 18:08:55 · answer #1 · answered by mmcclaskey31516 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not being needy, but you're also not his priority. When you live with someone and still never see them or spend alone time, there's something wrong. He's obviously not bothered with it b/c he had no problem playing video games with a dude instead of having some "alone time" with his girlfriend. How old is this guy? 12? I'm sorry :( Next time you guys have a day just for you and he tries to talk you into going out, take a stand. Say no. I'm sure you can come up with a way to convince him *cheeky grin*. If even THAT doesn't work, I'd starting looking for someone else b/c men don't change. Good luck!
2006-08-20 01:08:10 · answer #2 · answered by mytreacheryiseternal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chile u know deep down dat u don't need 2 be workin it with no street pharmacist! I mean, what did u expect? U deserve better than that. It sounds like this guy is just using u like ur a toilet. U know what u do on the toilet: crap n get up! then u go on about ur business. Honey, all this stuff leads to is trouble. He gets caught, they question u, and since ur in love with the guy u'll probably lie for him, then get urself in trouble later on down the road when they found out u lied. U don't need all that drama in ur life, n u don't need him taking u thru all of that..he doesn't care about u. There r a lot of ppl out there that go thru or has went thru the same situation that ur in right now, n it takes them a long time to realize that these clowns just weren't worth it. At that point, some of them b thinkng that it was too late for them to had realized that fact. But it ain't never 2 late. Get outta that girl..find u a man that lives to appreciate u as much as u appreciate him. U would have less of a headache when u do that. Don't ever settle. I know in ppl mind they think they can change their significant other. But it's always gonna b something there that u can't change, no matter how much u work with them on it. Oh, they might can calm down on it, but never quit, because it's in them. That's who they r. Ion care how much u can love some1..u can't save them if they don't wanna b saved..don't settle for worse..settle for the best. U deserve that.......every1 deserves a little bit of the best sometime..u know what i'm sayin? Do what u do...good luck
Peace n love.
2006-08-20 01:20:19 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Musically Inclined 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is telling you loud and clear how he feels about spending time with you and you aren't listening. What does he have to do? It sounds like you are waiting for him to suddenly decide to spend time with you. He sounds really immature and you are light years ahead of him. You have a legitimate job and obviously character, so while he's gone, move out from him and get your own place. You'll find a boyfriend who is sincere about wanting to spend time with you. A female should never have to beg her guy to spend time with her; if it's real, he will. He obviously feels overwhelmed with you alone and avoids it. You want more; go get it and be happy. There's a million guys in the sea!!!
2006-08-20 01:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just getting ready to put a sarcastic answer one like your getting what you deserve for even messing with a drug dealer or, what do you expect from a drug dealer a happy relationship or, lol but, im not gonna do that because you dont want any sarcastic answers. So I will leave with this be happy and dont mind your drug dealer boyfriend who ignores you and, will eventually get you pregnat, beat your *** and, then go to jail for about 30 years on a cocaine charge leaving you alone to raise a kid by yourself. You go ahead and do that.
2006-08-20 01:05:20 · answer #5 · answered by The Chief 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i am really sorry you are going though all of this with your boyfriend but i dont think you boy friend know the meaning of a relationship and what it involve i know you really love him but the way it sounds i know he has feeling for you but i dont think he love you like you want him to love you it could be the mature part of him if he still playing video games its sound like you have a boy on your hands instead of a man so that why you have so many people in your life right know because your boy friend isn't ready to grow up and have a a mature relationship with a mature women because you are very mature and in til he decide to grow up one day and realize what more important in his life you or his friends his friends are going to come first.i really wish i would of met you before you met your boy friend.
2006-08-20 01:23:30 · answer #6 · answered by little ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Street pharmacist?" Sounds like drug dealer to me. You work, he stays gone doing his thing? You don't get the time and attention you want. You don't say how long this has been going on. If you have talked to him about this and it stays the same, it probably won't change. What are you willing to accept?You want to be with him why?
2006-08-20 01:12:51 · answer #7 · answered by Cara Beth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, your right, but I really think you should set your standards a little higher, or try to clean him up. Thats not a life you should be in. If he gets caught, you can forget about lack of spontaneous sex, hell be locked up and you ll have no sex
2006-08-20 01:05:53 · answer #8 · answered by DJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your life, is going to go down hill,
street pharmacist,=illegal drugs breed trashy people, problems and dangers .
Always people around, not necessarily nice people. terrible hours,
you said you do not mind what he does,
well,you have a lot to learn girl,......WHAT EVER WAS GOOD, I HOPE YOU HAVE A GOOD MEMORY,,
IT WILL BE GOING DOWN HILL,,AS YOU KNOW IT IS ALREADY,
YOU ARE ASKING PEOPLE (US STRANGERS) ARE YOU WRONG..
what in the world do you want from this question?
do you want the people to say "no honey" YOU ARE NOT WRONG ,,?
no, dear, it is normal to want your boyfriend with you have spontanious sex, and make you number one,how awful, you can never relax,,
OH BABE, BE RIGHT BACK= oh OH BABE, SORRY I DiD NOT COME RIGHT BACK, "YOU KNOW HOW IT IS".. IT IS BUSINESS,,THERE IS ALWAYS TOMORROW.
THERE I SAID IT,, I DONT THINK MOST PEOPLE WILL SUPPORT YOU IN YOUR CHOICES.......
NOW DO YOU FEEL LIKE YOU WANT TO FEEL,
you have permission to do whatever you want with your life.. i just do not understand what answers you want, other than to agree with you..
i agree with you, it is sickening,
2006-08-20 01:17:40 · answer #9 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
His priorities are messed up and so are yours. You guys should have a chance if you get on the same track and focused about what is important and hustling ain't
2006-08-20 01:05:36 · answer #10 · answered by undacovea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋