Both of us have strong feelings for each other but she got out of 3 year relationship about 4 months ago. she started to opening up more and more. Could a healthy relationship come from by a causal relationship or end it before any feeling get to much involved?
2006-08-19 17:56:59 · 29 answers · asked by lil_cj_00 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. This is a good thing. She's right to wait until she has sorted out her old feelings for her 3-year relationship. You are in a good position, because you can be her best friend. You can be a shoulder to lean on- a movie buddy- a coffee date. The two of
you can really get an idea of who you are inside- and then decide
if it will go to another level when she's ready.
Being a best friend is a great thing.l Being a friend is a great thing,
They say that Love is a friendship caught a-fire. I believe that. I also think that if she's not physically attracted to you now, the more she gets to know you, the more attractive you may seem.
You just may "grow" on her. Do little nice things for her that shows her how sweet you are. Don't expect anything in return.
Not all women are shallow. I'd pick a smart guy with a kind heart and killer sense of humor over a shallow "don't touch the hair"
pretty body-builder. Love can grow where there wasn't an initial
"spark".
So... I'd say you're in a great place. You've told her that you want more. She want's casual. Take it slowly and give her tons of room. She won't run too far. Go to movies, coffee, talk on the phone, etc. It's better not to push it at all. Love just may blossom.
Good luck! Be patient.
2006-08-19 18:06:51 · answer #1 · answered by Linda S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow, buddy. Nobody's rushing you. If it works out, great! If it doesn't, don't feel too bad about it. At least, both you try it out & not live to regret it. Be a good friend to her, a good buddy, or even a good understanding boyfriend. Do not expect too much from it. But do not lose hope just yet. Give her some time & space as she had 3 failed relationships already & need time to heal & be refreshed for the next relationship. Be wary that's she's not playing with you & toying with your feelings, ok?
2006-08-20 01:05:18 · answer #2 · answered by Queenie Tay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've heard the saying, "once bitten twice shy>" This girl is cautious about getting involved, and for good reason,------she just recently got out of a 3 year relationship. I think if you are willing to hang in there and not pressure her for more closeness than she is able to offer u now, that things could develop into a nice, decent relationship.
2006-08-20 01:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some time, be a friend, but don't pursue anything. She may still be on the rebound.
However ... There was a guy who broke up with his girlfriend of over 4 years a month before he met me ... and that was almost three years ago, and we're getting married!!
I would just be her friend and be there for her--let her make the first move, and see what happens.
2006-08-20 01:04:35 · answer #4 · answered by Bachman-ette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it at her pace. dont' rush. and if you feel her slipping away do something drastic like a romantick spontanous dinner for two or a moonlite night (you get the PIC)
Hope this helps and relationships can be built from anything.... I mean .. come on if inbreeders can do it then I'm sure a casual relationship can turn into a serious one.
hope this helps
James
2006-08-20 01:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by dark_blue_prince 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her the time she needs. The last thing you need is a woman who brings baggage to your relationship. If you both have strong feelings for each other it will slowly evolve to everything and more you want it to be.
2006-08-20 01:04:11 · answer #6 · answered by suckably_sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say it could blossom into a good relationship. just don't bother her too much about you liking her. She'll get annoyed and want to stop being your friend.
just wait for her since the both of you have strong feelings for each other. she'll come around.
2006-08-20 01:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by sellatieeat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in relationships we all learn lessons. be it rushing from the beginning to waiting to long. If she learned that she should have taken her time to get to know him better...than that's just a lesson she learned...a lesson you can learn as well....is that you should never rush a person into a relationship...not knowing who they are.. the word casual come from the word comfort.....if there is comfort in a relationship...things move along better....she has been held for three years....I am sure you would like to tie her down...as far as her being your girl...but she was just that...she wants to be able to keep her freedom...and not necessarily answer to someone at the moment....
2006-08-20 01:16:07 · answer #8 · answered by Chocolate_Bunny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably will need some "space." You don't want to be the rebound relationship.
Don't put ANY pressure on her, or she will just avoid you.
Hang out with her and be a buddy - if she wants more - lucky you! If not - it wasn't meant to be and you will find someone else when the time is right.
2006-08-20 01:00:40 · answer #9 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
become her best friend and give her time to heal from her past realtionship, you dont want to enter a realtionship with some that has baggage because its only going to cause problems in your realtionship. Give her time to heal and just be there for her. Listen to her, advice her and be her best friend, because that is what she needs right now. and just let time do what it has to do.. In order for a real realtionship to be successful you both have to be friends first and then comes everything else. So give it time.
2006-08-20 01:03:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋