how do you tell your mom...?

Question

that you need more space and that she is sufficating you, even tho you live 500 miles apart.

Answer 1

I can't help you, dear. My mom is my best friend.

Answer 2

If she lives 500 miles away then it should be simple, only anser the phone when you want to talk to her. Tell her it is hard to be independent with her always there for you. Us moms have a tough time letting go. There is an emptyness when our children no longer need us. We then sit up late at night doing things like-Yahoo answers-lol. Let her know that you need her but that you want/need time without her comfort there because you need to learn to use all of the skills she taught you to be independent and self reliant.

Answer 3

Good Luck with that! It's nearly impossible to tell someone who's over-involved to back off a little.

Try to encourage her finding a hobby that will divert some of her interest. But since you can't really do anything to change her your best bet is to try getting a hobby yourself -- one that she would support so that when you are spending time elsewhere she will at least make an attempt to understand that you have your own life to live and give you a little breathing room.

Again, good luck. Take baby steps.
Live well, laugh Often & LOVE MUCH!

Answer 4

Just tell her you need more space. Say it nicely and tell her you love her.
You might also think about how much love and attention your mom gave you during all the years you lived with her. I'm sure there were times she might have needed more space, but she loved you more than her love for needing space.
Sometimes you don't know how much you would miss your mother, until she's no longer around.
Good luck.

Answer 5

This is something that I have been through, and now my mom and I are so close. It all goes back to her and her mother. Ask her questions about hers and her mothers relationship. Remind her of what it was like to be your age. The truth is, she is so afraid of her mothering you, into someone she should have been. She is probably afraid of not living up to her own expectations of being a mother. You have to talk to her and be honest with your feelings. She must respect your wishes. You wanting to talk to her can be scary, but just think of how she feels. Motherhood is just has scary as your worst horror movie. You never know what to expect with your childhood. It is terrifying. Understand your mom, and let her understand you. Build a bond with her. She is the one who gave you life, now let her in your life, to understand you need space.

Answer 6

just tell her. i always tell my mom give me space. and she understands. i don't really understand how she can do that if its 500 miles away. but anyway. just be honest. and if she don't understand don't answer your phone. or leave an voice message on your phone to her. tell her you are OK. but you need some space. and you love her.

Answer 7

well, dont tell her that shes sufficating you, just tell you that you want to go out with friends, and do other stuff... not always hang out with her, then tell her your an adult now.. but you still love her... and will call her when you have free time, or have lunch sometime etc. Good Luck! [ I still live with my parents]

Answer 8

You must tell her that your getting older and need more of a private life, you can't tell her everything tell her that she is sufficating you she should understand

Answer 9

Ummm how is she suffocating you from 500 miles away

Answer 10

5 miles I can undertand, but 500? It's not like she can walk over during her lunch break and smother you with affection, is it?

Answer 11

Find an interest which keeps you away from the phone and the computer. She can't bother you if you don't take calls or answer messages.