the doctor wanted to hospitalize me, i talked my way out of it...i am not ok, and need to let my foster mom know whom i live with...please offer any suggestions
2006-08-19 17:51:06 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
she is going to find out if i dont tell her... md will end up saying something if i dont..plus she knows that something is wrong...
2006-08-19 17:58:30 · update #1
another concern is that i dont want her to be mad, she always tries to fix things for me...and i tell her i have to learn how to deal with somethings on my own
2006-08-19 18:00:54 · update #2
actually i am of age...im in my midtwenties, work as a nurse...im pretty independant, although i do live with my foster mom because she has taken me in as her own...i love her to pieces...i just cant give anymore, and i dont want to disappoint her...she has done so much to help me...but she cant help me with this
2006-08-19 18:11:37 · update #3
Why didn't you take the doctors advice and get hospitalised? Nevermind. Depression affects our ability to make sensible choices.
You don't need to tell your foster mom, but it might help. If the doctor tells her against your wishes, sue his *** or at least find a new doctor.
You don't have to deal with this on your own. In fact you probably will not be able to deal with this without help. Your foster mom might be able to help, but by the sounds of it she could also do a lot of damage. You NEED a therapist. If you don't want to go to hospital you may need medication. It can help a lot.
Good luck.
2006-08-19 18:21:11 · answer #1 · answered by Fred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not go into the hospital. The truth is doctors don't just put people in hospitals for nothing. He obviously thinks your not okay either. As far a telling your foster mom, have her go to the doctor with you or just be open and honest and tell her that you are dealing with a bad depression and your doc feels you should be hospitalized. You do know that at some point, they don't need your permission to put you there if they feel you are a risk to yourself or others. Be safe and be honest or you won't get the help you need to feel better.
2006-08-19 17:59:42 · answer #2 · answered by bellamonster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, let yourself be hospitalized! I have been there & its truly a scary thing to go thru, but trust me, you will look back & realize that you made the right choice.
As for telling your foster mom, thats a hard choice. Is she an understanding woman? Most of the time, when you approach people (especially those that care about you) with a sincere issue, you are surprised at the understanding that they give you. Maybe approach her with the desire to talk to her one on one & let her know it is an issue close to your heart. You may be surprised at her compassion.
If you are still unsure, leave her a letter. That worked for me. Writing gives you time to compose your thoughts & can even be a form of therapy.
My heart truly goes out to you & how you are feeling. I am saying a prayer for you & wishing you all the best in the world!
Good luck!
2006-08-19 18:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by emvannattan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? if you are under 18 then you need to talk to a doctor. don't expect any proper answers in a public forum.
yes, you do need help, but this might not be the best place for it.
there are a lot of meds out now for what you have. Zoloft is great for adults, but some kids go nuts on the stuff. See, you need to sit down with a shrink and go over your options. if you don't like the doctor you see - get another one. No one will be offended. your mental well being is more important.
2006-08-19 18:01:21 · answer #4 · answered by MotherNature 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your doctor to be present when you tell her. Also, write your foster mother a letter - and emphasize that you want to keep her informed, but that you aren't able to handle answering her questions or handling her way of dealing with things. You have to get better for you - not for her and no one can force you to get better. It's a choice that you alone must make and being hospitalized is nothing to be ashamed of. I was - and it was the best thing that happened to me...my family was informed by the doctors who answered every question they had because i told my parents that I didn't want to talk about it. You can do this....if you need to talk to someone feel free to email me or IM me - I'll always try to answer anything I can as soon as possible.
2006-08-19 18:16:45 · answer #5 · answered by sean_ahlers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a similar situation. I tried to be assertive, but not aggressive with the person. I just let them know how bad I felt. And, I am sure she would rather see you get the help. Once, I did have the therapist to call my parents and tell them I was to be hospitalized.
2006-08-19 17:58:22 · answer #6 · answered by catzrme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can show her the list of your medications with it's indications. You can also ask your doctor to call her.
2006-08-19 17:58:36 · answer #7 · answered by Azazelo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that you have been suffering from depression and anxiety and that you could use some extra support right now... hopefully she will be understanding....
if not ....is there a school counselor you could talk to?
2006-08-19 17:57:00 · answer #8 · answered by myheartisjames 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her. She will need to know anyway since she is responsible for you.
2006-08-19 17:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by Diane D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you have to tell her?
2006-08-19 17:56:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋