how do you control a "sprited" child?

Answer 1

I think you mean spirited. There's a great book called "The Indigo Children" that might help you. Check it out from your local library.

According to Carroll and Tober, "the Indigo Child is a boy or girl who displays a new and unusual set of psychological attributes, revealing a pattern of behavior generally undocumented before." These psychological attributes and behavior patterns include, but are not limited to, being technologically advanced, head- and mind-oriented, fearless, empathic, telepathic, wise beyond their years, and extremely intuitive and self-empowered.

Carroll and Tober assert that these children are often misdiagnosed with Attention-Deficit Disorder or Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, and they advise parents to avoid medicating them for that condition despite warnings from legitimate doctors. This pattern, they claim, has unique factors that call on parents and teachers to change their treatment and upbringing of these children in order to assist them in achieving balance and harmony in their lives, and to help them avoid frustration. These classifications differ significantly from conventional child psychology and sociology.

Answer 2

I wouldn't say you can control them, but you can direct them. But there's not much info I can give you with just that question. At different stages in a child's life there are different ways of handling spirited behaviors. My toddler, for example, all we can do is direct him towards what he is or is not allowed to do. He won't understand much else. And 8-10 year olds will have independance struggles and will be more inclined to do things to test your reactions and see how far they can go. But trying to instill control over a child can be debateale. My mother-in-law insists that a child must know that the parents are in control. Admittedly, her son grew up fine, but he also had a very laid-back personality. Trying to exert control over me or my siblings only caused a bad relationship between us and our parents. Instead, redirecting our behavior to a more positive set of activities worked well. But we were all very different, and so redirection was individual to each of us. But due to the early control factors, I ended up being mentally traumatized which I'm just now getting over. Some decent stuff is in what would be known as New Age materials. The Care and Feeding of Indigo Children by Doreen Virtue has many good ideas. Another is The Indigo Children, which was already mentioned. And remember, nothing is a set way of doing things. Take what works, and store the rest to think about. Your child's personality is what will ultimately teach you what works and what doesn't. But just about anything is worth a try.

Top 10 Tips for Parenting Indigos
http://www.metagifted.org/topics/metagifted/indigo/parenting/top10TipsForParents.html
--This is what worked well for me. I was a spirited child, but also a spiritual child. Looking down on me was an easy way to anger me. When my father started using tips similar to these (my father taught me some relaxation techniques, but I taught myself to meditate) I made drastic improvements in behavior. Only a third of these might work on my brother, however. Some people think that it means you let a child run amok, but every child needs to know that there are limits set for safety. But again, I don't know how old your child is, so I can't give you a fully appropriate response.

Answer 3

You can't control the spirit. But you have to control the child. A book I once read said to break the spirit. I can't understand why one would want to break a childs spirit. I think the key is to giving the child attention. As much attention as you possibly can. Maybe with positive attention and seeing how you act he can learn the difference of right and wrong. My prayers are with you. I have a son with a strong spirit. He is now in juvenile detention because I just didn't teach him better. I wish I could go back and do it again. I know there are things I would do differently. For instance, I wouldn't let him get away with anything. I thought I was being a good mother by letting him sneak a cookie or two every now and then. I remember this one time when we were driving down the road. He climbed out of his seatbelt. He was only 3 yrs old. I immediatly pulled over and put him back in his seatbelt and told him he had to keep in on for safety. The second time I pulled over (just seconds after I took off again) I gave him a small swat on the leg and told him again that he had to keep his seatbelt on. I swear to you that by the time we got home he had several red marks on his leg and was screaming bloody murder, even though he still refused to sit in his carseat. I did adjust the seat to where he couldn't undo it himself after that incident, but the whole scene just drained me of energy and made me feel like a failure as a parent. I know how you feel. I think maybe a parenting class or something. I went to one of those but I wasn't consistant with it. God bless you and your child.

Answer 4

You have to be two steps ahead of him. Keep his time as constructive as possible. Keep his belly full and give him quiet time reading ( Sometimes the 'SPIRITED' child is just frustrated and over stimulated - same as a fussy baby.)
Good luck! I have a 'Spirited' child. He is not bad, just hates not being heard, understood, just gets tired or hungry.
I'm not sure if you mean that he is acting out, very busy, sassy - strong willed... But I do know that you much watch out for the things that set him off.

Answer 5

I was a very "spirited" child...and the ONLY thing that worked was for my parents to give me a spanking. I know all the little giggle sissy child psychologists nowadays say that corporal punishment is wrong...but that was the only thing that worked for me. No matter what other punishment my parents tried...withholding privileges, sending me to my room, not letting me do things I wanted to do, grounding me...if I didn't get a whipping, I figured I had jolly well gotten away with it.

Answer 6

What is a sprited child

Answer 7

You don't. Trust me...it's impossible and a waste of time...what you need to do is find a way to get them to 'want' to do what your asking. Generally....punishments don't work at all for my 'spirited' child...but rewards are amazing! Depending on age...when he was little I carried around stickers and treats all the time. Now he understands that he'll get rewarded in the end. He gets paid to do 'extra' stuff around the house and paid for behavior as well. eash time I have to tell him something more than once...he loses 50cents. All it took is for his brother to get get money one week and he didn't....now, he's the 'good child'

Good luck!

Answer 8

Im not sure. What is a "sprited" child?

Answer 9

I don't know if you can "control" one, but you can certainly teach the child to be appropriate. Be fair, firm and consistent. Pick your battles, and don't expect more from the child than what is normal for that child's age.

Answer 10

Lot's of after school activities and challenging schoolwork.
If you mean by "spirited" that the child is a misbehaving little bugger thaen consequences for actions and follow through