are there any nice guys anymore?ones that don't lie,don't abuse their girlfriends,don't play with girls' heads,don't set out to hurt them?if you're a guy or a girl,please give your honest opinion.and,also,are ALL guys just out for sex?i mean,are there any guys at all,who want a real relationship,that doesn't have to involve sex?and,are there any guys,who aren't bi-sexual,or hiding in their gay closet,using girls on the side,when the truth is,they really prefer guys over girls,anyway?i wonder sometimes,just what goes through guys' heads half the time.
2006-08-19 17:29:57 · 65 answers · asked by Miss yavatar girl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-08-19 19:00:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem here is miscommunication. The way you described the perfect man is how a woman would behave in a relationship. Men and women are totally different. To a woman, sex is not the end all and be all of a relationship. She can take it or leave it sometimes. Her self-esteem is not wrapped up in sex. For a man, it's different. Men crave sex, and sex can be just a mechanical act for them, but when they are with someone they love, sex for men is about trust, acceptance, affirmation, and love. Women can express these things verbally and with abandon, but men really can't. The male subculture really dampens any emotional release, so the male psyche re-channels that energy into the sex act.
If you want a loving relationship with a man that doesn't involve sex, you don't want a relationship, you want a friendship. Asking a man to be in a loving, trusting, committed relationship with you that doesn't involve sex is just unfair. If you want a relationship with a man, but no sex, you need to find a great gay friend. A gay man is a straight girl's best friend. He is a guy, he can give you a guy's point of view, but he can also relate to all those girl things that a straight guy just can't understand. Also, if you are so opposed to sex with a man, maybe you need to find a gay girl instead.
2006-08-19 17:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by Bastet's kitten 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes nice guys exist, and the saying nice guys finish last definately is true. I am always the nice guy that becomes nothing more then a friend, I hate it. It is so hard to find a girl who wants somebody nice, I have been told that girls don't like me because I am too nice, whats with that????? What is being too nice? I like being nice because I was raised to be proper. Not all guys are out for just sex either, I don't want to until I get married, I have had it in the past but I messed up and now know I should have waited. BTW I AM STRAIGHT
2006-08-19 17:35:53 · answer #3 · answered by Southie9 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe there are some nice guys still floating around, the problem is however when they run into women who have been treated like crap they end up getting the Short end of the stick, they then want to use them and treat them how they were treated which spoils it for the next good girl that comes along, and no their not always looking for sex but, it does play an important role in any relationship that is meant to be long term
2006-08-19 17:37:38 · answer #4 · answered by black 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound more like you're venting frustration rather than wanting an answer. Your questions reveal more about you than the guys you've obviously been dissapointed with. Figure out the guy you want (be realistic), then get yourself ready to be the person that fits that guy. I bet he's looking for you too, and is frustrated with women that want to mess with his mind or have hidden agendas.
Yes, truly nice guys exist all the time. The trick is not to find out their values, but the values that their father or whoever their role model values have. They will grow up to be that role model.
Guys who are of legal age are usually past the time to get their values changed without serious emotional blockage(s) removed. You can still train them to not miss the bowl, or always ensure the seat is down afterwards, but you cannot change their values without trauma & drama.
What goes through guys' heads half the time? As a guy, I can honestly answer that my life so far, goes through my head at least half the time, just like every other guy. Even guys who are just out for sex think about their lives so far, at least half the time.
There. You have truth. Move on. You cannot control guys, but you can control you. Get yourself ready for that guy, because he is looking for you.
2006-08-23 00:13:48 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, I know ther there a very few truley nice, gentlemen-like males that still wander this earth. Throughout our society's media, masculinity has the equivilent to prosperity, enjoyment, success, etc. Any feminine traits are criticized and thought of unnatural. Personally, I believe it is nurture (not nature) that causes men to act as such. I wuz raised by 3 women (mother and 2 older sisters) without my dad, and I'm aware that I'm not the most buffed up dude, nor the most jockish, but I love people and people love me. I've learned to treat women with respect and integrity, even though masculine tendencies are more attractive within our culture. I am not sure if my personal view will help you find your answer, but I hope everthang turns out well for ya.
BTW I'm straight as well.
2006-08-19 17:41:06 · answer #6 · answered by krayzebboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Varies. Heaviliy religious guys I've been coming across lately are NOT out looking for sex at all. I'm sure if they found someone who shared their religion and virginity, they'd get along perfectly well. Yet, in my case, I've found all these religious guys to be more rude than the average guy. It actually seems the type of girl they want is one they can baby and keep at home and blah blah blah; so they treat me like shet just b/c I'm independent and have my own morals. LAME. But yes, there are nice guys, and no, they don't all want sex. But remember, every guy you get out of a relationship with, will always come across as seeming to be an Ahole.
2006-08-19 17:37:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Truly nice guys exist, you just have to know where to look for them. There are plenty of guys who don't abuse/play with/ set out to hurt/ only care about sexual relations with girls. I, for one, am one such guy, but i am being hurt by a girl who is exactly what you were describing. The question is do truly nice people exist anymore. I do not know the answer, but i believe they do, if you only look in the right places.
2006-08-19 17:45:31 · answer #8 · answered by pilotmanitalia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does that mean you just want a friend? You said no sex. But yes they do exist . everyone has there own issues and baggage so if you want someone perfect and that doesn't have the urge at all the have sex with you, you should get a pet. You should feel good that someone wants to have sex with you. My friend told me that when I was complaining. Some girls don't get that. we think its bad but think if no one wanted to have sex with you but they were completely nice then what. We always have a problem with something be thankful my friend would tell you, You are fired a being a good looking woman
2006-08-19 17:36:14 · answer #9 · answered by Becky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how old you are, it may be a simple case of guys maturing more slowly. A girl at 18 to 20 might be looking for a "settle down" kind of relationship, but most guys are not.
Or maybe all the good guys are taken now. My husband is a wonderful man. And, I must say, my sister-in-law got a good one marrying my brother.
Don't give up. There is at least one good guy for you.
2006-08-19 17:35:40 · answer #10 · answered by Tina K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes there are nice guys out here. and as a guy i have to say...I HATE THE GAMES, THE LIES, THE ABUSE...ALL OF IT I HATE IT ALL....and not all guys are out for sex....personally sex is the last thing im after....i'd rather get to know a girl....develop a relationship and leave the sexual side out of it all. Im STRAIGHT, not even close to bi or bi-curious or gay (thats just not right....makes me wanna vomit).....and the things going through a guys head are complex even to us....but not all of us are extremely complex...we do try to stay on the simple side a lot.
if you ever want to talk about this more feel free to email me sometime.... do_sctc145@yahoo.com
2006-08-19 20:15:34 · answer #11 · answered by do_sctc145 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋