I think the answer lies in a second question: is your best friend okay with it? Truly okay with it? Some best friends are, some aren't. Sometimes it depends on the relationship - when it ended, how it ended, who ended it, and so forth. Some best friends won't want to admit it bothers them, because they don't want to appear jealous or possessive. Some best friends will be bothered because they want the guy back, some because they don't want him back but it would just be too weird, some for other reasons - who knows! And of course, some best friends couldn't care less. If you really can't tell how your best friend feels, and you really want to date him, discuss it with your friend - gently, and watch her body language to see if she seems upset by it. Stress that if she isn't comfortable with it - even if it's simply for the reason that it would just be weird - you'll back out, and that's no problem. (That way, even if it isn't about "weirdness" and it goes deeper than that, she won't feel awkward having to tell you.) Basically, be as understanding and gentle as you can. Remember to keep your priorities straight - she's your friend and deserves loyalty - and move from there.
Good luck!
2006-08-19 17:05:21
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answered by ghost orchid 5
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I would say that it depends on how long ago they dated. Is your friend still upset over the break up? Does she still have feelings for him? If it has been at least a few months then I say ask your friend if it would be alright if you dated her ex. But you need to realize that it could also end the friendship if she feels like she is being betrayed. Good luck.
2006-08-19 17:22:39
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answered by Anonymous
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It depends on how your friend feels about that. If she's ok with it then I don't see why not. However, I suspect few girls want their best friend to date their ex, so it's probably not a good idea.
2006-08-19 20:42:17
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answered by undir 7
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Its ok but later something will be wrong may be between you and your best friend or between you and the ex boyfriend. It happened to me.
2006-08-19 17:10:32
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answered by crisantom 1
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As long as they are really and truly 'ex' -- and it was a friendly breakup. You'd be asking for trouble if they ended up hating each other. That would mean you couldn't ever have them together at the same time. No friendly dinners. No double dates. No weekend adventures etc.etc.etc.
2006-08-19 17:03:40
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answered by old lady 7
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it really is fairly no individual's position to inform you if it truly is okay - it really is thoroughly your decision. no individual else can grant you with the "a-ok" as a lot as now your deceased pal's ex. actual, in case you 2 were close, she might want to likely want you to be at liberty, and that i'm positive she needs him to be at liberty, too. yet posting this on a area like this gained't help you. it is your decision and it really is depending totally on the way you sense morally, emotionally, and so on. you're in fee of your own existence, no longer random those who study your questions.
2016-11-26 19:16:55
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answered by ? 4
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it depends on how your friends feels about. As long as all parties agree it's OK. There really shouldn't be a problem, just make sure your friend isn't just saying they are over the relationship.
2006-08-19 17:23:02
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answered by C J 7
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And the answere is! NO. Since you are going to ignor this, how about NO again. Reaching into the deepest parts of your heart and soul. The same answer, only resounding.
2006-08-19 17:16:05
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answered by billlucas14all 3
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NO, NO and NO. It is most unwise. Unless they have been EX a VERY long time and friend says OK.
2006-08-19 17:02:55
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answered by Sweet Gran 4
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So, like, one week after you start dating him, he breaks up with you and tries to go back to her. Goodbye best friendship! And can you deal with people pointing at you and laughing at you for being, well, stupid and gullible? Duh, he dated you to get back at her!
Rule: never date anyone your best friend dated. Period. Even when you are mad at her. Boyfriends come and go, but best friends are forever.
2006-08-19 17:17:10
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answered by riversconfluence 7
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