how do you convince a guy to break a promise to god? or at least rethink it?

Question

I really like this guy but one of his friends told me he decided to never get married/do anything with a girl....how can i convince him otherwise?

Answer 1

What you are basically asking is how to help your friend overcome his mental illness. You may not be able to yourself, but in the near future scientists will surely be able to help you, but perhaps not in time to snare this guy into your love nest.

The following might help you understand the mental problem that you are dealing with. Scientists will soon explain why some people are religious and believe in God, and why there’s so much trouble caused in the world by religion. Scientists have already shown that some people carry a "warrior" gene that makes them more prone to violence and criminal acts.

Some people are genetically predisposed to violence and criminal acts, and I believe scientists have also found that some people are genetically predisposed to religious or spiritual acts, but have yet to publish their full findings to avoid a public uproar.

Scientists may well discover that people who are predisposed to the “religious or spiritual” gene are probably more likely to also be predisposed to the “warrior” gene, which would ultimately cause these people to have religious conflicts like crusades and wars. It is already a well known fact that religion is responsible for the majority of wars, conflict and murder of innocent life since humanity began.

Religious people do not understand the question “why” and so God, Religion, the Bible, or whatever, takes over and controls their mind. The trouble with this solution, unlike science, is that anything can be twisted into whatever you wish to believe and therefore is always right. Sadly to say, that’s irrational thought.

However, there must be a rational explanation why religious people act in such an irrational manner, and I think scientists will prove in the near future that it’s all a function of genetic disposition.

It’s also a well known fact that intellectually handicapped people are often quoted as being the happiest people in the world. They are so blissfully unaware of the true world around them, and see and believe reality to be quite different in their mental worlds.

I think religious people are blessed with a similar “handicapped” gift which would explain why they see and believe in the imaginary world of religion, God and the Bible. I think religious people are also blissfully unaware of reality in their mentally handicapped world. This could help, explain their irrational behaviour.

Answer 2

If a man has enough character and integrity to not break a promise, whether to God or anyone else, isn't he like one of the greatest men you could know?

Think of it this way: If he doesn't break a promise to God or anyone, aren't you even more assured he would keep a promise to you! Wouldn't he be worth the kind of guy to marry and have him keep his promise/vows to you when he says, "I will love honor and cherish...in sickness and in health... till death do us part"???

On the other hand, if you CAN get him to break a promise to God or anyone else, I guess you've learned HE cannot be trusted and YOU can't be trusted either. Why? Because what person would try to make another break a promise to God or anyone? THAT person is no friend at all!

When I got married, I wanted to marry my best friend...and I did, and she has never let me down! And never once has she asked me to break a promise or compromise my life. Can YOU be THAT kind of a woman?

ON THE OTHER HAND...if by getting him to change his mind about getting married...hmmm, well, I think it is a foolish oath to make and he should reconsider WHY the oath is taken: was it for fear or faith? And if it was for fear, then it could be a wrong thing to do (it puts limits on God) and if it is for faith, then depending on what you are in the relationship for (friendship or more) will tell you wat to do (be a friend or leave him alone!).

Also, if it is for faith, he needs to be cautious in relationships not to lead girls on to believe more is intended in his actions than what there is.--my thirty-two cents worth...

Answer 3

I went to a Catholic college that had a seminary attached and I heard a lot of stories like yours.

Best advice, forget about a relationship with him. If God is calling him for something else, then so be it. Its not your place to change it.

Second best advice, stay close friends with him and allow him to come to the decision on his own. Give him subtle hints that you're interested in him, but also that you're giving him space. If he decides that he wants to get involved, and you're close friends, then he'll probably want to get involved with you. Just so you know, this could take years and may end up with him still not wanting to do his thing.

Good Luck.

Answer 4

Maybe the guy was hurt In the past by another Girl. or something like that. Please don't make him break a promise to God. that Is wrong. how would you feel If he tried to get you to break a promise to God?

Answer 5

Why in the world would you want anyone to break a promise to God? You are pretty much saying that just because you like this guy, you wish that just for the time he is here on Earth, he should please you and then spend eternity in hell paying for it. That is VERY selfish of you!!

Answer 6

definite you've sinned. the very undeniable actuality that your feeling guilt is data of your salvation. Sin causes the Reborn regret. remember previously you knew God you likely by no skill gave it 2d theory. very just about to the lost Sin became likely a existence-style even per chance a pal. Now remember Titus 3:5 he kept us, no longer because of righteous issues we had carried out, yet because of his mercy. He kept us through the showering of rebirth and renewal through the Holy Spirit, Micah 7:18 who's a God like you, who pardons sin and forgives the transgression of the remnant of his inheritance? you do not stay indignant continually yet pride to prepare mercy. God is forgiving, we are no longer kept through what sturdy issues we do because it would want to by no skill be adequate It became through the mercy and style of God. Pray and make an apology and attempt now to not do it back. God Bless. i will say a prayer for you, and in case you do not concepts I easily have one unstated prayer request.

Answer 7

Unless you want him to end up hating you and himself, you had better not even try to do that. If he has enough integrilty to try to keep this promise, you would be very wise to support his decision and be his best friend. Upright people like him are rare in this day and age.

Answer 8

If he wants to be with you he will. If he does not want to be with you then he will not. You state you really like this guy, but obviously you don't. You are not thinking of what he wants to do with his life. You are only thinking of yourself. Try not focusing some much on yourself and maybe the right guy will come along.

Answer 9

Break a promise he made to God?

You have a job in front of you.

Answer 10

Never get married? Go in to the priesthood? Ask him yourself and don't trust what one of his friends said.