My fiance goes from one extreme to the next...one month he will want to have sex all the time...the next month he doesn't want to have sex at all...it varies.
I am pregnant...we had discussed having children and we decided that we would want to have kids...upon finding out that I was pregnant, he told me that he wanted me to have an abortion...two days later he told me that he wanted us to have it...two days later he told me that he wanted to have no kids at all.
He sleeps only about 3-4 hours a night and is fine...he is angry a lot...one week he will be really sweet...the next week he is mean.
His mother has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder.
He has the "I don't care" attitude towards life.
He was also sexually abused as a child.
He refuses to see a doctor...counselor...psycologist...ect. He gets angry when I ask him about going.
I love him & I want us to work.
What could this be...? What can I do to get him help?
2006-08-19 16:24:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Bipolar disorder does have a genetic factor, but his mood changes are too frequent to be bipolar. It sounds like he definitely has some sort of serious emotional/mental disorder, and because of his refusal to get a counselor, there is not much hope of him getting treatment.
I'm sorry for the situation you're in, especially since you're pregnant. I dont' understand why you picked this person to love and be the father of your child, but sometimes we all do things without thinking, and allow ourselves to think with our hearts instead of our heads.
The only thing you can do is give him an ultimatum - get counseling, or you'll leave him. And then follow through. You don't have much of a future with him the way he is, and he wouln't make much of a father.
2006-08-19 16:34:04 · answer #1 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not help someone that doesn't want to have help. No matter how much you want to. My first suggestion would be that he get more sleep. Even if he thinks it doesn't effect him, it does! Getting enough quality sleep is very important. Not getting enough can make people gain weight and cause physical health problems! Personally, I think it sounds like he doesn't know what he wants! The second reason why he maybe acting "crazy" is because a baby is involved. Realizing how much that can change your life can be mind blowing! That could make anyone act a little strange! It would be a good idea to get him to see a psychologist or a doctor just in case he does have a serious problem but you can't make him if he doesn't want to. Just don't forget to take care of your new baby and yourself!
PS: I have heard that men's sexual patterns change if they are cheating. Just some info but to be safe side it might be a good idea to just keep an eye on him. Good luck!
2006-08-19 16:57:16 · answer #2 · answered by wwj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bipolar disorder is genetic. So most likely that is what it is as well as what seems like depression. I honestly dont know how to get him to go see a doctor, but maybe just having a friend who happens to be a "professional" com and talk to him? Im not sure if this helps but he seriously needs medication or even just some counsiling, and i know how badly you want this to work, but you need to do something before he gets violent, wich is more likely to happen in this case. And as for the baby thing, that might just be an immature guy thing. I mean, he may want to have kids with you, but just be scared and unable to admit it. But in the end you need to decide what you want, its your baby too. I am personally pro life so im trying not to be biased or anything. sorry. This doesnt mean that it wont work, you two just have a long road ahead of you until things start going smoothly, this journy of realization for him is going to be a real roller coaster but the best thing you can do for him is to be there and support him through it all, while also advising him to get help.
2006-08-19 16:40:11 · answer #3 · answered by krissy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as if this person has Bipolar disorder and may even have a personality disorder which would account for some of the anger. He needs to get help tomanage his mood swings. He can only be diagnosed by a professional. There are some books out on the market that might helphim help himself with his mood se=wings
2006-08-19 17:34:17 · answer #4 · answered by cbellsew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like Bipolar, try your GP if not, it is harsh sometimes on the mentally ill person and loved ones. Ask him why in a calm way maybe stroke his back or say something sweet. Lots of luck!
2006-08-19 16:30:40 · answer #5 · answered by Golden Ivy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mental health is overlooked and difficult to get the person to seek help. Bipolar, OCPD, homosexual issues, stress of being a father as well as anxiety about his reality. He needs to realize help is available and there is no taboo in mental health.
Whish you all the luck!!!
2006-08-19 16:39:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him about things first, if he's having a mood swing try to get him to calm down and just talk openly about things. Not about going to see a doctor or something, but just talking to him to see if he's OK and how he's doing.
If people don't want to find help, they won't find help! I wish you guys the best of luck!!
2006-08-19 16:32:32 · answer #7 · answered by Adam G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your husband also has Bipolar disorder. its hereditary..i THINK the chances are about 50% if the parent has it. so when your hubby is in oneof his good mooods sit him down and talk to him about it...how you feel and how you want the marriage & family to work out cause you love him and all...and if that doesnt work..simply make an appointment with the coucelor and drag your hubby there somehow...make him feel really guilty so he would go. good luck & best wishes
2006-08-19 17:15:12 · answer #8 · answered by krissy_pod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could definitely be bipolar disorder but only a professional psychologist can diagnose someone.
2006-08-19 16:30:19 · answer #9 · answered by wizfen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him checked out for Bipolar. It sounds like he is. It will be okay if he is too. You have a baby one the way and all you can do I support him.
2006-08-19 18:01:46 · answer #10 · answered by Samantha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋