He has a very big ego and lives by the words "do what I say not what I do" I have always just wanted to be his equal and he tried but sooner or later he would do somthing disrespectful and it was always down hill. He is already living with another girl and we have only been broken up for less than 3 months. He will never give money to my parents that he borrowed. But yet I know better and should just move on but I can't. It's to hard to be intimate with another cause we were very good together in that way. How can I make him realize that he helped distroy our love and how can I make him see what he lost???
2006-08-19 15:51:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That sucks, Shug. You keep thinking about him, not because you miss him and you still care, but because you are still angry. You never got to have your say. You never got to tell him how you felt and what a total sh*t he was. It's called unfinished business and it sucks like a bastard. The worst part is, if you dont' get yourself to a mental place where you can move on and get past him, you will stew about how angry you are at him forever. And you will never be able to "make him realize" anything, particularly "what he lost", etc. This guy sounds too self-involved to understand anything other than what he wants. Focus on the fact that you are better off without his poisonous negative influence in your life, and just move on!!! It's hard, but you have to do it for your own good.
2006-08-19 16:06:21 · answer #1 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the bigger person and let go. You have to let go to move on and sometimes we don't realize we are holding on. Sure, your man was good in bed but think about all the pain he put you through when he was disrespectful. There are men out there who are both respectful and good in bed, you'll find someone better eventually. In the meantime, just keep up with yourself. Stay in shape and "preserve your sexy". If he see's you around looking good, he'll feel like he made a big mistake letting you go and by then, it'll be too late for him. Sometimes it takes people a long time to realize what they've lost. You deserve better so you shouldn't wait around for him to come to realization. I say checkout yahoo personals or spend time on yourself only!
2006-08-19 22:58:31 · answer #2 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him realize or see what he lost. You are better off without him. I've been there. If he treated you this way, he will do the same to the girl he's with now. Now he is her pain in the as*! Say Good Riddance and get on with your life. I know its painful, but you need to give yourself time. Just take it one day at a time. Pray to God for comfort and guidance. Write down all the things about him that you couldn't stand. You are better off alone then with a creep like that. Trust me. I know.
Good luck.
2006-08-19 23:03:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this modern day and age any man who believes "do what i say not what i do" needs a reality check. Men and women are equal and that is the way we should treat each other.
The saying is if a man is rotten from the core he is rotten. He ent worth your time baby. There are lots of good men out there u just have to have patience and u don't have to accept crap from any man who want to dish it out.
You can love again and who knows it will be sweeter and better.
2006-08-19 23:02:00 · answer #4 · answered by precioustt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd would say "that's too bad" or "just move on", but i know it is far more easy to say it than do it, so I'll leave u with this statement,
u evidently love deeper than he does, so dont think of it as ur loss, think of it as his loss.He had a girl who loved him and cared 4 him and he gave that up. He's stupid.black, white or male or female, we all want the same thing: someone who is willing to love unconditionally.And he just missed out on that.Dont hate him or wish that he'll return, pity him.
2006-08-19 23:05:03 · answer #5 · answered by bkempress718 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as bad as it feels try to move on or you'll just keep reliving the pain. Only you can make the choice to move on. RE-READ the details to your own question... you have already answered your own question bout what you need to do. It's never easy gettting over any love, there is no greater pain. That pain can only worsen by how much control you give them and how long you continue to pine over them.
2006-08-19 22:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by kitkool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like he loved you. Sounds like he just wanted sex and money! Why would you want to be with someone like that. He sounds like a loser to me! Move on! You can do way better! Don't bring yourself down to his level. I know it's going to be hard, but just try doing things to get your mind off of this guy. Do things with your friends or family. I know it'll be very hard at first, but time heals all wounds!
2006-08-19 22:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by New mommy 2010! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were actually in love with a person like this and wasted 4 years of your life with him? What the hell is wrong with you? You're much better off without him in you're life. Move on and find someone that actually respects you...
2006-08-19 22:58:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to do that is to move on, go out, have a good time, if it's a front, its a front, but you need to do it for YOU, because that's who matters. Forget him, he'll never change, and you deserve better.
2006-08-19 22:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by n0love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey its time to move on already unless u want his sorry lying cheatin behind back if u do then go get him already n sop complaining about it.
2006-08-19 22:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋