Why is my mom always so quick to jump to conclusions?

Question

I threw up the other night and she asked me this morning if I've been having "sexual relations" (cause I guess she thought I was throwing up cause I was pregnant [I was throwing up cause I was SICK]).
Like seriously, what the ****. (I DON'T have "sexual relations".)

Answer 1

cuz she cant stand introductions.

Answer 2

How thin is your mom stretched and how much do you talk to her? Once I missed my period for 3 months. My mother was frantic and sure I was pregnant. Like you, I wasn't sexually active and at the time I never had been. I was insulted to the nth degree I assure you. I was worried that something serious was wrong with me and all she could come up with was pregnant?
Well, that was a long time ago. Since I've become an adult I understand.
Schedules are so frantic (then and now) and even family members may neglect to make time to really just talk about things. Perhaps you should try initiating more conversations with your mom about your life if you can. I don't know and I'm not suggesting that you don't talk, but perhaps this signals that you need to talk more. Your mom was (maybe) just trying to break the ice and find out quickly if you had such a problem. Let her in on the fact that you don't engage in sex (nicely) and see where the conversation will go from there.
My mom has passed on now. You won't have your's forever either. Let her get to know the young woman you are becoming from your own perspective. 25 years from now you'll thank me for this advice. You'll understand your mom better too.

Answer 3

Oh my word! I am a mother, and the only reason I can think as to why your mother is acting like this, is because she is a MOTHER!!! It is perfectly natural for her to be worried about you, and don't forget all the teen pregnancies and crisis in the news and all over the media about the younger generation today. She is just trying to help or be protective. I'm sure she doesn't mean to hurt you in a negative way. If this continues to bother you, sit down and have a talk with her. Not only will she get the point, she will also see how mature and grown up you are for coming to her and talking about the problem. Just wait until you have kids.
namaste

Answer 4

Do you have an older sister perhaps that got pregnant ? Could be she is going on her past experience with herself , a sister or you have been acting wierd and she has been wondering what level you have gone to with a boyfriend or shes just being a jerk.
What ever the reason don't get upset about it because... if you are not , then your not... and drop it. She just might be trying to get at you for a reason you don't know.
Rise above the junk and gossip and the OMG stuff.

Answer 5

You don't say how old you are, but let's assume you're 15 or 16 or 17 or 18.... Children this age are having sex, drinking alcohol, driving recklessly, snorting cocaine, sniffing glue, cutting - you get the idea. So, do you allow your mother to know who you are and what you do and with whom, or do you just figure she knows? Well, unfortunately, without hiring a private detective to follow you, your mother can only know what you do from what you tell her.

Now, if you use vile, vulgar language when talking to your mother - no matter what the provocation - you are showing your immaturity and givng her more to worry about.

There is a very old saying..."Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Treat your mother with respect and she will do the same to you.

Answer 6

Then why are you so offended? Have you seen the issues in this day and age?? I think your mom has the right to ask such questions. If you are not, then you shouldn't be so offended. At least she feels like you have a good enough relationship she can just ask you straight if you are or not.

Would you rather she not care, and kick you out on your butt if you ever got pregnant???

Answer 7

Here is where you need to stop and examine this situation. Have you given your mother reasons to suspect you are behaving improperly? If not, then you need to have a talk with your mother. Tell her how much her constantly jumping to the wrong conclusions insults you. Tell her that you have been raised better, and that you respect her and the rules she has laid out for you. If you have given her a reason to jump to these conclusions, then you are responsible for her assumptions because of your actions. You will have to live with it until you can demonstrate by behaving correctly that you are worthy of trusting.

Answer 8

my mother is the same way

when i was a teen, and a virgin, she thought i had an STD when i had a hormone imbalance, making my period come every other week

now, i am an adult, have been married 10 years & today she was at my house and i got a call from my husband's frriend & i talked to him a few minutes and she immediatly thought i was having an affair!

its like she don't even know me and is hell-bent on not likeing me

we should start a club!

Answer 9

thats the way moms are, they worry about their kids all the time, about anything. Parents these days are so paranoid with the media filling their heads of teen pregnancy, stds, etc. sounds to me your mom loves you, and one day if you ever decide to have a child, you to will be the same. I hope i helped, good luck.

Answer 10

a mother worries. It's love. She's unsure, and she is just checking. It would be worse if she didn't care enough to ask. A mother is so quick to jump to conclusions because "Other kids have done it, so can mine!" It's fear of whats happening to others and possibly happening to her or you.

Answer 11

words out of your mouth: Hiding issues, college artwork, pass over-behaving, do no longer supply a crap, those are all reason to decide you. it rather is her interest to decide and accountability to make certain the place her daughter's head is, so she would be able to steer it interior the final direction. possibly your sister replaced right into a greater clever individual growing to be up, and she or he did no longer could concern approximately her being sneaky, college artwork, and behaviour.