This is his first time to be in a school setting. He had a paper to color and the teacher told him that he was scribbling. I know they need to learn to color in the lines but should I have a talk with the teacher about this. My son just turned 4.
2006-08-19 15:33:48 · 19 answers · asked by aaaaa 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I would encourage him to do his best and explain that the teacher is trying to help him learn to hold a crayon and use it well so that someday he'll be able to write his name, notes to Mommy, etc. If you choose to talk with the teacher, please do it without your son's knowledge. I'm sure she/he would appreciate the heads up that your son was upset, but you don't want your son to feel that he doesn't have responsibilities that are sometimes not fun in school. Unfortunately, kindergarten is a different world today. Your son will leave next year able to read and "kid" write. Certainly you don't want him discouraged, but there will be expectations placed on him from now on throughout his years in school.
2006-08-19 15:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by lizziemrocks 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would certainly have a talk with the teacher. How nice to be ridiculed your first time in a school setting in front of your peers! It is not appropriate for an early education teacher to tell a child such a thing. At four, he is not developmentally able to color completely in lines. I would suggest also being sure that the knuckleheads this place is using have degrees, and aren't just high school educated people looking to find a job. I always made sure the people that worked with my children had degrees in education, or at least child development. Good luck to you. Do not be afraid to remove your child to find a better and more nurturing environment. School should not be a competition. How he views this pre-k experience can shape his future and his entire attitude about school. You don't want him turned off to learning this early.
2006-08-19 15:47:58 · answer #2 · answered by alone1with3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is 4! Talk to the teacher and ask her/him what happened the other day. Tell the teacher your son came home upset because of the drawings that he had to do. See what the teacher has to say. Your son is 4 years old, he just wants to color. Kids will try to stay in the lines, but sometimes their creativity overcomes them. I would tell your son that you LOVED the drawings!
2006-08-19 20:49:20 · answer #3 · answered by stephaniea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many kids grow up and mature and learn by, as hard as it sounds, being embarrassed. Thumb suckers stop, scribbling stops, picking noses stop, etc. Doesn't sound like the teacher was very nice about it, but I'd let it go. He's big enough to go to Pre-K, he's big enough to learn how to color like a big kid.
Make sure you love your son up, but don't put the teacher down in front of him. Tell him you'll help him practice at home to show her how well he can color.
2006-08-19 16:08:57 · answer #4 · answered by Margie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Talk to the teacher and tell her you want a more positive reaction next time I know your son needs to learn to color in the lines among other things, that's why we send them to school. She should have been trained for these situations. let her know you want pre K to be a positive experience for him! Learning should be fun! Some teachers just should not be teaching!
2006-08-19 15:45:44 · answer #5 · answered by pixey77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first off talk to the teacher to see what happened because I have a 4 yr old and we know some of the things that they can come up with. Then if this is true I would just ask her to please just show him how to do things the right way. That way you are also looking after you child and being a good mom and also being a good sport in the teachers eyes.
2006-08-20 11:12:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes talk to the teacher. If your son is upset it's important that the teacher know this...my son is starting pre k next month and I certainly would have an issue with this.
2006-08-19 16:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sent my child to pre-school when her sibling started school. Only for 1/2 day to start and then increased it to 2 days this lasted for only 3 weeks as she was unhappy being there. I took her out and never looked back. I was happier because I knew she was being treated well at home and she would be at school soon. I guess I missed her as much as she missed me. I spent valuable time with her teaching her basics. I enjoyed these times so much. She had no problems when she finally went to school. She was ready.
I would not ever, ever tolerate anybody being horrible to my child and to be scribbling at 4years of age is normal and the teacher should not be so hard on the child. Not everyone is a "Da Vinci".
Take your child out of there and teach him yourself the basics, counting to ten, writing his name and the colours etc. Just remember everyone is different and learn at different pace. Make time and spend it with him because your going to miss him so much when he goes to school.
2006-08-21 10:10:22 · answer #8 · answered by slipper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have a talk. At 4, preschool is basically social interaction and letting the child work at his own pace. He shouldn't have been expected to do something more than he wanted to. Children should work with a gentle but undetected guidance from the teacher in preschool. I can see if it was a behavior issue, but not that.
2006-08-19 17:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by shakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should be told that the idea is to take your time and fill in the picture. The teacher may sense that the work was ignored to get it done fast with little pride to get it right. This is important for a young student to begin trying to do it right and not just do it - to do it. But at 4...it may be a bit early to expect patience and pride in workmanship.
2006-08-19 15:40:22 · answer #10 · answered by Kerry Z 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋