My ex and I broke up when I left for college because the long-distance was too hard for him to handle. We remained very close friends and I still am madly in love with him. I recently found out he had a new girlfriend and it broke my heart. I told him I can't talk to him anymore and he broke down saying that he loves me and wants to be with me...its just so hard because I am so far away. He confessed his passion and love for me...saying that he wants to be with me but we are just both living separate lives right now. I don't know what to do because I still love him so much and strongly feel like we will get back together someday. Does he realy still love me and is using this new girl for sex? He calls me all the time to check in and see how I am..tells me he misses me ad everything. I am so confused and emotionally torn! Any advice?
2006-08-19 15:28:12 · 18 answers · asked by Janie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love holds no boundaries, im in love with a guy in england and im in new zealand THAT is far away. We are in love and we are working to get together
2006-08-19 15:33:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's see here the picture you have paintd.
1. Your ex tells you he loves you.
2. Your ex has a girl friend and did NOT tell you.
3. His GF probably does not know he's still contact you and is in love with you.
4. You both live far away from each other at this time and dating each other, right now, is out of the question.
Firstly, anyone who loves you, would not go and break your heart. He's leading a double life and has it good from both ends..you and his now GF. Is that fair to you?
SEcondly, he apparently loves you, but still continues to date this other person. Funny (NOT) how he loves you and STILL manages to date the other girl. This makes me go hhhhmmmm....
Thirdly, you have let him go and that is a good thing.
It is time to give him a few months of "NO CONTACT". Do not answer his calls, do not return his emails, "block" him from your msn. This is the NO CONTACT RULE. "BE STRONG".
It is this time that you both need to find out what you each need in your lives and move on.
Remember this: What is meant to be will always find a way.
IF he truly loves you, and if it's meant to be, he will be back. Don't force things to happen.. the universe will bring you all that you need. THe good things will find it's way to you.
Think good thoughts for you and for him., and wish him the best.
Hope this helps.
2006-08-19 15:48:30 · answer #2 · answered by FunInTheSun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional Security? Sounds like she is using you as a back up plan. Your young you need a woman that wants you physically too if possible not just an oncall emotional guy. She got the best of both worlds 2 different guys=1 complete man you are on the short end of the stick. Don't rush and get a girl for revenge , look for something reall that wnats to get physical or better yet continue your education and career find a girl at college. The older you get the more women are available .
2016-03-26 22:26:43 · answer #3 · answered by Tammie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a male that understands your situation. Time will heal; I promise; cause you will keep this experience as a great memory; for a life time; but, you need to give yourself the understanding all good things come to an end. So put yourself out there to regain independence. Thus, making new routines and goals to keep yourself happy, and busy enough you don't have this time to wonder. Just go do what makes you happy(entertainment wise) and keep your achievments up for a fortunate career. Remeber to keep focus on what your needs are so you can develope your WANTS.
Keep your chin up and build your EGO back up, and find something/ someplace new that may broaden your relationship experiences.
I've been a bachelor for 6years to experience and give you this secret. I do what I want to do, cause I'll find another friend/ relationship that comes into my pleasures in life; and not for me to work on/ worry if she comes; cause I'm content with my career and enviroments I enjoy.
Good Luck
TXDALSTARS
2006-08-19 16:04:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to remain friends or friendly, but live your own lives. If the time does come where you can get together again, be thankful. Life has a funny way of getting things to happen you never expected. There is no rule anywhere I know of that says you can only love one person at a time.
2006-08-19 15:38:42 · answer #5 · answered by Nc Jay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can be true. Guys are buttheads! They are very confusing... he may still love you but not be able to handle the distance. This other girl can't mean that much to him. They just started dating and he is still calling you. BUT how would you feel if that was you in her shoes. You need to let him know that what he is doing to her is wrong. He can't have his cake and eat it too. Don't let him play you and her! Be strong! You will get through it.
2006-08-19 15:37:36 · answer #6 · answered by Dana J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's miserable reality how is gonna be the future from right now. How much he relay loves you - who knows. This is the love
on the phone right now - how you want make real. If You are positive You want to be together - you have to do something for it.
I can't help you - you have to help etch other to happened to solved the mystery.
You already got some lessons if you want wait longer - better have open eyes every day - because somebody for you is just walking and you don't want to miss him. Believe me.
2006-08-19 15:42:38 · answer #7 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he really does care about you. But lets be real the distance would cause problems if you guys got back together. I suggest you take a page out of your ex boyfriends book and start seeing other guys. It doesn't mean that you have to give up with eventually being with your ex boyfriend but it would really help you to stop thinking so much about him.
2006-08-19 15:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by skris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no doubt of your sincerity. It could very well be true.Not all of us are strong enough or believe hard enough to remain true, but when reminded of our love far away we feel remorse for slipping our hormones. if you both feel this strongly , Forgive him and ask him if he wishes you to remain chaste. if so he must do the same.
love must be kept alive with mail, telephone and emails.
It can you know, you must get his compliance.
Love is a many splendid thing, not lost for a moments pleasure. Be tough, it's worth it.
2006-08-19 15:44:31 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HA HA... no, well, there's a chance, but it's not likely... What is likely happening is that he is expecting you to be his "backup" girl. If the relationship does not work with her, or whenever he comes back into town. You will allways be there to fill out his sexual needs. I don't think he loves either on of you or even knows what the meaning of love is... I know that this is harsh, but you need to move on... Otherwise you will continue to get hurt by this guy...
2006-08-19 15:35:51 · answer #10 · answered by Rob D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋