She is very unorganized. Stuff all over the place, her bed has nothing but clothes on it. The house looks like crap, she has a dog and I told her to brush it, and she doesn't so on top of that we have a bunch of dog hair on the floor. I always have to organize whatever I can. Whenever I tell her this, she gets very pissed. Please tell me what I can do, and don't tell me to move out, legally I can't. I'm a dude and can't stand it, most guys don't care about messy places, but this is bad.
2006-08-19 15:09:08 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Also, she likes to keep everything, it doesn't matter if you think it should be donated or thrown away, an example is my baby clothes. I don't understand why she goes to the store, she buys 15 pieces of clothing when she is probably only going to wear half or less of it and won't even return the rest.
2006-08-19 15:11:48 · update #1
Sounds like mom's depressed; That's exactly how I was for YEARS until I started seeing a psychiatrist and "saw" my problems and started dealing with them; I'm still working on it, but have come a long way; suggest counseling TOGETHER; If she doesn't want to go, go by yourself to help you deal! My son actually has helped me tremendously (he's 18) in getting more organized....
2006-08-19 15:33:47 · answer #1 · answered by sweet ivy lyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack rats are hard to change. She needs psychological help but most don't want to go see a psychiatrist. The house can be a fire hazard. It is dangerous. GEt professional help to throw away the rubbish even if it will make her angry. She won't kill you, so just do it. Get her away for a few days or whatever time it takes to clear the house. Get the professionals to come to take a look to estimate the time to take to clear the house.
JUST DO IT. Your life depends on it if you don't want to die in a fire.
2006-08-19 22:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact is its ur moms house, she can do what she wants. Best advice, have ur own room just as u like it, get a lock for the door to stop her encroaching on ur space, and deal with it till ur old enought to leave home. It could be a mental problem or just her nature. Either way, ur pushing a boulder uphill by trying to changer her.
2006-08-20 02:53:18 · answer #3 · answered by livachic2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to plant something in her room, like something that will rot and stink up the place. She won't be able to live with that and will be forced to clean up to get rid of the smell...if she can live with that stench then God help you both.
Plus, you can try to get her to buy like those plastic containers to put crap in. They have large plastic bins that can be kept under the bed.
2006-08-19 22:15:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone said plant something that will rot and stink. I agree with this. The best things to plant are a broken egg and a bowl of milk.
2006-08-20 01:44:37 · answer #5 · answered by Pappa Poopy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's her business and it's her life. I'm sure while you were growing up she tried her hardest to change you. Sorry but I'm going to say it. Move out if you don't like the fact that your living under HER roof free of charge...
2006-08-19 22:44:55 · answer #6 · answered by Lipstick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dispose of things a little at a time. she'll never miss it and when she asks say I dunno it was over there last week. look for missing thing for a couple minutes and suggest if the place was more organized thing could be located eaisier..
she won't change so just deal with it until you can get out on your own.
Cheers!
2006-08-19 22:44:42 · answer #7 · answered by CWB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Film her, take video of the house and if she sees it, it may spur her to take action. Offer to clean up/donate and maybe she'll be in a good mood one day and let you.
2006-08-19 22:14:17 · answer #8 · answered by Ricky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her on that one show on TLC. It's the one thats helps the people get organized and orgainizes a room.
2006-08-19 22:22:38 · answer #9 · answered by Han Solo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do. My mom is the opposite. Every thing goes into the trash. Then she finds later that she need it!!!!
2006-08-19 22:24:54 · answer #10 · answered by Speaking_Up 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋