kay, im totally having trouble with my love life, all my friends have boyfriends and their all happy. i dont want a boyfriend just because everyone else has boyfriends. i just sorta want someone to hold...but im having trouble getting one..any advice???
2006-08-19 14:58:59 · 37 answers · asked by Roxy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, so here it goes:
1. You want a boyfriend- are you sure? Having a boyfriend isn't a game, it's gonna be someone who'll you'll share your love with. Think it twice.
2. If you really really want to share all that love you have in your heart (OMG I sound crazy...), try using your charms. Be natural, because if you fake they'll notice the difference when they start dating you- for real.
3. Unfortunately (and yes, I AM talking about most boys.) there is a 75% of boys who only care about body... and 25% percent cares for your personality PS: 15% are gay :(
4. Talk to him, think your words twice, but you can also show your inner clumsy and shy, that makes you look cute.
5. DONT BRAG! Some girls start bragging and that's how friend's dares begin. Women are as competitive as men, so you'll get all "Come onm, let's make out..." and he'll might get upset, thinking he's just used for being a brag show.
And that's all- man, Im thinking of being psychologist... What do you think?
2006-08-19 15:14:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the others who say you should stop looking. I've never had trouble getting a boyfriend because I never look lol. You should make a list of all the qualities you want in a guy that way you wont take whatever crap comes along. Having a boyfriend isnt just about having someone to hold, its about caring for them when no one else will, for forgiving them when your head tells you not to and about wanting them for who they are not what they can offer you. And hey its not that bad to be single !!
2006-08-19 15:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by theblonchic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything good is hard to find, and unfortunatley, when it comes to find a significant other this can be especially true. I hate those times when you really want someone but there's nobody in sight. But hang on, there'll be someone there for you to hold soon enough. Just be yourself and be open to the guys that will inevitably be interested in you. I'm sure you're fantastic.
2006-08-19 15:03:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Neediness and desperation are unattractive. They scare people away...
Desperation gives the impression that you will tolerate just about anything, it and attracts losers. Desperation means you cannot afford to be choosy.....that you would rather settle for substandard than be alone.
Neediness implies that you expect others to reassure you and make you happy. That's your job. Besides, no one wants that kind of responsibility, anyway. Neediness sucks the life out of people.
Is sucks to be left out when people pair up and go do stuff together. It hurts when you see other people together. It's understandable that you want someone to share things with...
Just get happy with yourself. Master a skill or talent. Join a gym or club. Take karate or salsa dancing classes. Make yourself more interesting. if you are happy with stuff, someone will come along and want to share that with you. And, you will be able to afford to be choosy, because you will not be desperate for company.
Date lots of guys, and non of them exclusively. Make them compete for your attention. Date guys who want to know about you, and don't try to make you see how cool they are. Guys who show empathy are more sincere than guys who try to win you over by talking themselves up.
Dating many guys gives you more wisdom and experience. Each one you encounter teaches you more about youreslf. You learn more about what you want and what you require from someone, and what you will not accept from someone.
Don't allow yourself to become too emotionally invested in a guy if his actions don't match how he says he feels about you. Anyone can say anything you want to hear, but their actions are guided by their true feelings. Guys don't realize how transparent their agendas are.......
Sweetie, it's not hard to find a boyfriend.....just one that's worth your time.
2006-08-19 15:53:15 · answer #4 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open up your social circle to make yourself more available. You have a better chance of meeting the right person in a heavily populated environment such as school ... if you're not in school take some classes, do volunteer work ... get a job.
2006-08-19 15:07:43 · answer #5 · answered by Sam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not hard just to find anyone. Heck, I bet if you walk outside a bunch of guys will ask you out.
It's just hard finding the right guy who is not a pervert. But I say, make friends with guys first, and it will work out.
2006-08-19 15:07:26 · answer #6 · answered by Wanker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its becoming so hard simply because you are trying too hard. Don't obsess over it - in time fate will lead you to someone worth the wait.Its natural to want someone to hold, but good things come to those who wait.
2006-08-19 15:05:12 · answer #7 · answered by Lana L. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same problem here. I'm 27 and all the good girls seem to be with someone or married. Check out the mellower places like bookstores, gyms, stop & shop etc.
2006-08-19 15:03:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
live the life u want dont worry about b/f u will find the rite 1 when u r ready start talkin to boys maybe flirt alittle bit we guys like that
2006-08-19 15:05:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand you want a boyfriend and its hard but you cant just go to a store and pick on out and try it out! girl it takes time to find someone you know that is truely right for you and will always be by your side. when your around guys just be yourself and act like like you would. they will like to take you for who you are not what you pretend to be. just incase. lol u never know you might find one when you least expect it!
2006-08-19 15:07:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋