my grandmother died this moning and i just feel alone and scared and i cant come to grips thats shes really gone i cant turn to the familey becuse there all fighting and my boyfrind acts like being with his friends right now is more importan I'M SO LOST PLEASE HELP!!!!
2006-08-19 13:52:16 · 12 answers · asked by lovingmother 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If there is someone outside of your family that you can talk to, do it. I lost my father and grandmother within 2 months of each other, both very suddenly. It helped to talk to a therapist, friends, people who weren't emotionally involved.
I'm sorry for your loss.
2006-08-19 13:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by CarolP 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its ok to feel this way. everyone feels and handles death of a love one differently. This maybe the way your family is dealing with their pain. This just happened so the loss is very fresh and painful. Its sometimes, more painful when its sudden. Sometimes, when people believe in a higher power it helps. Just knowing that , your grandparent is with this being and in no pain can be reassuring. Don't be afraid or scared. Remember how you 2 cared about each other and the good times you had together. If there were unsaid or undone things between you let it go. You will always carry her in your thoughts and heart. And, soon you"ll laugh out loud about something she said to you or what she would have said if she was still here. For now, the loss is fresh and painful. Celebrate her life in all the good and compassioned things in your life and how you live. Each day will be less painful. But, she would not want you to be unhappy. SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. I "LL SEND A SPECIAL PRAYER ON YOU'RE BEHALF. MUCH LOVE
2006-08-19 14:19:04 · answer #2 · answered by grnifox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the sounds of it, you were very close to your grandmother and I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sorry to say, but time is the only cure for this kind of loss and everyone works through their grief differently. Your boyfriend probably doesn't understand how much you're hurting right now, and he won't until you explain it to him. I was extremely close to my grandmother, and she died almost 20 years ago. There are still times when I think, "Oh, I should tell Grandma _____!" But then I think she's gone on to heaven, and she already knows. :)
2006-08-19 14:03:34 · answer #3 · answered by kc_warpaint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, bf is a male and males really cant cope the way we do. When i lost my mom the first thing i did was cry, its the best healer. You do have to go thru the grief process. anger, bargaining,depression and finally acceptance. those are sort of the rules for dealing with death. I know it sucks but eventually it does get better. I didn't believe that but it is true. Just remember the good times and memories of her and the rest will follow. I am so sorry for your loss.
2006-08-19 14:05:36 · answer #4 · answered by Pat M. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor thing. The hurt is so fresh and new that of course you can't imagine now that you will ever get past this. I'm sorry you have no support system right now. If your boyfriend isn't with you through this, well he sounds very immature. It will take time but you will get past this. Good luck.
2006-08-19 14:00:58 · answer #5 · answered by chi chi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i lost my grandma a couple of years ago and time was the only thing that helped me cope.my family didn't fight but it was still hard on us all.as far as the bf goes sounds like he's an insensitive dumbass.just stay strong and you will get through this ok
2006-08-19 14:03:43 · answer #6 · answered by bigrigdvr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be good to yourself. Your memories of your grandmother will carry you through. Don't expect too much from a boyfriend, and you won't be disappointed. He can't handle something like death at this time.
2006-08-19 13:59:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
CRY OUT LOUD!!!
RELEASEEEEE!!!
then drink a glass of water,
say a prayer to strengthen yourself, don't rely anybody bcuz they have their own worries too.
Life is not at all time ok, times like that do come, pls move own all people can die ok.
i know you can surpass that girl. God is good He plans accordingly.
OUR PRAYERS FOR THE SOUL OF YOUR GRANDMA.
2006-08-19 14:31:38 · answer #8 · answered by cHaStiTy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey think like this god needed her for something and if god really thought you couldnt make it without her then he wouldnt of took her its hard but think shes watching you now shes still there you cant see her talk to her shes listening if your b/f isnt there for you leave him you dont need him thats what your grandma would say shell curse him for that good luck
2006-08-19 14:15:54 · answer #9 · answered by shyshy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang in there... you may not believe in prayer but prayer does help you instead of praying to god pray to your grandmom... she'll listen... and youll feel better... as for your bf... he sucks and he doesn't respect you to be there for ya. and just remember death is a normal part of life, your grandma isn't living in this evil world anymore (thats a good thing)
2006-08-19 13:58:49 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋