My frends mums boyfirend is very harsh and aggresive towards her,Her mum has been brainwashed to the fact that she doesnt give any attention what so-ever to her daughter.He has hit her in the past,shouts at her,shouts in her face,calls her names while her mums just turns her cheek the other way.She is only 16 and has threatened to leave home to which her mum replys "I'll buy you a suitcase then".The are so hostile towards her and a 16 year old doesnt need that stress.I don't know how make her mum stop it,her boyfriend is too precious too her and she thinks more of him than of her sweet daughter.Please help me to help her
2006-08-19 13:36:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she doesnt know who her real dad is and has no other family she can trust.Evem her mums mum,her gran is the same as her mum and they even abuse her grandad because he is an alcoholic but is ill now.
2006-08-19 13:57:35 · update #1
listen i was in a similar boat as your friend my mother's than boyfriend now husband. was both physically and verbally abusive. i was doing bad at school my grades were dropping and i hated going home and most of all i was not my self any more. my best friend told our social worker at school and i was at 1st mad at her but she did the right thing. my social worker come up with ways to deal with my problems at home. but i came to the point where for me the best answer was to leave home for good i was not in a good state of mind i was not good i thought every thing was going wrong because of me. i went to my best friend's house for a few days [her mom know what was going on] i went on welfare for a year to finish my high school than got a job. i now still live on own and call my mother on time to time.
tell your friend and show her that you truly care. ask her if she wants to look for help or move out the help is out there. if to her mom that is more important then her daughter just let it be. all in life comes back.
2006-08-19 14:06:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you take in the 16 year old girl? I don't think you will ever get through to the mother. She is infatuated with the boyfriend or either is so fearful of not having anyone that she puts up with terrible treatment.
This is a terrible situation and I am sure it will be too late by the time the mother realizes it. Don't let the daughter stay there; I am sure the b/f will turn violent towards her at the first chance.
2006-08-23 05:45:52 · answer #2 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear Lord. Tell her she is not worthless and that she is the world to somebody. Her mom is a real *****. And that she shouldn't feel bad about herself. Tell her to go stay with a relative or somebody she can trust. It would be best to call social services and let them try to handle it but that is not always a good thing in some cases because you don't want her to be shipped from horrible foster home to horrible foster home in the next two years but it may be something to consider. You should talk to her and make her understand that you are there for her and she can tell you anything. If she has to tell her not to hesitate to call the police if she feels her life is in great danger. I would suggest she go live with a family member or something. This is one of those situations that is very hard to determine what to do about. You just be there for her and let her know she can come to you.
2006-08-19 13:45:25 · answer #3 · answered by Erica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with her, help her tell her story to the police for record purpose, He may hurt her one of these days. Contact some relatives of her mother or that of his father if there are any. Find out their concerns and tell them the story if necessary.
This kind of person, is the one who will eventually abuse her or sexually abuse her later. Starting it by threatening her, implanting fear in her so that when he does his nasty things to her, she will be afraid to report.
And with they way her mother is acting, she will not be of help, and she may even consent to his folishness.
Act immediately before it is too late.
Ask for help from anybody you think will, even neighbors, but subtly, because if they will know what you two are going to do, they will turn you upside down and maybe tell the people you are the ones being unruly, disrespectful, etc., etc., etc...,
2006-08-19 14:01:03 · answer #4 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a very bad situation for her not her Mom.
Please have her report these incidents RIGHT AWAY to the local Police first and they in turn can steer her to the local "CHILD WELFARE AUTHORITY". While this could be a wild exaggeration on your friends part there may be no sound reason for her to take chances on dealing both with her mother and the mothers boyfriend.
2006-08-19 13:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by oldtimer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend to get in touch with a family member or her real father for help and see if they would let her move in with them she is at the age where she can be emancipated from her mom and step dad
2006-08-19 13:43:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mom sounds like she is hard up and can't get any other boyfreind so she's stickin to this one.She probably feels that she can't live without him so i think that the only way to help your friend is to help her find her own place and keep her away from her ignorant mom.Tell your friend that her mom does love her but she can't continue to live this way.The mom and boyfreind sound like they want their privacy and will stop and nothing to get it.I am very sorry for your friend.
2006-08-19 13:47:22 · answer #7 · answered by countrykarebare 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what kind of services are offered in your area. But there must be some kind of child protection services where you live. Try contacting them and tell them what is going on. They should be able to help out.
2006-08-19 13:52:16 · answer #8 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd contact your courtroom to be particular of the state regulations. the daddy became not on the delivery certificate, even with the undeniable fact that in case you realize who the daddy is you'd be legally required to inform the courtroom. He would then ought to signal over his parental rights to the newborn formerly your husband will be allowed to undertake her. via his abusive previous, he received't going have any grounds to wrestle the adoption, even with the undeniable fact that you want to substantiate you do it the right/criminal way, to dodge giving him any probabilities of coming back later and contesting it or making worry because he became not cautioned about it.
2016-11-30 20:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by jesusita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report this to the police.
2006-08-19 13:42:01 · answer #10 · answered by Wicked 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋