should young single mothers go to the clubs?

Question

I am 22yrs old and i have a 14month old. I want to go to the clubs but i feel bad when i go out without my baby.

Answer 1

Dear Ash
I too am a mum I'm 22 years old have a 2 year old and another in 8 weeks. My husband works 6 to 6 every day and that leaves me at home by myself all the time with my bub and big belly.I find that if you don't get out you are doing your self more harm i sometimes go out to the club just to sit and meet new people i don't drink due to my big belly but before i fell preggers the 2 time i use to go out have a dance try and meet new people so i could have friends. You will have your baby for the next 18 years or longer it will not do that baby or you any harm for mummy to have some time out to let her hair down. Most of the time you will find your self talking about your bubs and showing every body photos. But please don't feel guilty for wanting mummy time its perfectly healthy no madder how young or old you are. Good luck and enjoy your time out and you baby.

Answer 2

Girl, let me tell you something. You're a mom not a corpse. There's nothing wrong with going out every now and then. I'm a single mother of two boys that I love more than my next breath. But you gotta get out and party sometimes just to keep from hanging yourself with fabric softener. Seriously, I try to go out like once a month and have a good time. That's usually all I can stand because every time I do go out, I remember why I don't go out. If you have a responsible sitter, go shake your tail feather sometimes. Put the kid to sleep, put on your cute outfit and get your party on. Just be home before she wakes up, she'll never know the difference. No free time is one of the reason why some young mothers flip their wigs and hurt their kids. Not that you would, I'm just saying your life doesn't have to stop because you have a baby.

Answer 3

It is time to grow up and take responsibility for the life you helped create, it is time for a reality check, being a mother is more than giving birth. Caring and nurturing your baby is your primary role now. Be committed to parenting in a positive manner.You are a MOTHER first and foremost until your baby is grown up!

Learn other ways to unwind away from clubs. You can still have a social life, with another focus.
Ask yourself what is so great about clubs?

Never leave your baby with someone you don't know really well enbough to trust. The news does not lie about neglect and child abuse.

Your child deserves a parent to put his /her needs first above all else. This is not a sacrifice, it is a childs right to be loved and cared for and prized above rubies.

Answer 4

I have a two and a half year old so between two and a half years and 9 months of pregnancy I have done nothing but take care of her and the apartment and work occasionally part time. I start college this fall. More work. Here is the thing, if you have someone that is worthy to take care of your baby then do it. ( I don't). Have fun once in a while but more than a few times a month would be too much for me.

Answer 5

After examining your comments,i do agree that moms unmarried at that, have it in many circumstances from society a uncooked deal,yet what makes it puzzling to an an swear is you've stated: a special area of society:the most area of society artwork it really is about unmarried moms and they want help help and recognize-how .i imagine a a number of the blame might want to be placed back to the iron lady's circumstances and the impression she created which regrettably has even grown even more beneficial to gasoline people to anger now and again hate its a topic open to such a large number of debates yet that would not help the right here and now ,and as will all recognize there,s a,lot of contempt ,what a tragic international

Answer 6

everybody needs some time away from their babies. You should not feel bad about going out, but I would suggest to not come home drunk or something like that. I know that i feel like I would go crazy sometimes if I did not get some time to my self, which come to think of, I never do, so I say go out and have a good time, but leave the baby with someone that you really trust to take care of.

Answer 7

I think it's OK to go out but you must be responsible about it,make sure you have a reliable babysitter.I am sure you miss the baby but you are single and 22 and should have some fun time to yourself,try to get at least a few nights out every now and then enjoy!

Answer 8

I have a friend how is the same age as you and shes been at home since she had her frist kid now she pergo again. My point to that was if you stay at home you will loose how you are as a person. And your age thats not a good thing. So im saying go out and enjoy life. Leave your kid with someone and go to the clubs.

Answer 9

it is nice to know that u care so much 4 Ur baby. bravo.

u most certainly should go 2 club 4 a couple hrs in week & leave the baby in care of some one ready 2 babysit.

Answer 10

By all means, have some fun... but I hope you're not planning to meet men. Just dance and enjoy...knowing that your little one is in the capable hands of a family member or trusted friend. If you are looking for men, try your church rather than the clubs... you won't regret it.