He is now at a a hospital in a mental department. He got admitted yesterday. He's had a lot of problems in life...his kids don't tlak to him, his wife cheated on him (a couple years ago), he's lost his dog he had for 7 years, lost his house, could lose his truck. My mom and others want me to forgive him for almost hitting me and yelling at me, because he hadn't been taking his medicines and wasn't himself. I don't know if I want to do that. What would you do??
2006-08-19 13:15:34 · 12 answers · asked by ? 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
of course you shouldn't forgive him
he was abusing you
I just hope he's in there for a good long to
time
2006-08-19 13:22:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like there's more to the story. Steer your mom and yourself to family counseling. Being yelled at and "almost hit" by someone with mental illness severe enough for hospitalization doesn't fall in the unforgivable category for me. At the same time, asking you to forgive without appreciating impact of the circumstance and the time you've lived with his illness seems pretty narrow as well. Deeper stuff is going on than just an isolated incident.
2006-08-19 13:36:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
as long as he never hurt you I would let it go. My mom is bipolar and when she is off her meds she is not the person she normally is. My mom is the sweetest lady around and she would do anything for anyone, but when she is off her meds she yells at people, and has even gone to jail for pushing a guy nurse at the nursing home because he let her mom sit in a dirty dipper all day. She gets upset very easy and does not mean to be mean just is. So forgive him as long as he has never actually hit you bad. If he is a nice guy when he is on his meds then that is his true self.
2006-08-19 13:23:39 · answer #3 · answered by dohm84 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ill or not, he must take responsibility for his actions and behavior. I do recommend you're trying to forgive and forget - for you not for him.
...be cautious around him. If he seems like he might hurt you find some help. Sometime life just sucks. It sounds like his did. I may have been his misfortune, and he might have had some hand in it himself.
On the otherhand, you've already recognized a potential problem that might make you look back on your life and seeing that it sucked. Don't let this happen to you. You can forgive someone and empathize with his problems, but don't adopt and perpetuate them.
2006-08-19 13:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by Wicked Mickey 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are old enough, move. If not, do you have a relative you can stay with......I had a friend who, along with her mom and 2 sisters, got shot by her stepdad.....my friend survived cause the shot went in sideways and came out her eye......but her mom and 2 sisters died....the man shot himself.......this man had been in a mental hospital. He did this about 2 weeks after he got out. so you just never know....you just never know.
2006-08-19 13:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by mom2kats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no individual has the right to placed their fingers on yet another except this is in self-protection and that i don;t care if this is the guy, the gal, or a figure disciplining a baby...it really is actual abuse and if less than any circumstances you hotel to hitting, shoving, slapping, punching,spitting, etc to vent or convey anger, then you truthfully have lost administration..... ...this is not ok for her to hit you....it really is kinfolk violence and that i wish you gave her honest caution that if she does it back, she will clarify herself to the choose...good success and get her into an anger administration application, in truth i'd insist if I were you.....
2016-11-30 20:30:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God wants you to forgive him also...I know it is hard, but really, the Lord wants us to pray for people like that...He didn't really mean it towards you, and went to a hospital for help...But, make mom promise that he will be taking his meds from now on, because it was very scary for you...and you don't want to hate the guy...God says that we are to have mercy on people who are ill...if he is a good guy,,....and the meds keep him calm, okay...but to be honest with you,...mom needs to make sure that nothing happens to YOU....that is where MOM comes in. Pray for him also,..God says we are to love everyone...
2006-08-19 13:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a big difference between forgiving someone and forgetting. They are not a package deal.
You will be much happier and at peace with yourself if you can forgive him. Everyone makes mistakes in life. He made a mistake...a BIG one.
Forgiving him will lighten your burden. Harboring ill feelings and resentment towards him will fester and grow...and affect you in ways you aren't even aware of.
BUT...this doesn't mean you have to FORGET what he did. I was in an abusive relationship and I forgave my husband...but I did not forget what he did to me. I left him, but I don't harbor bad feelings towards him. I truly hope he finds happiness and peace within himself.
BUT, by NOT forgetting, the memory has helped me avoid getting into an abusive relationship again. I remember what it was like...I remember the signs...I remember it all...and I DON'T choose to go there again!
2006-08-19 13:35:13 · answer #8 · answered by rhubarb3142 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would leave.
Since he doesn't take his meds and shows a whole history of major problems, that likely what his furture is going to hold.
You should probably talk to his doctor and see what they think his behavior will hold in the future. Then you can make an informed decision.
Don't let anyone talk you into something you don't want-- leaving or not.
2006-08-19 13:22:36 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa the Pooh 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is in the mental unit of a hospital, I would hope they would want him AND his family to attend family counseling, which would help you and the rest of the family sort thru his problems. Good luck.
2006-08-19 13:21:14 · answer #10 · answered by MJ R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋