I met this girl at this club. I think she likes me and stuff and we talked all night, we never went into what jobs we have. I am a cop in Phoenix, Not that she does any illegal stuff but I think he friends do, and Im not going to do anything about them anyways just she may think so. and sooner or later I need to tell her what my job is.
Will it even matter?
2006-08-19 13:10:44 · 19 answers · asked by John P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its gonna make a difference... it wont work out in the long term if she doesnt ditch her friends
2006-08-19 13:14:55 · answer #1 · answered by Yucifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a little confused here. You say that your a cop, yet you want to hang out with a chic who has friends that I assume are into drugs? Okay, so like you don't care if maybe you end up in trouble because of all that? I know few cops and from what I understand they value the job and really want to avoid people that may cause them a hard time in the job. Might you want to find or wait it out for a girl that has friends not into illegal things? Besides, if as you say 'she likes you', then perhaps she would take the time to try and keep you away from her troubled friends. If someone dislikes your line of work are you going to get a new job? Being a cop in a large city is hard as it is. Why not wait for the right girl who will enjoy and respect your work and not judge you poorly because of it?
If you both take the time to be truthfull and totally real it may save a lot of pain later on.
That is my 2 cent
2006-08-19 20:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Mojumbo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kinda 50/50. Some people like cops personally, it seems that most hate them generally.
People realise that police are human and have lives the same as everyone else.
The best thing for you to do is casually mention it to her sometime. If she stays with you, then you may have something. If she doesn't (because you are a cop) then you haven't lost much, as she would have turned out to be a liability somewhere along the line anyway.
Good luck,
Dear Old Dad
2006-08-19 20:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by Dear Old Dad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not necessary to tell her until that moment when she ask for your job, but only when she is really your fiancee and you can already trust her that much.
Yes, it will matter if she doesn't like cops, you can ask her questions subtly that will led to it before hand to prepare yourself what to say.
If she likes you, your job really won't matter. What matters is you.
Get her out of her friends if you can, if you become closer. If her friends do that illegal stuff, she would eventually do by peer pressure in the future.
2006-08-19 20:24:25 · answer #4 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she likes you then no. And I hope you are a good cop too cause some cops are such arrogant fu cks! No offence, but I feel very passionately that the role of a cop should be to assist and aide not to arrest and raid. As a law abiding citizen that is just my opinion.
2006-08-19 20:20:55 · answer #5 · answered by doesitmatter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is hanging out with those types of people than she is not too far from engaging in the same behavior herself. Move on and find someone who has friends that you can hang out with too. Before you know it, she will be asking you to get her friends out of trouble because you are a cop.
2006-08-19 20:17:10 · answer #6 · answered by VOLLEYBALLY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to get serious with her some day you will have to tell her. Why don't you tell her what you do and let her know what your view is on the subject of illegal substances are.
2006-08-19 20:18:44 · answer #7 · answered by drunken monkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It matters how good your relationship is, if you explain to her that you arent like those other racist lazy jerk cops then she most likely wont care, and make sure to reasure her that you wont mess with her friends porque she'll deff pick them over you since you guys just met.
2006-08-19 20:15:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her, she's going to find out sooner or later. If she finds out on her own, she might think you were planning on busting her friends or something.
2006-08-19 21:08:51 · answer #9 · answered by Go Cats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree w/ volleyball and michelle, if you like her enough, just be up front and tell her what you do for a living, and if she thinks that you may get her or her friends in troble, then just be like O.K. whatever. Hmmmm men in uniform⥠lol
now pick me as best answer plzzzz, lol =)
2006-08-19 20:21:57 · answer #10 · answered by ms_ricanluv88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why should it matter? at least you got a job. if she quit talking to you because of occupation, thats a sign to always look for. I would love me a cop!!
2006-08-19 20:15:32 · answer #11 · answered by michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋