is it O.K. to be fat or will guys hate I thought was what was inside that counts?
2006-08-19 13:08:59 · 28 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i look for neither.. i look mainly at their PERSONALITY!!!!!!!!
2006-08-19 13:12:59 · answer #1 · answered by VIC-RIDA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guy I would say. You could be the funniest, kindest most intelligent woman on the planet and because you're a bit overweight some guys wouldn't look twice at you.
But those are the type of guys (shallow, insincere, vain, arrogant) you want to be avoiding anyway!
Everyone has different taste, what's attractive to one person may be off putting to another.
I wouldn't waste your time worrying about what guys look for, just be yourself and the RIGHT guy will come along who wont care if you're fat or thin.
2006-08-19 20:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by Caroline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fat and thin dont matter. What is important are 1) Confidance, Are you comfortable with your body how you are and 2) Proportion, if you have the proportoins of a ball completely round, most guys aren't going to be very into that, but if you are a little thick with nice curves the majority of guys love that.
2006-08-19 20:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by maes_quest 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks are the most important thing in life. Don't believe all the BS about inner beauty and what counts is on the inside. People always say that to be "nice", but in reality, everybody is attracted to hotties and beautiful people, not average-looking, fat, bald, ugly people.
2006-08-19 20:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by NJboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The outside is usually a reflection of the inside.
Fat says, "I'm lazy and over-indulgent"
Skinny says, "I have issues and can't properly direct my energy"
That's why, for the most part, people are attracted to athletic builds. It says, "I get off my butt and do stuff"
There is a balance to maintained. Where do you want to maintain that balance? On the heavy side, middle or skinny side?
The best advice I can give is just to pursue self fulfillment. Regardless of who you wind up with, if you tailor yourself to be attractive to someone you haven't met yet, you risk losing that time to develop substance. People of substance want to share stuff about themselves, not adopt the opinions of the people they fall in love with.
Hope this helps.
2006-08-19 20:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by Brandon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is what's inside that counts. In your younger years boys (yes, I said BOYS) will be influenced by the media and their friends and likely shoot for stupid skinny girls (Most of which wish they were a little heavier so they could be curvy) As you get older though you'll meet the real men that are interested in loving a real woman. My hubby says that skinny women look like boys and since he isn't gay he has no use for them. Best wishes
2006-08-19 20:14:31 · answer #6 · answered by colorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long a she is not obeast , because obeast is considered to be unhealthy too, but it to counts on the inside. So is being to skinny is also unhealthy to me . If i had a girlfriend who was anerexe or something i would help her because she is unhealthy she is hurting her body. Many guys aren't interested in girls who starve themselve just to look pretty for her man . It's called Exercise!
2006-08-19 20:17:08 · answer #7 · answered by Reivax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, let's be honest..guys like proportion. They don't want themselves an old Star Jones or the new Nicole Richie.. They want a Monica Bellucci or a Catherine Zeta Jones..They like healthy women. But in the end, it's not the body, it's the heart that ties his heart and love..
2006-08-19 20:18:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are programmed to be attracted to females that they find visually enticing. Most guys are attracted to slender, shapely girls. Only one out of twenty guys are attracted to overweight girls. It is true that it's what's on the inside that counts, but as far as attraction goes, it's the sexy looks. It may not seem fair, but it's reality. It works that way with women, too. I used to be overweight, and a woman once told me to my face that she wouldn't have dinner with me even if I gave her $1000. Once I lost the weight, I had no trouble getting dates. So, the sad truth is, for ALL of us, if you want to be attractive, get into shape.
2006-08-19 20:19:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what is in the inside is what counts the most. I have dated 7 girls in my life and I have always looked for who they are not how hot or big their breasts are. That should not matter. What should matter is how you live your life with them. Hope i helped a little.
2006-08-19 20:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by Aaron the Great. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what to look out for.
With skinny girls you have to watch for bone splinters. Man, they hurt!
With fat girls you have to be careful that you don't rub 'em too much. Heat can build up from the friction and start a grease fire.
2006-08-19 20:16:15 · answer #11 · answered by newt_peabody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋