I can't ask or tell this woman ANYTHING without her losing her temper on me, no matter HOW important the stuff is that I have to tell her. She never wants to hear what I have to say, but yet, she tries to control my life & tell me how to live it & she demands an answer for my personal business, just so she can use it against me & throw it back in my face to make me feel bad.
Yes, I'm 22 yrs. old, & y'all are gonna tell me to move out or something, but I lost my home during Hurricane Katrina, & this is the only place I have to stay.
This woman hates me so much that she can't even look me in the eye when talking to me, & she tries to take ALL of my money.
How do I deal with this, since I have no place else in New Orleans to live. I just graduated college, & I want to work 2 jobs, & all she does is talks down to me, telling me I'm not going to make it in the work force. I have 1 job lined up for me, & I need 2, so I can avoid trouble with the household, & she tells me I can't
2006-08-19 13:08:48 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
2 continue the sentence-she tells me I can't work 2 jobs. She won't let me work 2 jobs.
2006-08-19 13:09:24 · update #1
Start looking for roommates or someone who rents a room in their home for cheap.
You need to get out of that toxic environment and start living all for you.
I know you can do it-- you seem very motivated.
2006-08-19 13:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa the Pooh 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is hard. We are displaced from Katrina too. Our children all moved from the area as did the grandchildren. No work there. Have you put in for a FEMA trailer and maybe one of your friends will let you park the trailer at their place. Working 2 jobs is hard. Did you get a degree in something that can help you make good money right from the start. Your foster mother may not have wanted anyone staying with them. We ended up with a grandson and his woman and her daughter here and let me tell you that that woman drank and gave her 14 year old liquor to drink even though we told her not to. They left before we asked them to leave. My grandson saw the hand witting on the wall and dumped her. My thing is you need to find another place to stay. Maybe with friends until you can get enough money to maybe rent a place and share the rent with some one else. Right now everything is so expensive there in New Orleans area. Rent is like double what it was pre Katrina. Ask the Salvation Army for help or the red cross that they might find you a place to live and help too. You are in a bad situation. If you have friends in other parts of the country try to relocate some where else.Call social services and see what they can do for you.
2006-08-19 20:22:40 · answer #2 · answered by T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are going to have to find a way to get out of this women's house. Being a victim of Katrina, there may be some social services that can get you into a place. Check with the United Way, Salvation Army, Lutheran Charities. etc. If you stay with her, she will continue to hurt you and hold you down.
I hate to say it but it seems like this woman has some serious issues. Number one, don't tell her your business, for awhile you may have to be straight as an arrow to keep her off your back. No matter how friendly or good things seem to be going, stay quiet, stay to yourself. Start socking away every dolloar you can and get out of there. She means you no good, otherwise she would be encouraging you to do your best.
You can do it! Put the peddle to the metal and step out on faith.
2006-08-19 20:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by free2praise76 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, for heavens sakes..........Give up this "poor me Hurricane Katrina" thing. Yes, you have a place to go if you want to.....you just want to continue to play the victim role. Yes, you can get a job and move out. You said you have a college education so what is the problem???? You need to start acting like a grown up adult and stop whining and complaining...and again, stop the Hurricane Katrina victim thing. I was in Hurricane Katrina before it hit you.....Hurricane Wilma and about 4-5 others. ..so I have no sympathy at all. Your foster mother is probably sick of you too.
2006-08-19 20:18:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Candy, I am not trying to be rude but could you please ask about something different? You post the same ole questions all the time. Just because you phrase it differently each time, the question is still the same.
You have already been told. Since you live in her house you must follow her rules.
There is nothing you can do short of moving out.
If you give your foster mom a hard time about things she can just kick you out on the streets with no place to go.
Your only choice since you say you have no place else to go is to just suck it up, grow a back bone, let what she says go in one ear and out the other............
But you posting this same question 20 times.........is ridiculous, the answers are going to be the same each time just worded a little differently.........just like your question
2006-08-19 20:19:18 · answer #5 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is that mean,you would think that you would want to move out.Maybe it's better to move out and get 2 jobs and make your own decisions.There is places to go and ask for help for you to make a start in being independant in life.I would not stay where i am not wanted.I am sorry you lost your home but it sounds like it is time to move on.
2006-08-19 20:16:38 · answer #6 · answered by countrykarebare 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any friends that have apartments or something that you can move in with?
Or start saving up your money and find a place to live somewhere other than New Orleans.
2006-08-19 20:15:36 · answer #7 · answered by Hillary 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are 22. She doesn't control you. On the other hand, you're living in her house. So keep your head down, say "yes ma'am" to whatever she tells you, get a job, and move out.
Best wishes and God bless.
2006-08-19 20:16:06 · answer #8 · answered by bobhayes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
like you said why are you hanging around .what kind of field did you get into thru the college youve allready takin .. if you are educated just get you alittle mo-ped and book south and you can get a job at a nurseing home cleaning booty-buts or better then thatt i guess just get away leave her booty if youve got any cash at all l.dont steal no matter what
2006-08-19 21:01:20 · answer #9 · answered by deerolmind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to pi$s someone off when there angry is to smile and tell them there right. shes just prolly sick n tired of ya. keep in there... if you can handle 2 jobs you can handle some crazy woman leading into menopause
2006-08-19 20:55:28 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋