Should I go get this checked out?

Question

I am a shy person, and I was thinking about going to someone to see if I have Social Anxiety. However, I do not know what kind of specialist to go to, and if I should even go. I do not have many of the symptoms of a social disorders, but I would really like to be rid of what symptoms I do have.

-When I talk to people I often run over my words or say something weird, usually toward peers and strangers more than people I know (but I do do it to people I know at times). While talking to them, I often worry about how I appear and act to them.

-When talking to a group I usually do not have that much of a problem, but I can at times have a shaky voice.

-Another thing I would like to fix is worrying. If I think I said something weird to someone I tend to worry about what they are thinking about me for days, a week at times.

Should I go to a specialist about this, even if it isn't Social Anxiety? And if so, who?

Answer 1

Good idea ...talk to a councilor. There are special interest groups
that help people develop public speaking abilities like "Toastmasters" ...'check 'em out.

Answer 2

try to imagine a person from another town stopping you on the street and asking for directions, he is lost, you help him would you worry what he thought about you, you gave him the directions to where he wanted to go, why worry about something you cannot alter or change, you are that person who no one knows, you cannot alter or change if you dont know that person, be yourself not the image that is an ideal that is clearly wrong
my advice is to get a hobby that entails joining a club or group, lack of confidence can be built up over time by taking small steps
it is a vicious circle that can be broken no confidence=nervous manner= shaky voice,hot/cold sweats, and so the list can grow
first. dont label; not even yourself, you are you,a unique individual
there is no one on this or any other planet like you, and there is nothing that you cannot achieve, what the mind will believe the mind can concieve, you talk about sympyoms, do you wear a badage around your head, your personality,your projected image of your self needs some T.L.C, we developed with two ears and one mouth,so we should listen twice as much as we speak
thats not being shy, thats called being a good listener, have you ever practised talking, try it, dont worry we practice dancing,singing,why not talking, then practice listening, i dont mean eaves dropping, that is anti social, if you are at lunch with a group, be quiet listen and respond in your head if you have an opinion on the matter in conversation, see how many of the group agree or dis agree with your thought opinion, you will be amazed
finally never take a backward step,forward find the positive,take small steps one thing at a time and do it well,good luck Regards LF

Answer 3

In my opinion...keep in mind this is simply my opinion. You sound like a very self-aware but not "socially anxious" person. There is a difference and a fine line I do agree, though I think your on more of the shy, self-aware side than anxious. If anything I think it sounds more like you suffer from a lack of self-confidence than anything else. I can identify and relate with everything that you've said.

Running over the words you want to say before saying them is actually a very good habit to have if you ask me. It will save you time and maybe heart ache later on because you'll avoid saying the words you can never get back.

Having a shaky voice could just be a sign of nerves. That too is normal...I have a suspicion that this typically consides with you having to speak on a new topic or to a very large group of people or to a group of people who are very important. Either way this is normal. I love public speaking but when I am speaking on a new topic for the first time I freak out.

Worrying is for the most part something that I believe you have to learn to control. I struggle with this one a ton too!! I hate it, but I worry and fret over what people think of me, and how I come off to them. But, I've found that the less I worry about it and the more I at least pretend to not care, the more people think of me.

If you do still want to seek a specialist, typically mental health specilists would be the best...therepists, or counselors.

Please keep in mind this is merely my free advise and it is worth exactly what you paid for it... nada. It is my opinions. If you are worried than there is nothing wrong with getting it checked into. It'd be like having a cut that you just ignored -- it could heal just fine or it could get infected. It never hurts to get it looked at.

Good luck.

Answer 4

I think it always helps to talk about our fears and anxieties even if they are not disorders. See a therapist even if it is for a few times or join a community group focused on social anxieties.

Answer 5

You sound like me and here I thought I was normal...lol. You could try a psychologist or a school counselor if you're still in school (hard to tell on here you know) I think you will find ways to overcome these feelings as you have more socialization but I could be wrong. Best wishes

Answer 6

It seems to me that you are normal. You may judge yourself a little harshly. If you want to see a therapist for Social Anxiety, go ahead. the best place to get a name of a therapist is from someone who goes to one or from a nurse or dcotor at your clinic.

Answer 7

If the syptoms affect your daily life than, yes, go see a psychologist. But to me, and my VERY limited experience, you do not sound like you have social anxiety.

Answer 8

Talk to a counselor. Within two or three sessions a qualified counselor should be able to tell you whether you need psychiatric help, or further counseling.

Answer 9

go see a doctor.
call ur local mental health clinic and talk to someone

Answer 10

the best person to see is a psychiatrist he will get you meds possible and counceling good luck