ok so when i was 15 there was this guy i went to school with who was 18 at the time and every day we would make out and he wouldn't talk to me he would never talk about our relationship or answer my questions he would just corner me and pretend to be sexy and he would start makin out with me and i didn't want to lose the only guy who was interested in me so i went along with it but then he spread a rumor around the whole school that he fingered me and that we were doing "stuff" and even though i started getting suicidal and i started cutting myself he didn't care he would just get mad at me and continue to make out with me and at one point it got so bad that i missed school for 2 weeks because i had to get admitted to a psych ward and after i came back he would stalk me through school and keep making out with me and finally everything not just him but he was a big part of it got me so messed up that i had to leave school.and we stopped talking until the beginning of this year
2006-08-19 13:01:33 · 7 answers · asked by lifeistough_period 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was 16 and he is almost 20 and he seemed like he grew up a little bit but all he talked about was sex, but still he seemed really nice and I thought I still had feelings for him so I snuck out to go on my first date with him and he would barely talk to me and he wound up trying to make out with me under security cameras and then we wound up in his truck and he started making out with me and then he fingered me over and over and over again. And I had no feelings for him but I didn’t kno how to get out of the situation and once again I didn’t want to lose the only guy who was interested in me so I went along for awhile but he wouldn’t stop touching me so I made up an excuse to go home.
2006-08-19 13:01:55 · update #1
But even though I got completely turned off by him sexually I still have feelings for him and I don’t know why!
And after that date, he didn’t get the hint from me not talking to him that I wanted a break from him and he kept leaving me messages like “hey sexy…I miss you…let’s hang out soon….” and never saying anything else and he kept reading my blogs and I finally had to block him from everything. But I started talking to him today because I got lonely and I keep thinking that he might have changed. I am seventeen now. I know that he probably hasn’t changed but he was my first love how do I get over him????? And what do you think of him? Is he just a guy in love like he claims to be or is he just a creep??
2006-08-19 13:02:12 · update #2
he never "made" me do things. like i never said no, just because i felt trapped on the inside so i am pretty sure he thinks that i am happy about everything and that i did everything completely willingly because i really wanted to. but i didn't. so tell me who is wrong me or him. shouldn't he have read the signs? like me trying to kill myself? and that i was a minor?
2006-08-19 13:04:36 · update #3
I'm almost afraid to answer this question.....almost. Both of you have issues. You are in no way ready for a relationship like this. You have some things you need to take care of before you let some guy play with your head. I don't really understand the reason for your attempted suicide and admittance into a psych ward but I will say this, no man alive is worth your sanity and peace of mind. He sounds very very creepy to me and I wouldn't let him walk me to the mailbox let alone go out on a date with him. Your body is your own. You don't have to allow anyone to touch you if you don't want to. He's too old for you and a perv to boot. I don't think any responsible parent or the authorities for that matter would have a problem helping you get rid of this guy. You have your whole life to get screwed up honey, don't do this to yourself.
2006-08-19 13:12:55 · answer #1 · answered by lovelee1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a relationship, this is abuse.
This man has serious problems, and so do you.
I will focus on you.
Because you were lonesome and for whatever other reasons you seem to have low self worth issues that led you to giving over your power to this man from when you were a child.
"we teach people how to treat us" You have allowed this creep to manipulate you. Stop doing this! Take charge of your life and stop being his victim or become a victim to anyone else.
I strongly suggest you seek a good therapist and stay until you work through all the issues of your past so you can learn to stop letting events of your past destroy your future.
You don't ned to have a "boyfriend" to be a whole person. Learn to accept your own individuality. Learn to enjoy your own company and perhaps change the way you comm unicate. If you walk tall hold your head high and ignore this man and his comments he has no power over you. Learn to say "no" and "I don't want to" and don't get yourself alone with this creep, or with anyone else who does not treat you with respect, stop being a doormat!
2006-08-19 20:18:06 · answer #2 · answered by Christine M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your self esteem is low so your going along with it.
be ready to report him to the police. use that threat to get him to leave yo the hell alone and if he doesnt just report him.
your 1. a minor, 2. he caused you mental harm and subsequently physical harm, 3. hes stalking and molesting you. basically he sounds like the sort of person that would beat up women or be a peadophile.
get the hell out of there!!!
he doesnt love you or anything and what ever you do dont have sex with him!!!
say youll sue, call police. hes no doubt about it commited a serious crime/crimes.
get him out of your life its seriously not good what you said hes doing there!
this could lead to long term mental trauma and relationship difficulties in your future if it plays with your head too much.
basically it sounds like the complete opposite to what you shuld want from a "1st love"
2006-08-19 20:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by the dogone dog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away from this strange individual. you only get over someone by moving on with your life to do this you have to be in a place mentally where you dont think about him all the time or even everyday and are therefore free from his trapping ways, its difficult but just ignore this fool, realize you were young and impressionable and really thought this guy liked you when in reality he was only after a fumble. be a strong confident woman, its in all woman somewhere
2006-08-19 20:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by mike.brooks321 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a) I couldn't read your whole question because it was too long
b) STAY AWAY FROM THIS JERK he only wants to sleep with you and he doens't give a crap about you, or your feelings
c) GET COUNSELING, being suicidal is a serious issue with depression and you need to be treated
d) he isn't the only guy interested in you, if you could work on your self esteem you would realize 2 things - there are a lot of men who might be interested in you and you don't have to sleep with any of them and that you don't NEED a man to be accepted in this world.
2006-08-19 20:08:09 · answer #5 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are both wrong. he is controlling and controlled you and you allowed it.being young and in like is what youwere. infatuated that a boy not a man was using you. everytime he said jump you did. allowing him to degrade your body. and your mind. older men like to manipulate younger women and they feel sex is the best way to do it. you have to take control of you. not let anyone think for you or care what anyone thinks for that matter. stand on your backbone god gave you that spnine. and say no or dont say anything at all. one thing i lerned was to remember the past. cause those who dont are bound to repeat it. yes forgive ,but remember. he heas not changed and you are going right back-wards, why?
2006-08-19 20:16:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A loser that you pitty so much
2006-08-19 20:10:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋