2nd child with a different dad?

Question

I am pregnant with my second child, (dfferent dad)he helps me take care of my first child and his own daughter, and now we are having one together, he doesn't act happy and I am wondering is he going to favor his daughter over our kid??? Not that there is any jelousy

Answer 1

You could always ask, but seeing as how he seems to be raising your current child like his own, I doubt he would treat "his own" any differently.

Answer 2

They say your first child always means more because it is your first child does not mean they love the others any less. Also there is daddy's little girl. I am sure once the baby comes he will be happy. But not to bring you down or anything but I am married/separated we are trying to work on things but he is in the army and well he is in Ga I am in Va and his ex(who has his first daughter) is in Fl which FL and Ga are close so every weekend he goes and see's his daughter seems to adore her so much and he has seen his soon for 20 minutes since he was born and he is 3 months. He says he loves him and he can't drive that far from base unless he gets a pass but some guys are just immature. However you guys live with one another so I think you will be ok where he can see the baby everyday. Also my husband is 22 so still young I am sure you are older and he is more mature. I don't see how anyone could not wanna be with there child. good luck and I am sure everything will be ok. You said he helps with your other child that is not his so I think you will be ok.

Answer 3

For a lot of men pregnancy doesn't mean anything as they don't get to experience much and the focus is on the Mommy. They don't feel involved since they can't feel the baby or what it's like to have a baby growing inside. But once the baby is born most become very devoted fathers as they can finally feel and see the baby.

I wouldn't worry about it as he seems to be doing a very good job helping you with your child. This new baby will be a way for your two families to mesh as there will be a common blood bond now between your first child and his daughter.

Answer 4

I really think that you should discuss this with your boyfriend/husband (not sure which). I wouldn't right out accuse him but just ask him how he feels about the way your family is changing. We could all sit here and tell you what to think but the only way you will know for sure is to ask him not us. Good luck. I had a son who was 8mos old when my husband and I started dating. He treats my son just like our other son and daughter. At times he actually favors my son over the other 2. He also pushed for me to allow him to adopt my son and I did. Every one is different.

Answer 5

I always wonder the same thing about my hubby. He is a great dad to my lil girls from a previous marriage,but when he has his "own" if he will take it shopping more,or buy it more things.I have a friend who has 3 kids,then her and her huby have one together. He spoils that baby rotton but treats the others like lil redheaded stepkids!! He wants one or two kids of his own,and we are trying for one. It worried me too,so I am curious to see the answers.

Answer 6

I don't think so, if he is not showing a difference between the two now.
He may be wondering the same about you. Or it is the stress of financial woes, work related, He may even be afraid that he might make a difference with the new born.
Talk to him and if he says it is nothing, don't push and let time be the factor.

Answer 7

I think you guys will be okay, just start talking now. another baby is a big deal and it really changes your relationship, it is not just you and your kid and him and his kid anymore. You need to make sure that all the kids have all the same rules. And remember this baby is his kid too, he will love the baby, it is just a big announcement and alot to take in- that is why we have 9+ months to prepare. LOL

Answer 8

Maybe he's just feeling the pressure.
He might feel good about the fathee that he is to your first child, but it may make him feel like he won't be as good of a father to the second, or neglect one of them.
Be glad that he is there for you and your kids....not alot of men take responsibility. Congratulations by the way!!

Answer 9

maybe its because he is afraid that another child will put a financial burden on you guys?or maybe he is nervous on taking on another responsibility i dont think it has any thing to do with you or your new baby and how could anyone favor one child over another? if anything he will favor your child over the other two because he is in love with you,dont worry its just the nervous jitters

Answer 10

Talk to him. You won't be able to tell until the baby is born. Maybe his daughter is ignored by her real mother and he has to over compensate. Good Luck!