Why are parents mad at kids for having sex but are overjoyed when they become grandparents?

Question

Don't they seem to contradict themselves?

Answer 1

they are glad because that is the next step in life. thats whats supposed to happen. but when their child is ready. because they dont want their grandchildren being raised by immature people. and sex isnt something to play around with especially in this day and age.

Answer 2

No, we don't contradict ourselves. First of all most of the young girls that have sex end up getting dumped by the guy that got her pregnant and most will swear that it's not his, then they tell everyone she's a whore. Most of the guy's are still sowing their oats while this young girl is raising their baby on her own and with 90% of her parents help. If guy's don't want the responsibility of raising a child then stop convincing these girls you love them and want to be with them forever. As a grandparent we know it's not that baby's fault that they were conceived the way they were so we are going to show them that no matter what their parents did or do they will always have us.

Answer 3

My parents would have been appalled if they had become grandparents when we were in high school. They are thrilled now that we are all educated,independent and working. I don't deny that there are parents who react that way. I was just at a grocery store yesterday and saw a girl who could not be older than 14 pushing a baby stoller. Her mother was carrying her own toddler (so the baby's uncle is the same age as him). I guess they figure "what can you do? It's not the baby's fault".

Answer 4

As a parent myself, I know the greatest day will be when my kids are older and have grand kids for me. I think right now at their age they are not mentally, physically or financially able to take care of kids. Kids having sex is a lot different than adults because for the most part, adults are more capable than a child to take care of a child. Now dont get me wrong there are very responsible teen parents and very irresponsible adult parents, but for the most part it is harder for a child to raise a child than for an adult to.

We want our kids to do the best they can, to achieve things that we never achieved ourselves. to throw a baby in the mix when you are a child only sets you back a bit further. I personally would love to think my kids will be "pure" until getting married but that is really an out of date thought, as most kids now have no concept of responsibility or respect for their bodies. They dont grasp the concept that even if they are not sexually involved with someone, the other person can lie and then the other person is left ruined with a bad rep and no one who is worthy would want them

I want my kids to grow up healthy and not have to go through what I had to go through when they were little. I was way too young. It is not a contradiction to want grand kids, unless you want them when your own kids are teens....

Answer 5

I'm a grandma. I wasn't mad at my son for having sex- I just wanted him to be careful so they didn't have kids before they were ready. Guess what happened?

It has been very hard for them and they are separated now. Their relationship might have had a better chance if they hadn't become parents so soon.

Like others have said, once its a reality, the babies are the most precious things to us. But we know that having children at a young age is especially hard because you have so much growing and changing left to do. We want our kids to have the fullest happiest lives possible. We want them to be ready when they have their babies.

Many parents don't know how to communicate with their kids because their parents didn't communicate with them. Getting angry is the only way they know how to deal with their fears. It's really is because they love you.

Answer 6

Depends on what age.......I would have to say parents would like their children to be in a relationship (that is good), married, financially secure, and emotionally prepared for a child. The reason they are mad is that either you are too young, there are social diseases that you might obtain if you have unprotected sex, unwanted pregnancies....they want you to have sex with someone who loves you, respects you, and is mature to be able to handle the consequences of having sex. It is wonderful when there is a new life brought into this world, especially when we know they will be cared for by our children.

Answer 7

Well, uh...if their child is young, or not married, a lot of parents wont approve, however, when the child comes into the world, it's not the child's fault and most parents (grandparents) forget all the anger and love the child, no matter the circumstances.

Answer 8

Most parents want their younger children to hold off on sex until they're an adult, but then they figure they're adults so they should be providing grandchildren. My parents have started pressuring me for grandkids and I just laugh and tell them to pressure my brother since he at least isn't single like I am.

Answer 9

The key word in the sentence is "kids". You should be an adult when you have sex so no one can say anything about what you choose to do. And they would like for you to be able to take care of your own children so they don't have to. Have your own house, your own car, your own job, and pay your own bills............ then have all the kids you want............ but take care of them yourself

Answer 10

Simply because sex are not for kids, they are for adults. Don't you get that? Then you are still a kid,, do not experiment, you could be in great trouble.