One fine day....?

Question

This isn't really a question, more of a rambling, but feel free to comment. I've just finished watching the movie "One fine day" - and, as with most romantic movies, it left me feeling kinda empty inside. I've always held on to the belief that we all have a soulmate out there, and 'one fine day' he/she will come along, and it really will be love like they have in the movies ... but after many years, and many men i am reluctant to add, im losing faith in that belief. Now, just so you know, i consider myself to be an intelligent woman. Im certainly not walking around with my head in the clouds ... but in matters of the heart i truly believe i am destined to just settle for second best - because sometimes it gets to the point where second best is better than nothing, and there is only so long one can wait around for the person who ticks all the boxes, right?

Anyway, im sure im just delusional after 2 hrs of watching George Clooney at his smoothest, so feel free to ignore this message.

Can i just point out, i am not in emotional pain over this, ive got lots of wonderful people in my life, i just wondered if other people sometimes feel like settling, rather than waiting for the slim possibility of that special someone.

Answer 1

Well I think you should hold on to the belief that we all have a soulmate out there D.

You said that in matters of the heart you truly believe that you are destined to just settle for second best. Well I think you should clear that belief right out of your mind. Never settle for second best...you deserve the best. And if you keep that thought and happen to meet THE right person that thought will be there and you will keep wondering if he IS only second best.

On the other hand, if you just live life as it comes and date with only the thought of a lovely night out with a really nice person, then who knows what will happen. You may just meet that special one who makes your heart sing, and he may not be the type you imagined at all, and if you had been totting up the ticks for the boxes you might have passed him over because he missed one or two.

That bit about there being only so long one can wait for the right person is just a no no. Never mind checking on how long it is taking, just live your life . You know what they say....The Past is a Memory, The Future is a Mystery, and Today is a Gift, that is why it is called the Present. I hope you have a really happy life D.

Answer 2

LOL. Don't be too hard on urself, u have every right to want the best for you and to look out for ur own well being. I mean if u don't then who will? Never settle for less cause u'll end up regreting it for the rest of ur life. Look at it this way, If u had a pair of shoes that were too tight for you, would u continue to wear them? Certainly not. Rather u'd go out and buy a new pair that fits. Similarly then, when looking for a soulmate, u choose someone who encapsulates all the values, qualities and characteristics you want in a man. Don't expect perfection though cause none of us are perfect but try to choose wisely and even though he may not reflect all the qualities etc. u want in a man, still make sure that he has most of them cause at least u'll know that the few he's lacking can be handle or tolerated overtime so don't give up but always keep ur standards high and someday u will find that special guy.

Answer 3

My wife and I are soulmates, but not all people really find their soulmates immediately. And being soulmates doesn' mean your relationship will always be in cloud 9. But definitely being soulmates helps a lot during rough times.
For the meantime, stop looking for your soulmate because they just come around at the most unexpected places. But don't be obsessed with it because not all soulmates are good mates and this will just hurt you even more. I am sure there are a lot of good guys our there even if they are just as you say, 2nd best.
Movies relate to us yes, but we cannot always expect that what is in the movie will also happen to us. Each person has his/her own destiny to take care of.
The problem with soulmates is when they come in late and you are already married to someone else. But let this not discourage you to get that 2nd best when he is not yet around. Anyway you can cross the bridge only when it comes.
Also you are not sure that your soulmate is here in this lifetime, or you may not have a soulmate.

Answer 4

You're just on a downer, films can get you like that!!
I've learnt it's better to be alone than with the wrong person. If you're lonely find something you enjoy to do. Be creative, make the effort to meet like minded ppl. Have fun. Every human situation has it's problems and the grass def is not greener on the other side. Imagine taking 2nd best and being bored out of your skull, or illtreated etc..make your own happiness, it's not a good idea to need someone to make you happy.

Answer 5

well i disagree with you...you do not have to settle for second best...do what you know will make you happy...and do not get discouraged either....stand straight and wait and be happy with yourself and work on yourself and maybe mr. right will come along...you do not and should not settle for second best..i have did that and i am here to tell you one day down the line it is going to crash...so wait it out and find someone that you really love and he loves you...i have been there and rushed into marriage 3 times and i will not do that again...they were abusive and i was not happy.. you have to really get to know someone real well before you marry them cause they can change so fast, especially if they married you for other reasons than real love..

Answer 6

Wait for the right one. Having high expectations for Mr. Right will only cause you to realize that there is not going to be one guy that will meet your standards 100% on the dot. There could be a lot of Mr.Rights out there.

Answer 7

i feel the exact same way you do. im single and its getting to the point where second does look better than nothing at all. good men are rare and life is short. so i guess we have to settle just a little for second best cuz from the way it looks real men have gone bye-bye

Answer 8

I hold your sentiments entirely. Some people just seem to be so lucky in love..........but maybe it's just that they are have a wider field of search. If we say that so and so is no good, without first giving them a fair chance, then we are doomed to a lonely life. And remember those who act like they are cool, are often the uncoolest.........while shy akward males are often the most romantic......once you get through their defences. Because those with no heart have no fear of getting it broken.........whilst those with a heart of gold.......protect it .

Answer 9

One fine day.....


....I walked to my car to go to the store and found that my car wouldn't start. I tried it again and it was the same R-r-r-r-r-r-grooooannnnn sound. It was turning over but it wasn't starting. I didn't know about cars. That was 'those' kinds' of people. 'They' knew about gasoline and carburetors and such. I knew about spreadsheets and deadlines. "How lucky they were"; I thought. All they had to do was get up, go to work and fix a car. No big deal, but *I* had to deal with Hardey.

What a dork. He demanded imaginary deadlines that he wouldn't, or couldn't keep on his own. He was smug because he knew he was in a niche that the rest of us would never have. He was essentially his own boss. It was like he could make his own hours with no consequences and he seemed to revel in watching the comings and goings of the rest of us.

He smelled bad. Like he didn't shower regularly. Disgusting, and then I was disgusted with myself for even thinking about him. Greasy pig.

My problem was the here and now. I need to get to my mediocre job, or I'd ultimately have to deal with Hardey. I hate that moron. How did he even manage to get a job?!

I had bigger things to worry about. How do I get the car started. What should I do? was it something easy that someone could come and walk up to it and say....."this is all your problem is maam". Or is it one of those things were they have to tow it to a garage and then have cause to charge me an extra $200.00? hard to say.

But I called a service station and they said they wouldn't came out. That I had to bring the car in. I said, "what if the car won't start. They said, you need to call a tow truck. I think they feed off each other to be honest. I really had no choice. So I called the tow truck company and had then come over. I was looking out the window for them and then I saw the truck pull up....Out came.....


Ok.....someone else take it from here. Good thread....fun....different. I give you five stars for posting it! :)

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Answer 10

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