This question is mostly for women, although if any guys have a good answer, I'll take it. Here's my dilema. My girlfriend is an amazing person, but lately I've realized that, being an introvert and someone who hates talking on the phone, I would really like to be without a significant other. I'm worried that if I say something right now, (these feelings are quite new) it would be a confusing change. Also, we are coming up on our sixth month aniversary. I really don't want to hurt her any more than I have to, because, as I said before, she is a really cool person. What to say and how to say it would be great advice for me. Also, if you have any insight about waiting till some time after the anniversary or not, that would be helpful too.
Thanks
2006-08-19 12:13:53 · 12 answers · asked by Krazy Karl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you said these feelings were new, maybe you should wait a few weeks to see if they change. if in a few weeks you still feel like you need some space, then talk to her, and be nice about it.
2006-08-19 12:21:13 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Berry Picker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 'sweet' there has it down right. Waiting will only prolong the inexitable. its better that she have the little pinprick of pain that she'd have now....rather then to wait until after the anniversery. If you do that she's likely to ask you how long you've been feeling this way and if you lie she'll prolly know.
If you want to avoid making her hurt more the possible. Its best to sit down with her...tell her how you feel.
tell her right out that at this point you don't feel like you want a girlfriend...if thats how you really feel. Whatever ya do don't lie to her or string her on.
2006-08-19 12:28:20 · answer #2 · answered by warm_champaign 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your unsure about your feelings you need to tell her now. Because if u come to find out that u don't wanna be with her then she will wonder why u waited so long to say something. Its better to tell her whats up. IF u wait till your anniversary then that will just break her heart even more duh..... lol. Just if u do it do it befor then. Make sure that u say something like honey. i just wanted to tell you that i was feeling like i want to be alone and not with anyone right now. Its not you. Its just that i feel i have to do this befor i can commit anymore time to you. Im sure she would rather u tell her sooner than later. I hope that helps:D good luck
2006-08-19 12:25:29 · answer #3 · answered by Sami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, the best thing you can do is not waste anymore of her time than you have to. Don't wait just tell her that you don't want to be in a relationship at this point in your life. The truth is no matter how you say it, if she cares for you, she'll be hurt. You can't get around it, so you just have to go for it.
2006-08-19 12:19:26 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait if I were you. First of all because the feelings you described seems to be pretty new. Wait sometime and see if they disappear.
If they don't then the best thing to do is telling her the truth. Break up and tell her exactly why.
2006-08-19 12:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by Mathias H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have lost interest in her. Maybe I'm wrong.
But if you still love her and want to be with her you can tell her that you don't like talking on the phone and you rather see her in person. If you can't see her often and you don't want to talk on the phone than it's best that you break it up. It wouldn't be fair to her to keep her hopes high. Good luck.
2006-08-19 12:22:18 · answer #6 · answered by locamiami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't wait any longer sense it has been less then a year you should just Let it go because either way she is going to be hurt .You should be honest and let her go so she can find someone who wants to be in a serious relationship and if your not happy you should make yourself happy by doing what you want and not what she wants so she won't get hurt.
2006-08-19 12:21:53 · answer #7 · answered by marrissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her now. Don't put it off any longer than necessary. She'll be upset but just get it over with. Tell her you decided this is not what you want and leave it at that. If you don't want to remain friends, don't bring the subject of friendship up.
2006-08-19 12:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! Just tell her exactly what you have just told me. I would tell her as soon as possible, so that she could go on. Please don't say, " Can we still be friends?", and "I just need a little time for myself". Believe me, that confuses woman so much. Please be honest with her. There is nothing wrong with being honest. Just take a deep breath, and tell her what you have told me. If I were her, I would appreciate the honesty.
I really hope that this helps you.
2006-08-19 12:30:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her what you are feeling. Don't wait to celibrate an anniversary. The sooner you tell her the better off you will both be.
2006-08-19 12:19:39 · answer #10 · answered by curiousgeorgia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋