my boyfreind and i both agreed that porn was nasty and we werent gonna watch it unless we both wanted to together.for 8 months he never watched it or looked at it over the computer but im now 5 months pregnant and he got busted looking at it on the computer lol he tried to hide it but wasnt very smart about it.i even asked him what he was doing on the computer the night before and he made up some thing even tho later i found out different.i just wanna know if anyone has any reasoning as to why he would do that to me?is it that im not sexy anymore cause im pregnant or what?
2006-08-19 12:13:39 · 14 answers · asked by paris_0129 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
hey, why not watch it. your already living in sin by havin ex out od marriage, watching porn in the first place (even together), and souds like you live togehter.
hey, the kid deserves a chance. find a worthy two arent married couple who can't have a child of their own, keep your legs closed for now on and grow up
2006-08-22 10:46:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, do not feel that your not sexy because your pregnant. I think your boyfriend is just being a man and most men are perverted and they love to watch things like that. I am also pregnant 6mth's and my husband does not even look at me in a sexual way actually he does not even have sex with me.
I told him that I will not be pregnant for ever and I will remember how he treated me. My husband does not realize that he needs to give me the attention now not when I have the baby and I'm in shape again. Love me whether I'm pregnant or not... Don't worry, talk to him and let him know how you feel and if he does not listen it's his lose... (Good Luck)!!!!
2006-08-19 19:31:12 · answer #2 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men will agree to anything at the beginning. They can't help it, most of them seem to like porn. It has nothing to do with their like or love for the g/f or spouse. They will do it on the sly if you try to stop them. Live and let live. The more you nag/object/bug the guy the more he will withdraw and turn away. Just love and humor the poor critter. Much better he looks at porn than finds another woman (which is what my husband did when I was pregnant).
2006-08-19 19:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by slsunfrog 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's only your boyfriend, you're not married to him, he is still free and single and can basically do whatever he wants. Maybe you should have waited for marriage before you had that "bun in the oven". Just because he's you're boyfriend doesn't mean he has to stop living because you are pregnant.
2006-08-23 04:21:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that does not mean he dosnt think you are sexy any more. I went through the same thing and it made me feel worse about myself. Men just cant help it. Men think about sex 24, 7! When your pregnant you prolly dont give it up as much as you used to.. :) I do understand about you being upset about him sneakin, I would be to thats not right. Maybe you should watch it on t.v. lil with him and maybe he wont sneak it any more. ????
2006-08-19 19:33:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that happened to me not to long ago, I'm just entering my 6th month. It's hard to take. We already don't feel confident about what he's really thinking about our "new bodies" and to have them do this? It really hurt me. Yes, I know guys are visual, but it doesn't make me feel any better. Especially when it's been about a month that we've been intimate. Be thankful if he at least still turns to you on a regular basis. At least one of us is getin some. lol
2006-08-19 19:24:18 · answer #6 · answered by helpplz 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure your bf still finds you attractive and sexy.
Guys are just visual creatures and enjoy watching porn from time to time. If it begins to get in the way of you two having fun, then it's time to talk to him about it and figure something out.
2006-08-19 19:19:40 · answer #7 · answered by thinkofasong 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
lol never think that he dosent love you or not.but afterall he is a boy and you know how boys are.he might have been felt like watchin it so he just went ahead.common you are not supposed to take these kind of tension at this time it affects your baby. he still loves you and will love you forever.
2006-08-23 07:39:59 · answer #8 · answered by priyaedesh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most men look at porn LOL. It doesn't mean you are not attractive in his eyes or anything. It is totally ok. Is this y'alls 1st baby? Congrats on that! Talk to him about it. He may have been looking before and you just didn't catch him. If it bothers you that much just talk to him. Goodluck
2006-08-19 19:20:14 · answer #9 · answered by Froggie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel really bad for you to be a victim of pornography, especially while your expecting a new little life for this " well adjusted society ". No one is immune from the effects of porn. This menace not only touches the lives of those who fill their minds with it, but it also claims thousands of other innocent victims each year. Porn does contribute to deviant sexual behavior as this crazy world can testify to that fact. In addition to its links with sexual violence, porn is believed to be contributing to the breakdown of marriage and family life in our country, as well as the rise in extramarital sex, unwanted pregnancies and venereal diseases. Porn portrays sex as independant of love, commitment, morality and responsibility. It follows, then, that marriages of those who view it may suffer.
While your husband may love you and respect you ( so he says ), he is still committing adultry just by viewing porn. And if he feels like he is doing nothing wrong, why are you feeling hurt and betrayed? When a couple get married, they are bound together, not by law, but by love. They openly and totally commit themselves to each other for the rest of their lives. They do this in faith. Each one trusts the other to sincerely try never to hurt, always to help. Together, they expect to seek happiness and fulfillment with each other. So when your husband deceides to view porn behind your back, he is betraying that trust.
He is not only lying to himself but to you. And we all know that lying usually turns us into our own worst enemy! When we have to lie to the one who trusts implicitly, we will lose big time. I mean how do you feel about your husband covering up ( lying) about viewing porn? Seriously discuss this openly without secrets, get it out into the open and get rid of this problem or serious consequences may arise out of this now or later after the baby is born. God Bless.
2006-08-20 01:03:51 · answer #10 · answered by trieghtonhere 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋