ok everytime i get close with like a friend i find something wrong,like a reason to back off why do i want to reject everyone?
2006-08-19 11:53:52 · 10 answers · asked by jen 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
because you are afraid they will reject you first and you dont want to get hurt
2006-08-19 11:59:52 · answer #1 · answered by oceanlady580 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are not confident in yourself and you are afraid of letting people get close and really know the real you.
It is easier for many people to be alone and not worry what others think of you. When you find fault in others, think of two things. First, do you have that same fault you don't like in yourself? Second, is this a way of making an excuse of not getting closer to the person.
No person is perfect, no one. Remember that and look for the good and nice things in others.
2006-08-19 19:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by banananose_89117 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn to love (like) yourself first before you can love (like) someone else.
Nothing helps me to be a better person and to like people more (with or without their faults) than finding a good self help book to read.
Some of my most favorite books are from the Chicken Soup series. Go to Goodwill or Value Village and look at their books and see what they have. Remember without friends or family you have nothing.
I wish I could help you more...I just lost a 14 year old grandson to a boating accident and a cousin to cancer and my nephew just got in a bad car accident and my family and friends are there every day to help me. Everyone needs someone. Please look for the good in everyone and remember that no one is perfect - and no one really wants to be.
2006-08-19 19:05:08 · answer #3 · answered by Gotta Have Pugs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you nervous about a friend seeing the "real" you? Perhaps you have insecurities and are unwilling for a friend to see them because then they will think less of you.
By rejecting them before they can possibly reject you, you are protecting yourself from any hurt or disappointments you could face were the friendship(s) to continue.
2006-08-19 19:01:48 · answer #4 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well mabey your trying to find a reason not to like a person you should try a little less to find flaws and try more to find things that there are perfect in lets say u like a guy named bob bob has a lot of nose hair but hes a really great guy.. id focus more on the niceness. and lets say its a habbit like scraching his head theres no big deal about it mabey hes a fun guy... well watever your after i hope you find it
2006-08-19 19:02:16 · answer #5 · answered by worried 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause you're afraid of rejection. you should just let yourself be and give atleast one friend a try...you never know might be the best for you.
let somoene in...take one step at a time...take your time...and trust me...having a close friend and knowing they wont leave...is great!
good luck
2006-08-20 01:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by krissy_pod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because you are afraid they will leave you alone or hurt you. We can not live with fear. People are going to come and go in your life. With the good you must take the bad.
2006-08-19 19:00:17 · answer #7 · answered by thebulktiny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with being choosy. Why put up with something you do not care for. You go.
2006-08-19 19:00:49 · answer #8 · answered by hello 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have trust in the God and have good friends, nothing will happen to yu God willing
2006-08-19 19:05:57 · answer #9 · answered by pathowiz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you want them to be perfect. That would be a case of perfectionism.
2006-08-19 19:01:59 · answer #10 · answered by Jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋