Say I've been dating this fellow for 4 years now and we got engaged last week
To come to the point
1 year ago, my boyfriend did something, i wish not to discuss and my mother resent him for it. she told me to stop seing him but i didn't
My mother hates him.
I just want advise on how to tell my mother about the situation
Basically I want her to accept him and care for him as she does for my sister's fiancee
Any sujestions
Plus I'm not trying to match up to my sister and I know that it will take time for her to come around.
2006-08-19 11:28:56 · 10 answers · asked by annie 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well start out by asking her to forgive him or what ever. If he did someting thats unforgivable then it will be hard. But if it is something he did to you. just say I have forgave him and it is my life. I want you to be in it too. I want you and him to have a relationship. Will you do this for me? and if she says no then be like why not I want you and him to get along and just be ok with each other just forgive him for me. and then when the time is right tell her you guys got engaged but I wouldn't tell her at the same time you asked her to forgive him. and i would ask her to forgive him by yourself just you and her not infront of a crowd. and i would suggest to tell her about the engagment with family and with him near. so she can't do anything like rational b/c she'll be infront of family or whatever. but yea just try to tell her
GOOD LUCK
2006-08-19 11:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by gingerg50 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to tell you this girlfriend.
Once your mom got the feel for this guy and the news whatever it was got out that put the bad taste in her mouth. NOTHING is going to change that. Ever hear of the saying "Mother knows best?" I hate it but it's so true. They will even say if you like him i love him but the truth of the matter is they will always resent him for the wrongful deed that was done. Make sure that MF buys the most expensive and largest diamond you can get out of his azz. Oh does Kobe Bryant ring any bells. Men always cheat.
2006-08-19 18:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by Lucy Lu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother doesn't like who I have chosen to marry, but that is something she has to live with. I know for a fact my boyfriend/husband loves me. My mom says she knows what is best for me, but she has no clue. People make mistakes. If you can honestly tell yourself what ever he has done will never happen again and trust that, then you have to follow your own heart. Live your life for you, not your mom. 2 yrs ago my sister told my mom that my boyfriend sniffs crack. Since then my mom has hated him. Truth is my sister at the time was wasted and can't remember what she did, and no one in my family will stick up for us. Always remember you can't always please everyone. They are the ones that will miss out on so much in your life. I know it hurts, but only you can make yourself happy. Don't let them take away your happiness. Tell her, she has to move on in life and accept the man you have chosen to start a life with. Tell her she can trust your judgment, after all, you learned how to judge people from your mother.
Good luck
2006-08-19 18:45:30 · answer #3 · answered by Dr.Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother that you've forgiven your fiance and explain why you've forgiven him. Let her know how he's tried to make amends for what he has done.
I'm sure many people will say "who cares what your mom thinks?" but that is beside the point - Clearly your mother opinion matters and you deserve to have everyone get along.
Let your mom know you don't expect her to automatically accept him 100% but you hope she will put herself in your shoes and give him a second chance.
Good luck.
2006-08-19 18:34:03 · answer #4 · answered by ♪ ♥ ♪ ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you mom should just want you to be happy specially now that you are engaged but then again my family and my boyfriends family still have trouble accepting me and my boyfriend and we have been together for 8 years and we dont care what they think. As long as we are happy
2006-08-19 18:40:15 · answer #5 · answered by ???.??LIFE'S THE PITS??.?.?? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i see where your coming from i was with my fiance since i was 14 im 20 now we split up because he cheated on me and we was broken up for 2 months my mom disliked him after that but until one day he showed up at my door i was happy to see him but the point is i just talked to my mother and told her every body is not perfect everybody makes mistakes and everybody needs a second chance
2006-08-19 18:38:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well mothers do know best and she just does not want to see you hurt again and In this question I would say think it over please you might just save yrself from a long time of suffering, If I could only go back man would have done differently...................
2006-08-19 18:35:50 · answer #7 · answered by ))-->rOXY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll only accept and care for him if she wants to. You can't do anything about that. If she loves you, she'll want whats best for you and if she sees he makes you happy, she will support that. Hopefully she will realize it is your life and your decision. Good luck!
2006-08-19 18:33:55 · answer #8 · answered by bonedoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was obviously bad for youre mom not to like him.
think long and hard before marrying him. Parents are always right. They have experience!!!!!
I know this from experience!!!!!
2006-08-19 18:33:05 · answer #9 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..tell ur mother how u feel about this not us
2006-08-19 18:32:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋