Help!!!! PLZ?

Question

My dad is always telling me to do things other people do. Like if someone plays the piano he wants me to do it to and if I get a B in my report card he yells at me. Why can't he exept me for me. GOT ANY ADVICE TO HANDEL IT?

Answer 1

just continue to do the best that you possibly can. and make your dad understand that your doing the best that you can, and that your not all these other people that he likes to compare you to.


after doing this, if you want to show him how it feels, start comparing him to the millionaire and billionaire fathers that are out there, and then ask him how does it feel?

Answer 2

It's because he cares. Parents sometimes get a little crazy. Some try to correct past regrets from their own lives through their kids. So if he always wanted to play an instrument, but never did because he had to work when he was a teen, then he wants you to pick up the piano.

Try to find some middle ground. EVERYONE should try hard in school, because an education gives you more choices for later in life. You don't want to wind up one of those sad women who are barely scraping by in some dead end job hoping for some man to help them financially, and winding up having to settle for some over the hill perv just to pay the bills. Education should be a priority for EVERYONE.

If your dad sees you trying hard in school, he's likely to cut you some slack in other aspects of your life where you might have more choice. Don't be too hard on him. Some dads don't care, or run out on their kids. You actually have it pretty good.

Answer 3

Sounds like he just wants you to be the best possible, and that is no crime. But, you have to do what is right for you. If you have an interest in something he mentions, like playing the piano for instance, then ask him if you can have piano lessons. If he is on you about your grades... try to sit down and talk with him about it. A B on a report card is a good grade, above average. Maybe when he starts up about something, you can talk to him and let him know how you feel about it.... he really does only have your best interests in mind.

Answer 4

Being a parent myself, I think, deep down, your dad only wants the best for you. Unfortunately, many parents think their children's achievements are a reflection of the parent. Maybe your dad is worried people will think he's not a good dad if he doesn't have the "perfect" daughter. (If this is true, it's his problem, not yours!)

Anyway, here's my advice. When he makes a suggestion, think about it. Is it something you would want to do even if your dad would not have suggested it? If so, go for it! It doesn't hurt to try new things.

The second piece of advice. Is there something you are passionate about? Something you really love to do? If so, this is what is special about you. Share this with your father and ask him for help in pursuing your passions in life.

Good luck honey!

From:

A Mom in Utah

Answer 5

im 13 my dad always gives me a ******* head eke do ur homwork and that **** do i NO NO WAY well just listen to him i go in my bedroom stay there 30 minits come out and say done lol well his ur dad so i guess he want the best what im jokeing his a pain in the *** LOL god i love joeking around good luck i hope i helped LOL

Answer 6

First of all......he just wants u to do ur best and succeed. So dont complain.
Secondly, dont expect us strangers to understand this and give u life altering solutions. Its unrealistic expectation. Trust your dad more than u trust us strangers in Yahoo answers. After all he mean well for u.

Answer 7

i go through the same thing you do ,exactly. so if you add me i will tell you more about how to handel it

Answer 8

TELL HIM YOU KNO WHATS BEST FOR YOU HE IS NOT LIVING YOUR LIFE U R