He is an only child and was in daycare for 2 years, which I hated! Then, I got to "retire" and stay home with him just after he turned 3. He loves being home, but the other day at the beach he wished on a magic rock "for a friend". He loves other kids, but he says he "wants to stay home with you mom". He's an outgoing, secure child and is very, very boy. I want to go back to work by this fall, but I feel guilty. Any thoughts? Other moms in this predicament?
2006-08-19 10:46:42 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
When I was three my mom pulled me out of preschool because I wanted to stay home with her. Now as an adult I wish she hadn't because I never really learned to be strong on my own. It is so hard but he will look back on this and thank you for making him a strong person.
2006-08-19 16:28:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-05 04:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by zubrzycki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worst part is going to be the first day. He will cry, you will cry, but it will be fine. I think it is like what that guy Cesar said with the dog...He doesn't think you'll be back and you will be gone forever. Once he sees you come back he won't care. I used to work at a private preschool and they would just sit all the "criers" down in a room and have the new teachers hold them until they stopped crying. Then they were fine and couldn't wait to get back. I guess they thought if you could stand to be in a room with screaming crying children you had the right stuff to work there.
2006-08-19 10:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by want it bad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you tell him that youy hated his being in daycare?? that could be one of the problems.. He doesnt want to do something that upset you in the past. Lots of kids have a hard time starting out going to school but they do get over it. He will make friends and learn things and it will be very very good for him. Dont feel guilty... everybody has to do things they dont want to do and most always it turns out fine!!!
2006-08-19 14:46:33 · answer #4 · answered by Shelli Bean 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is with people and sending 4 year olds to school?
Where I live you are not allowed to send a child under 5 to school.
Is your kid starting pre-k or kindergarten? If he is going to pre-k I say do the right thing and blow that off because the law is pre-k is optional and you do not really learn anything. Seriously the poor kid has to go threw high school, middle school and elemtry so is it really right to turture the poor kid with pre-k
2006-08-19 18:47:48 · answer #5 · answered by Chrissy_Lynn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My 3 1/2 year old is starting school in September and she tells me that she does not want to go. But I believe once she there she will be fine because she loves other children. WHen I was registering her last year she did not want to come home with me. I believe that your son is going to do fine in school, all you have to do is stay with him for a while until he is comfortable then you leave....
2006-08-19 11:59:33 · answer #6 · answered by Vicky 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He sounds terrific.
Thet key word you wrote in describing him was "secure". With that and the desire to have friends he will do great.
Just build up pre-school as much as possible - and remind him of those things when you get there. Be quick about yur good-byes each day.
2006-08-19 10:53:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either way is fine, but if you want to go back to work, you shouldn't have any guilt feelings about it. Associating with other children is good for him. Staying at home with you isn't bad either and he will want to stay at home with you.
So do what you need to do and want to do - if you are happy he will be too!!!
2006-08-19 10:55:30 · answer #8 · answered by Auntie Alex 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then let him stay home...he doesn't really have to go to Pre School...He does have to go to Kindergarten, and you can be a room mom there...thats what I did..and now it's all good and my son is ready for school to start so he can be in 1st grade.
2006-08-19 10:54:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer is in your second sentence, "...which I hated!"
You are sending your child mixed messages. Kids are pretty sharp and they want to please their parents. He knows that you want you two to be together but he is also feeling the need to socialize. Stop showing him with body language or words that it makes you unhappy for the two of you to be apart. Encourage his individuality instead of part of a mommy\son unit.
Your story reminds me of my sister-in-law. When I would babysit for them, their daughter would be fine until they got to the door. Then my sister-in-law would turn around and call to her daughter to come to her. She would tell her, "don't miss mommy, we'll only be gone awhile, don't cry...", and on and on in that manner until her daughter was reduced to tears.
It's okay to go back to work mom. Don't feel guilty. Your son needs to socialize and make friends. He isn't too young to do so.
The best to both of you.
2006-08-19 11:01:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋