My friend has had a history of bad relationships. For some reason the guy always seems great, but ends up treating her badly. I'm not sure if she attracts the wrong guys or doesn't leave because she is so used to the bad treatment. As her friend, I don't want to get mad at her or tell her what to do, but I want to help her end this cycle of bad men in her life. Last night she called me crying because she went home from the bar with a guy whom she used to have a thing with, who always treated her like dirt. Same old story last night, he slept with her, then hid her clothes, all while his friends were laughing, basically threw her out with no money, just her pants and a jacket and forced her to walk home, which was a pretty far walk. She knows she shouldnt see guys like this, and I've told her that as well but what can I do to help her without preaching or trying to be her mom? All of my other friends do that and she hates it, and has closed them off. What should I do?
2006-08-19 09:54:50 · 9 answers · asked by ashlee85 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you can't do anything for her but be her friend.
she has to want to change. that is where to start. ahve her take time away from guys for a litle while and spend alot of time with her talking to her about how good she is and how you need her friendship. maybe she will learn she is a good person and deserves a good guy. I wish you and her luck!!!
2006-08-19 10:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to take it slow No jumping in the sack on the first date and friendship to start with then kick it up a notch if the guy seems ok.Act Like a *** and usually thats how you get treated. Obviously shes attracting the wrong type of guy..
2006-08-19 17:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by cin_ann_43 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, I'm surprised she still tries to have relationships. Sorry, I can't think of anything other than advising her to take it easy and not rush into relationships, or introducing her to someone that you believe would treat her well.
2006-08-19 17:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HURT ME ONCE, SHAME ON YOU,
HURT ME TWICE, SHAME ON ME
She isn't going to learn her lesson. She probably has low self esteem and thinks that is all she deserves. Help her increase her self esteem and self worth.
Obviously the preaching isn't working... so don't tell her you are trying to help her change that aspect.... tell her that you are trying to help her see how beautiful she is.
2006-08-19 17:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by beck o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop letting her use you as a counselor and maybe she'll get a real one. Either she stops the behavior or stops whining about the consequences.
2006-08-19 17:01:42 · answer #5 · answered by carol k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men only treat us the way we allow ourselves to be treated. Tell your friend to grow a backbone!!!
2006-08-19 17:00:17 · answer #6 · answered by GrownAndSexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow and get to know the person more then just a few months.
2006-08-19 16:59:07 · answer #7 · answered by Male Sicilian Trauma Nurse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love mean forgiveness but life is short find you self
2006-08-19 17:11:04 · answer #8 · answered by hashem a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to long.
2006-08-19 16:58:50 · answer #9 · answered by tonya86_chipmunk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋