We went on a date, I like her alot and am not sure just how mutual the feeling is at this point. The date went good so I asked her if she wanted to do something over the weekend she said she has a friend visiting from Phoenix, so she couldn't and to just call her....Anyway long story short... I emailed her the next day "Hey ---- have fun with your friend(s)! I'm going to call you on Monday after work sometime, until then have a nice weekend. It is busy here today....I can't wait to go. See you later!" ---- I kind of regret sending the email and am feeling a little insecure about the whole thing, (hence this post). I don't want to scare her by letting her know I like her or by her thinking I like her too much. Any advice? I really like this girl...
2006-08-19 09:40:56 · 29 answers · asked by John Q 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are just fine. Just call Monday after work as you said you would - not before. It shows you are not afraid to give her advance warning as to when you will be calling and following through on doing what you said you would do will show that you are reliable. If she does not answer Monday just tell her you were checking in with her as you said you would and you hope she had a good weekend. Leave your number and tell her again that you enjoyed your date with her. Then sit tight. Don’t call again. She may give it some time just to see if you are the kind of person who will give her a little space. Women are sometimes justifiably leery that someone may be too controlling and jump too fully into their lives. Call Monday and then give a lot of space. If she never calls you back you could even still call her in a couple of weeks. She might put off calling you and then not feel comfortable because she let it go for too long. Just give her another chance after a couple of weeks. If that call doesn’t get results then you’ll know to throw away the number. Don’t worry about it there are plenty of people: Some will, some won’t, so what? Spend your time on people who want to be with you. So far we don’t know enough about this one yet. You don’t look bad for writing - it was fine to show you liked her. Believe this: People ALWAYS think you show good judgment when you like them. Now the question is just a matter of whether or not she liked you.
2006-08-19 09:56:03 · answer #1 · answered by friend 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really like this girl, it is good that you sent the e-mail. The reason, quite simply, is that everyone likes the feeling of being pursued, and by explaining to her your intentions, you have removed any risk she may have felt regarding your interest. She will be flattered that you took the time and spent the energy to write such a thoughtful e-mail. It will actually leave a very good impression on her.
I understand you do not want to come across as being too eager, but in this case, it sounds like your choice of words was pretty tame. So I wouldn't worry a whole lot about it. The anxiety stems from the fact that e-mail communications take time, and now that you sent that one you are basically just waiting and wondering what she is thinking. She may be kind enough to e-mail you back, which would put your mind at ease. But if she does not, I would recommend confidently calling her just as you said you would. She will appreciate your interest in her, and that you are a man of your word.
In the mean time, keep your cool - which means do not call her prematurely or send her any more e-mails. That would likely scare her away. Your one e-mail was perfect - leave it at that!
Best of luck.
2006-08-19 09:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by www.ayntk.blogspot.com 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she responds positively then you you shouldn't worry.
If you receive no response at all I would suggest you be a little more patient and wait it out. Refrain from calling her on Monday but obviously don't wait TOO long because then she may perceive your inaction as a bad thing. I think your main fear is that she perceives you as a needy or a pushy person. Your e-mail was far from that so don't worry. You basically just need to play it cool and take things slow with her. Broach the subject of another date very smoothly and casually. If she denies you again with another excuse then maybe she truly isn't interested. Regardless, if it turns out she's not interested then take it in stride and move on.
2006-08-19 09:56:10 · answer #3 · answered by larceny'sghost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't email anymore until Monday that's for sure. You don't want to sound desperate. I would of waited to send the email, but it's sent and there isn't anything you can do about it. So, don't worry about it. I don't think you have scared her off or anything, it was just a nice short email. I wouldn't tell her how much you like just yet, I'd wait till a few more dates. You should be good, and good luck with Monday.
2006-08-19 09:46:19 · answer #4 · answered by Supa M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not be honest with her? I hate when guys play games or by "the rules". What rules? Anyway, any relationship is based on honesty, so if there is some sort of relationship around the corner, just be honest.
Besides, you weren't confessing your undying love of her! You just told her to have a nice weekend.
To be on the safe side, I wouldn't call her anymore until you said you were going to call her Monday. I wouldn't contact her till then, just to give her space.
When you do call her on Monday, if she doesn't answer or doesn't call you back then I would take the hint.
GOOD LUCK
2006-08-19 09:54:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U don't sound over-eager 2 me, relax. U sound genuine & sincere.
If I'd got that email ( & was Single ) I'd B over the Moon that U took the time 2 send it.
Try not 2 worry 2 much about it.
She'll reply & U'll C it wasn't anything 2 worry about.
Relax & await Monday evening.
:)
2006-08-19 09:49:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
By the way they e-mail sounds, it makes you seem desperate. She'll probably hesitate going out with you again but you still have a chance. Stop worrying about the e-mail and don't say anything about till she brings it up. If she does, then tell her you really like her (not to much) and regret the e-mail you sent. It was just a moment of weakness. She'll understand and like you even more for being so honest about yourself.
2006-08-19 09:47:48 · answer #7 · answered by roseyroses14 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
keep it in mind the most beautiful thing in this world for a gurl is the guy who she likes him he loves her alot . don't know y guyz alwayz wants to prove that they are not interested in gurls and by any chance they are hangin around , but for now u don't need to send her an email for the time being let's see what is going to do...reply u back or call u or what if she didn't just move on
2006-08-19 09:47:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its always cool to be honest but to land the girl you like it takes patience. You should have waited till Monday but if she replies than I think your good.
2006-08-19 09:46:47 · answer #9 · answered by STEVE-0 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just think about this: maybe she is feeling exactly the same way like you are, so imagine how happy she will be after reading your email and knowing that you like her that much?
2006-08-19 09:48:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋